Men Share The Moment They Were Finally Vulnerable And Were Made To Regret It Instantly - This Is Why I’m Single

Ody_ssey · 2021-07-20T16:18:15+00:00

"I went to therapy and my therapist advised me to let down my guard to my girlfriend. She lost all attraction to me, shared my issues with her whole friend group for 'their support,' and then broke up with me. Life will teach you lessons the hard way whenever possible."

It sounds like she just wasn't the right match for him. Men also need to release their feelings. Otherwise, they bottle them up and they come out in unhealthy ways.

Men handle their emotions way different from women. Men go to gym, play sports, watch sports, play video games, go to drive, travel, etc. wheras women open up their feelings to each other, they also cry, travel, shopping, etc.

This is why women advise men to open up and cry because women view men from the lens of women so they think it will work for men too. In reality it's an instant turn off and become a laughing factor. "Man up" and "man flu" are the most common slurs used against men who express their vulnerabilities, that's because a vulnerable men are not considered as "future safe" which becomes a major factor of break up.

Men do share their emotions with their closest male friend because men view men from the lens of men. Most men aren't comfortable with expressing their emotions with women because that quickly backfires outside of relationship. This has been labelled as toxic masculinity thing by the vocal majority and men are falling for this trap.

TerminusStop · 2021-07-20T17:40:10+00:00

It's only safe to open up to your male friends.

ImportantResults · 2021-07-20T17:00:57+00:00

Maybe if men were vulnerable from the start, then it wouldn't come as a shock later in the relationship.

Wait, what relationship? lol

Kaputz77 · 2021-07-20T18:04:32+00:00

Tell me about it... I opened up to my now ex girlfriend about my stress relative to my mom being diagnosed with cancer, my ex wife trying to prevent me from seeing my kids after I went away to help care for my dying mom (covid restrictions) and within weeks she was cheating on me. She said I was weak and insecure. No... I chose to confide in the one person I felt safe with and it was used against me instead. It ruined a 2 year relationship that was supposed to turn into a family of 7 of us. Fortunately karma is a bitch and she has had nothing but awful relationships and personal strife since then. The only birthday card I got this year was from my exes parents and her best friends still talk to me. But what a joke dudes... trust me. Eat your feelings and confide in anyone else about your worries or she will turf you.

Title	Men Share The Moment They Were Finally Vulnerable And Were Made To Regret It Instantly - This Is Why I’m Single
Author	Cordero_Biggs
Upvotes	9
Comments	6
Date	July 20, 2021 3:13 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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