Hi guys. I'm a 29F dating a 35M. We are attracted to each other. 3 weeks into dating, we decided to have sex however, the sex wasn't pleasurable for me. He had trouble entering, did not last too long, was extremely gentle, and did not finish me. This caused an extremely unexpected reaction in me - I had flashbacks of my last relationship where the sex was great, and as a result shut down for a bit, making it very awkward for the both of us.

I told him something was off and missing and that we'd need to work on our sex lives however I'm engulfed by fear way this point. While he's promised to get it right the next time, I'm just unsure if our preferences are totally off and if this can truly be worked on. I've experienced euphoria after great sex in the past that has truly fostered intimacy and closeness with my partner and thus always viewed sex to 'help' get close to my partner. Not sure how can I live with bad sex, and this is making me anxious.

Thanks a bunch xx