What To Do???

GTFO_Lmao · 2020-12-30T17:22:37+00:00

Wanting revenge on a ex? Cringe. Don’t do that. Stop giving a F about your ex and move on. Getting revenge only solidifies that you are a emotional beta.

YouSaidChicken · 2020-12-30T16:44:25+00:00

One being wanting to get revenge for the wrong that was done to me by an ex and those that claimed to be my friend.

Give that up entirely. If you want to do that, do it a decade from now, long after it's forgotten.

You will not be feared, you will not be a man, you'll be a sad little boy, but at least delaying it takes the heat off you.

For number two it's the sense of not belonging in the world a self loathing attitude that I always had but my ex made it worse.

No one "belongs", you just are. Enjoy life, or don't, it's your choice. I'd recommend going on adventures and having fun. It's much easier without some woman being carted around.

What should you do with yourself? Whatever you want. You have an entire planet filled with people and cultures to explore if you want.

BobbingForBunions · 2020-12-30T18:38:04+00:00

Forget revenge. It has a very low ROI. Waste of time and effort.

Focus on improving yourself. That'll pay dividends over a lifetime.

cleats4u · 2020-12-30T17:54:23+00:00

The best revenge is...to lead a better life.

Solo_and_Simple · 2020-12-30T19:57:59+00:00

I'd suggest keeping the focus on what you can learn from this. How can you grow? What do you need to learn? How can you learn it? Use your energies to make this experience work for you, rather than against you.

In order to do that, you'll first need to detach from vengefulness and resentment. I forget who said it, but resentment is like preparing a poison for your enemy, then drinking it yourself. The only one it hurts is you. And it hurts you over and over ("re-sentiment," meaning feeling the same anger/hate over and over).

It's corny, but learn to forgive. If you can't forgive, at least learn to let it go. Here are a couple of thoughts that might help (or might not, I don't know):

Everyone gets hurt. Everyone gets shit on sometime in life. You're no different. Why should you be exempt? I don't mean to poke at you when you're down, but don't think you're alone in your plight. Everyone gets run over sometimes. It's just life. If this is the first time you've been fucked over, rest assured, it won't be your last.
Use this as an opportunity to learn and grow. That's the whole point of life. If you can learn and grow from this, then you've won, no matter what the outcome.
Feel sorry for them. I am guessing they are rather pitiable people, without much of a moral compass or sense of meaning/purpose in life.
What goes around comes around. They'll get theirs eventually. You don't have to worry about handing out justice yourself. Things have a way of working themselves out, one way or another. Karma's a bitch and will get them in the end.
There's a relationship between thoughts of resentment and depression. The more you indulge resentful thoughts, the more depressed you will get. So for your own sake, let those thoughts go.

prove_this · 2020-12-30T17:17:35+00:00

Meditation will help empty the pain of (1). It won't heal the actual wound. Learn how to meditate, you can research that online.

Part two makes you sound spiritually dead; either attach to yourself (good); other people (bad); or to a higher ideal. You need to walk more paths in life if you can't find anything interesting. Go travelling.

2020-12-30T17:38:01+00:00

To the first focus on you your growth and success with what ever you value. As for belonging that goes with focus on your goals you will fing people along the path you want be on of a like mind. This is the way

chalchium · 2020-12-30T18:30:36+00:00

One being wanting to get revenge for the wrong that was done to me by an ex and those that claimed to be my friend.

Kind of vague. If it falls under defamation or monetary loss then you should seek a lawyer to sue for damages. Otherwise, forget it and move on with life. You would hardly remember it ten years later, especially if you need catching up on your career.

For number two it's the sense of not belonging in the world.

Relatable. I have never being in any social groups ever since I entered university. I don't even feel I belong to my family. No groups wanted me. I tried all my best, but nobody seemed reciprocal. Do I suck at personal skills? I thought so. So I tried many psychiatrists and attended many courses, but still the same. Now I can safely say at least I tried. You would get past that once you reach 30, when most of your "acquaintances" got their heads stuck into a tiny hole called "families". Pick up a hobby and do some volunteering work, some socialization doesn't hurt. Outside that, keep a few "smart" contacts for information. Hanging out in small gangs are for teenagers. You should treasure them if you still have them, but forget about it if you don't.

cz_masterrace · 2020-12-30T20:27:58+00:00

Revenge means you're thinking of her. Go live a good life - that's the best "revenge" you could ever get. Stop giving her the power of still having control of your mind. For your second bit - start doing things to improve yourself. Go for long walks, pick up a side hustle, take up new hobbies. I'm sure there were moments you felt suffocation in your relationship - now is the time to refocus on yourself.

Title	What To Do???
Author	use2losing
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Comments	9
Date	December 30, 2020 4:38 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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