It's always extraordinarily refreshing to head here for a dose of reality when you can literally type your question in and see the truth post after post after post... Here it goes. Ready to get doused in it. 1) Girl and I meet and easily take her home that night (wooh, yay). Passed out, hooked up in the morning, got her number when I dropped her off just in case. 2) Didn't care much, didnt think of it. Decided to pay around and hit her up one night, and decided I would "maybe" meet her out. Banged that night. Then went on to bang in succession for a week straight (as you can imagine, a rush of endorphins I hadn't had for a long time were kicking in). 3) Midway through that week--found out I was accepted to a start up accelerator program (I have a small, lean start up and rarely go out or pursue pussy as much as I should. Swipe a lot on tinder, but that is distracting for me too). Temporarily moved to a city (7hr drive away, 1 hour flight), and assure her I'd be moving back at the end of the program. 4) Yes, I get extremely sad, and probably attached to the situation; not sure how to handle it. She, of course, blows me the fuck up for the next couple of weeks, constant facetime, obsessive texting, all positive things about me and us...leading me to believe something is there. 5) I decide to take the approach for the first time in a while that I would just give her my attention for potential SO, and decide not to scope around much in my new city. I'm busy with this program and feel I have something going on which is more than what I typically allow to happen in my life, so I roll with it--knowing well she is probably talking to other guys, and to give her some time. Not to mention, this is a SMALL midwest city with lackluster amount of hot girls (saw maybe 3 in 5 months total). NATURE OF RELATIONSHIP Constant, and I mean constant texting all coming from her. Did I reply? Yes. Did I try and game as best I could and back off appropriately and let her do most of the initiation, yes I did. It worked. Incessant facetiming every night, texting often. And hey, it was enjoyable. --We planned on when I would come back down, which was 6 weeks after I had been gone...Then, things picked up even more so for the rest of the program, total of 4 months after that.---I visited a few times, met her parents, flew to her sister's wedding--she split pretty much every meal in half--so I'm not completely wallowing away my $$ here.

NOW

Past month or so I'm feeling fairly annoyed with things, as I think she is feeling similar in a way. Work is picking up in a great way, I'm loving life, loving me, loving working non-stop. She does what presumably all girls do, they go in circles about everything and anything. About half-way point she starts talking about how she's not sure if she's ready for a relationship, likes things the way they are. Her claim is that she was in a terrible relationship last fall/winter and finally started feeling like herself when she was single, and was scared of getting hurt and scared of fucking that up. I understood it all and played it cool.

MindState:This whole time I never brought up exclusivity, and even encouraged her to "go find a nice boy" as I'm confident in myself. The entire time she said "no, no, I don't want anyone else." I took this approach for various reasons. To test my will power, based on the advice of men and women friends, etc. Many said I should have gone for exclusivity at some point, and now I'm starting to agree.

NOW So I moved back about two weeks ago. We hang out a bit, spent my birthday together and got into a fight, spent her birthday together and were starting to get into a fight. I'm a huge stickler for not dealing with girls' bullshit, so at her group birthday dinner she was being a cunt to me, and so I just got up, left, and partied with my boys at the bar. Wake up to a bunch of texts saying "I haven't been exclusive the whole time--how could you leave my birthday, etc." I wake up on my buddy's couch the next AM and see the texts again and call her, and she lied and said she was at someone else's house, trying to pretend she hooked up with someone---then later told me she didn't, and proved it too. She wanted to lie to hurt me. She texted me in the AM when we were fighting and said she had hooked up with 2 guys, one at home and one on vacation during the first 6 weeks we were talking.

I go over to her place yesterday to talk and calmly asked her to tell me the truth and she admitted it was in fact 3 guys during that time period. That seems like a lot to me....

She wants to move forward as a couple finally, and I think I do, and know that I can't be technically mad because we never agreed to being exclusive, however I am certainly put off that she hooked up with that many dudes in that short of a timespan.

Thoughts? And Thank you gentlemen!

tl;dr version. I am long distance talking to a girl, incessantly and certainly led on to believe there is a future together, and fast forward 6 months I find out that the first 6 weeks we were talking she hooked up with 3 other dudes. Seems like a lot in a short window to me, and so I lack trust to move forward. Thoughts ?!