Sex - why am I turned off by the fact that a girl has had a sexual partner before me (the more of them, the bigger turn off)?

nonthaki · 2017-01-14T10:12:20+00:00

Too many girls acting as boys, encroaching this thread .

awayofthought · 2017-01-14T13:07:16+00:00

Biologically and evolutionary it is to do with the idea that males do not want to spend resources raising a child that is not their own.

Women always know that they are the mother but men cannot know this for sure so we are repulsed by the idea that it might be another mans child.

JackGetsIt · 2017-01-14T14:49:11+00:00

The fact that you have to ask this question is the result of feminist indoctrination and propaganda. It's a wild world out there with a lots and I mean LOTS of bullshit information.

Having aversion to high N count women is completely natural. Throughout history if the mate you took was a verifiable virgin you were guaranteed that the offspring would be yours. [of course: medically not all women have hymens, or have partially hymens or lose them naturally or accidentally before first intercourse. Before medicine caught up and made this common knowledge this probably really hurt a lot of women in strict cultures as men could accuse them promiscuity before marriage which was a big no no in most societies.].

Men want women that will bear 'their' biological children and only theirs. When birth control became a thing in the 60's and more women were also in the working world society had a problem: women could use their vagina's more effectively. Their privates became even more weaponized. Before birth control most women took a huge risk in having multiple partners because they could be shamed and saddled with a child without a man to care for it. The two sexual mating strategies were equalized. But after the birth control revolution marriage got decoupled from taking possession of a virgin. I think it's important to note that men through history have married high n-count women, fathered out of wedlock children, married women that couldn't have children and those men and society were find with it but everyone admitted it wasn't ideal. Youthful virgin is just the ideal and feminism has attempted to shame men that want the ideal because it's natural for women to attempt to manipulate men. It's basically their only tool. [IN GENERAL] women don't build things in society. They have children and manipulate men. If feminism can successfully get you to go against your natural urges and attractions then it raises the value on women that have slept around and aged passed their prime. This is very important: The two sexual strategies oppose one another.

Please read the side bar in the future before posting. Devlin's Sexual Utopia in Power does a much better job of describing this entire issue.

askmrcia · 2017-01-14T14:21:37+00:00

I'm the same way, which is one of many reasons why I will never get married. I just don't believe that I as a man who worked so hard to get the things that I accomplished in life and who worked hard to get that woman to commit to me monogamously should marry that woman where other guys got the same thing I'm getting for free.

As far as causal relationships (which is all I do now), I could care less how many men the woman slept with as long as she doesn't give me a STD.

quicklogaccount · 2017-01-14T14:18:20+00:00

I suppose this question doesn't have a consensual answer in TRP.

My take on it is this.

Objectively speaking her pussy is less valuable than less used pussies because she made it less accessible. Whether her pussy is worth it or not, she made it harder to get.
Whether you admit it or not, you're interacting with women primarily for their pussies now. That's the goal that makes you put the biggest effort.
What boils down from both is, when you tell yourself you're pursuing her other traits, you're lying. You want the pussy. Paying for whatever other traits she sells you along with it feels like overpaying for you, but you just notice it if the pussy itself isn't very valuable. Chances are you'll be frustrated with virgins and low n-count women, and won't be able to pinpoint why. The reason will be you overpaid for sex.

sonder_one · 2017-01-15T05:06:02+00:00

Having past partners changes women in ways that it does not change men. The instinct to detest them is rooted in real degradation of their relationship value. Even if you're not looking for a relationship, the instinct is part of you.

monkeyshmonkey · 2017-01-14T10:44:28+00:00

You're so young that you think the wet hole between a girls' legs is a special, mystical place with unicorns dancing around it. But if other naughty boys have defiled her innocence/chastity/holy secret, she is suddenly unworthy in your eyes. Disney bullshit.

Every girl has the same basic anatomy.

Forget about n-count, because all women lie. All men lie too. It's an imaginary number. Virgins are actually usually more trouble than they're worth. Sluts can be fun, but you have to be able to identify and respond appropriately to a slut without needing such an esoteric variable as reported sex partner count.

The older you get the more you'll realize there's nothing special about sex. your stiff bit rubs her soft wet bits. That's it.

You're putting the pussy on a pedestal. That's the opposite of what TRP teaches.

oldredder · 2017-01-14T21:11:30+00:00

Sounds like insecurity.

f Im pursuing the girl which I attracts me ONLY physically, I dont care about her sexual partners.

Still insecurity: this means you value that woman far less

addwater · 2017-01-15T10:34:34+00:00

Because nobody likes a shitty lock.

fcb98292 · 2017-01-15T15:17:17+00:00

She is never yours. It's just your turn.

Willow-girl · 2017-01-14T14:46:06+00:00

Who cares what the reason is? Does a man question why he prefers blondes to brunettes, or C-cup breasts to A-cups? Or the other way around? Everyone has personal preferences. Go out and find partner(s) who align with your preferences.

Tyler_Gatsby · 2017-01-14T15:55:31+00:00

Maybe it's just your personal taste, and I'm an asshole for seeing every guy who says this as basically just admitting they suck in bed, and are looking for ways to justify it, instead of improving their in the sack game.

ultimatewpierdol · 2017-01-14T14:47:05+00:00

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Madonna%E2%80%93whore_complex

Title	Sex - why am I turned off by the fact that a girl has had a sexual partner before me (the more of them, the bigger turn off)?
Author	monkeyshmonkey
Upvotes	6
Comments	57
Date	January 14, 2017 9:49 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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