My wife served me papers 1 month ago. We are trying to be cordial to each other. We have a teenaged child and adult child that live with us. She said she wants to keep it amicable for the kids’ sake. What about keeping amicable because we have been together for close to 30 years? We sometimes go out to dinner or watch TV and movies as a family. We laugh and joke like everything is fine. She talks to me about her job and her day. She discusses her future like like where she wants to live once everything is done (divorce and sale of home) like it is no big deal. She has gone away for long weekends with her female friend and respective daughters. Sometimes she invites me and my son to stop by. Some friends say don’t do all these things with her because you need to heal. Part of me thinks we are going to get back together. She looks more beautiful to me now. Some friends think I should move out of the family home. Some friends think keep fighting for your marriage although a lot damage has been done and it is a slim chance of turning around. My wife stands to do well financially from the divorce. Part of me wants to keep it amicable so she does not take me to the cleaners. Maybe this won’t make a difference. I know things will get heated when we start negotiating and we get into money. Unfortunately, I don’t have much of an independent life. All my free time was for my family and my few friends are married with kids. Some friends say that I should dress up and go out to show my wife that I’m ok without her and to keep her guessing. I’m really angry and disappointed inside. Her reasons for leaving are pretty lame (certain that there is no other man just influential friends). What do you think?