Thinking about it

GrayCalf · 2021-06-16T16:18:00+00:00

I always suggest a lawyer. I had an amicable divorce that took about a month. Even then I had a lawyer to review everything, notarize documents, and represent me in court. It cost about $4000 and was absolutely worth it.

dday_throwaway3 · 2021-06-16T16:32:16+00:00

> it’s mainly a me issue

Do you know what gaslighting is?

> Do I even need to get a lawyer in my situation?

Yes. Divorce is not the time to DIY.

No_more_BPD_2020 · 2021-06-17T21:39:38+00:00

Many people, myself included, start this out thinking we can save money by doing this ourselves. The hiccups are emotions are involved, and a lot of pitfalls for the unwary. I read divorces begin amicably but don't end that way(mine took 1.5 years, plenty of time for feelings to change). The lawyers know all the rules to the very confusing game of divorce, and if you accidently break them, you can be completely up a creek in the worst way. I thought it would be one simple filing in my state, and boy was I wrong. Lots of papers had to be circulated, and in the end, due to complications of the court working during Covid, my paperwork got held up and we had to have a hearing. I had to testify, and thank heaven my attorney was there to talk to the judge, because I was asked questions that made no sense to me.

Divorces can be re-opened if there are different types of mistakes made. Mine is rock-solid, so I'm told. I don't want this thing coming back to haunt me in 10 years, so I sleep better at night knowing it was all done correctly(I sure hope).

It sucks to pay a lawyer, but it sure was worth it to me.

Title	Thinking about it
Author	hagerfor000
Upvotes	4
Comments	9
Date	June 16, 2021 4:10 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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