My LTR of 8 months went out of apartment on air crying

Archwinger · 2017-02-05T17:28:37+00:00

Idiot. You can't change a girl. All this shit does is tell her what she needs to hide or lie about, how she can get to you, and how weak and insecure you are.

What you should have done is not LTR a flirt. Fuck only. You're already negotiating from a position of scarcity. She knows you suck and have limited options precisely because you LTRed her.

If you were actually worth a shit, you wouldn't have to tell her to quit hanging out with other guys. She'd have done that on her own because she prefers your company and doesn't want to risk screwing things up with an awesome boyfriend.

You know how your female 'friends' always seem to flake and vanish on you when they have a new badass boyfriend? That's what your girlfriend would have done to her guy friends if you were awesome.

Instead, she's continuing to troll for attention and other options. She probably won't fuck a guy friend, just a friend of a friend she meets while out with them.

[deleted] · 2017-02-05T15:32:31+00:00

Be logical and don't fall for the tears

If she doesn't like the boundaries you set, she evidently knows where the door is

grody311 · 2017-02-05T16:26:37+00:00

Boundaries set at the start of the relationship are one thing. Boundaries that have suddenly moved now that she's in a vulnerable place (she lives with you) are much different.

Gut feeling here is that moving your relationship in this direction will not make you happier, but I'll let more experienced red pillers chime in.

FrameWalker · 2017-02-05T18:23:41+00:00

Think of the pain men experience when they unplug. Your LTR is not unplugged. If you communicate TRP principles out loud she will immediately be in denial, think of you as a pyscho, and then become anxious and likely angry.

If you communicate overtly you will drive her hamster nuts. She's bluepill. You don't argue with bluepill. Communicating covertly is the best way forward. Don't argue, just STFU and act. If she hangs out with guys one on one, you immediately setup a "date" with a "friend" where you hang out one on one. Repeat until you're spinning plates, or she changes her behavior.

sd4c · 2017-02-05T18:40:23+00:00

You need to raise your SMV, a lot, and fast. Best bet is to leave the house at random times, for random intervals. While away don't call or text. When she bothers about this, simply say "I'm not a slave to my phone like a girl." And refuse further discussion.

While out from your joint home, lift. Read. Take naps. Hang out with your friends for bro time. Make some extra cash. Do whatever you have to to raise your SMV objectively (learning, getting yoked, networking) and subjectively to the gf (dread game), at the same time.

[deleted] · 2017-02-05T17:41:22+00:00

You do sound insecure and controlling

If she quit hanging out with her guy friends the way archwinger says, then great. If not, then you can't control her 24/7

You're supposed to be a redpiller. Are the guys she's friends with even a threat? Because when acting like this your behaviour is certainly telling your girl that you feel threatened by them. If some of them flirted with her behind your back, and she came and told you - instead of showing your insecurity you could rather suggest they go on a date. If she does you know what to do, if she don't, then great

satorben · 2017-02-06T00:05:28+00:00

Lol, this joint is amazingly RP. I'm RP but not with the Mrs. There's respect and high expectations but done much more subtly. You're being hamfisted about it. If she's worth it i.e. wife material -heaven forbid saying it on this forum- then you need to compromise. Something our fellow RPers don't seem to get is that good quality girls are bloody rare. They keep on saying AWAL or using the abundance argument. There's a huge difference between a walking vagina and a high functioning wife/mother material individual.

BTW, your demand is moderately unreasonable. Of course guys want to fuck her, she's hot and awesome. But she only wants to fuck you! That's a very important difference.

quicklogaccount · 2017-02-05T17:24:37+00:00

I told her my boundaries about that it's not acceptable for me for her to think about a guys as a friends(and seeing them even with me together, by knowing guys only want to fuck her anyway), when she is with me in ltr.

The right way to handle this is non verbally. Get a couple flirty slutty friends that make her feel threatened and/or withdraw affection when she does it.

This is hard to do. By talking, you've exchanged attraction (which has lowered) for the boundary. I'd look into raising attraction, but depending on how you talked and how she'll understand it ("Insecure and Controlling" is never good) it might have been a hell of a nuke in attraction. I'd look into increasing it now, either way.

[deleted] · 2017-02-05T20:24:21+00:00

Lmao your relationship is over. Start looking for a new place

GeorgeWallace1968 · 2017-02-05T21:20:53+00:00

Ghost

NYLON_G · 2017-02-06T00:35:34+00:00

Maintain your frame or become a beta. Your call. If she can shit on you now, she will deffo shit on you later. Why the oneitis BTW?

LordThunderbolt · 2017-02-06T01:02:15+00:00

There doesn't need to be 7 red flags to know she's not LTR material. Just one is good enough to vet her out.

You ARE trying to change her, she will resent u for it. Cut your losses and breakup with her.

satorben · 2017-02-07T08:32:00+00:00

I think you need to be careful when asking questions on the TRP family of sub-reddits. Everyone is extremely confident, but you need to realise that it's not necessarily correlated with competence. i.e. just because they talk a lot and loudly does not make them right =D

Title	My LTR of 8 months went out of apartment on air crying
Author	fakeplastictrees87
Upvotes	8
Comments	30
Date	February 5, 2017 3:17 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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