How to have courage?

fcb98292 · 2017-01-31T12:21:55+00:00

Courage is doing the right thing even when it scares you.

And... don't stick your dick in crazy.

SkorchZang · 2017-01-31T17:59:01+00:00

Nobody has courage in the beginning. It's miserable at first.

Courage is often thought of as something related to a man's character or moral fibre. This is kinda off the mark, it gives you a wrongheaded view on it, so you feel inadequate for not having courage, since you think "I guess I just wasn't born with it then". No one was born with it.

Courage in reality is like a drug high, or that state african warriors go into when they do their war-dance. In other words, it's always fake. It's always temporary. It's always a kind of reckless wacked-out frenzy madness that you let yourself slip into on purpose.

Another good way to see courage is to realize it's massively akin to trolling. Courageousness is nothing but the willingness to troll the hell out of your own self and others, for sick kicks and scary highs.

Watch this - typical male courage, nothing moral or "positive" about it, but fuck it's fun!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kl-PPMcrKgQ

Whiteouter · 2017-01-31T17:13:45+00:00

Realize that in a very short time, you are going to be old, broken, wasted... all your possesions will be regrets from the countless of ocassions you missed, and you will WISH you have died many, many years before, so that you woudl'nt have to bear the shame of your current existence.

Then remember, that you can infact avoid this future by stopping to care so much about being alive and unhurt. After all, what is a little pain? You are hurting all the time from your unfullfilled dreams. What is dying? You are dead inside anyways.

And then you might find out, that the things you were so afraid of, simply because you didn't want to get hurt, are actually not nearly as dangerous as you tought. And then, there is no need for courage, for there is no fear.

Aaren_Augustine · 2017-01-31T10:47:10+00:00

I care too much.

You care what other's think because you think so little of yourself. So you hope other's will fill that void.

being accepted by a girl I find attractive is the most important thing in my life

My above explanation is why guys tend to get Oneitis.

So I don't want to fail

Failure is growth. You'd know that if you lifted heavy. You'd have less "weak" feelings with a higher amount of testosterone in your blood stream as well.

A little fucked up mind but I'll try somethings tomorrow nevertheless

My fucking saying for 20 years. Being manic, it was always something I would "do tomorrow".

What lifting routine are you doing?

ShittyPersonality17 · 2017-01-31T10:35:46+00:00

I believe it's not as much about courage as it is about fear of rejection and being judged by others.

The only way out is through, you have to desensitise yourself to that fear. What I would suggest as a first step is to approach people (not just women) somewhere where you actually have something in common to talk about (game, dance class, gym, ...), then later on cold approaching when you're ready.

Cunt_Robber · 2017-01-31T17:12:01+00:00

Confidence. You sound full of self-doubt and low self-esteem. You dont need to start fights with other guys to prove your strength or your value. What you need to do is step up to the challenge of living your life the way you want to, and succeeding.

Yes, you will get rejected. It is an unpleasant result and can possibly harm you psychologically. But, just like lifting the same weight becomes easier with more practice, the harm you feel from rejection fades. If you keep doing it, eventually you will stop giving a fuck about the results. You will train your mind to be "outcome independent." This is a beautiful state of mind where you gain confidence simply because you don't care what happens as a result.

We all start somewhere so dont be hard on yourself. First time I asked a girl out I went up to her and couldn't speak, thats how nervous I was. I stood there in front of her and eventually mumbled some shit about how Id like to see a movie with her. She looked at me like I was retarded and walked away. At the time that was very painful but now I laugh about it. Things take practice man, so go easy on yourself with this alright?

stonepimpletilists · 2017-01-31T18:44:14+00:00

Youre putting manhood on a pedestal. Go fail and get better, stop thinking.

Stop thinking, start doing. Lift a little heavier tomorrow, test a boundary thursday, after a year, look back and review.

newguy889 · 2017-01-31T19:27:58+00:00

The biggest thing to help me lately was realizing that I'm not going to get anywhere if I don't have the experience.

I'm not saying to rely on experience, but with increased experience comes decreased anxiety.

In other words, the ones that say something like, "the more times you get rejected, the easier the next approach will be" are on to something. It's not bullshit, and respecting that concept will do you a great deal in the long run. Just gotta get over the early stages of approaching.

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