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[–]TheeRyanGrey 10 points11 points12 points 12 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Jiveraffe, stick with me for a second because, I think if I draw this out just a tad, the answer will come to you quite easily. You go to a party girl invited you to. Girl makes out with you then makes out with someone else later on without even trying to hide it.
The 2 options you're going with are "Fuck You" or Absolute Silence. Ask yourself: Why would you say fuck you? What would that accomplish? A
Are you trying to let her know how upset she has made you? If this slut has really gotten that many of your emotions from a make out then you're already too far gone.
And why do you care if she knows how upset she's made you? Do you want an apology? Apologies are only good if you plan on seeing a woman again and are trying to correct bad behavior. Who in their right mind would see this woman again?
Are you trying to hurt her feelings? Saying "Fuck You" is giving her emotion, time, drama, and attention, women's 4 favorite things. How is this punishment?
The opposite of love isn't hate, it's apathy. Nothing hurts women more than being completely ignored.
[–]MTLSNowman 0 points0 points0 points 12 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Agreed but I would caveat on this, you're not looking to hurt this girl. Just like ThreeRyanGrey mentioned. You shouldn't be even that much invested in her until she shows you she's even worthy of such attention. Even though it might not be true you should always keep in mind that you DO have other options, other plates to spin. Other hobbies to keep you occupied.
So your mind set should be like this particular flavor of ice cream is unavailable, you don't get pissed at the ice cream man 'cause he's out of rocky road. I'll just go to the next store to get what I want or hell just go for vanilla.
If this girl texts you with something like "Sorry I left you in the middle of the party last night" wait for an appropriate amount of time if you find yourself waiting on her message (which you shouldn't be technically but sometimes can't help it) and reply back saying "TBH I didn't even notice you left, too busy enjoying the party!"
[–]TheeRyanGrey 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
They're not out of ice cream, the ice cream flavor is completely unpalatable. She is the rum raisin of ice creams.
If she texts you pretend she didn't
[–]MTLSNowman -1 points-1 points-1 points 12 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
I see it this way, judgement value on this girl creates negative emotional value any way you spin it. Stay zen.
[–]TheeRyanGrey 4 points5 points6 points 12 years ago [recovered] (0 children) | Copy Link
she invited him to a party
kissed him
then kissed another dude
judgment is already out: she sucks
[–]phaseonx113 points4 points5 points 12 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Radio silence. You punish behaviors you like, you reward behaviors you don't. Your attention is the reward for good behavior. Correct me if I'm wrong, but did it seem like she did it in a way in which is was inescapable for you to see it? If this is the case. #1 It's probably a shit test #2 Do not play into her game
Edit: Talk to other girls. That is something you should def be doing as well.
PS: This should be in /r/asktrp
[–]beachbum783 points4 points5 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Radio silence. She fucked up. Don't reward her behavior with your time.
[–]seancj1332 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ignore contact, rub one out, and go to bed to fight another day. If you talk to her tonight after what happened then you lose points in her subconscious. Things like this happen in life when you're with girls and it's nothing to be ashamed of. It's important to focus on the war and not all of the battles that you win or lose with women.
[–]kudosxv1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
"Fuck that bitch". Just say it until you feel it.
[–]rp_manifesto1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hah. I do this. It works!
[–]frequentlywrong-3 points-2 points-1 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don't quite understand. How long were you seeing this girl before going to the party? Why is she inviting you? You are the guy, you need to LEAD. You don't accept dates from women, they accept dates from you. At least until you are in a relationship.
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