It’s really frustrating

ARX7 · 2021-07-06T18:12:47+00:00

Well anybody remember the Australian middle school incident from a few months ago where preteen boys were forced to apologize to their female classmates simply for their gender and all crimes that occurred due to their gender, crimes they have never even thought about doing?

TheBlueGhost21 · 2021-07-06T16:51:36+00:00

I remember when we went on a camping trip there were only one room of toilets available, girls got to use it and guys had to shit and piss out in the woods, ridiculous.

McFeely_Smackup · 2021-07-06T18:43:18+00:00

when I was graduating high school, we had an assembly where the guidance councilor was announcing college scholarship awards. Scholarship after scholarship were announced...all going to the same female student. it got to be ridiculous as this girl kept getting up from her seat and walking up to the podium. people started chanting "just...stay...there".

she was a good student and popular, but not valedictorian for the class so there was no real explanation. Later found out the guidance councilor had picked her as the person she was going to submit for every possible scholarship.

The ironic part is my mother had told me earlier in the year to go in to see her to ask about what scholarships I could apply for, and she didn't even pause before saying "there really isn't any".

and the punchline was this girl never attended college. all those awards, from a few hundred to thousands of dollars, all went wasted.

Holy_Salsa · 2021-07-06T19:21:34+00:00

Nursing school.. I was a tutor and all of the students I tutored passed with A's.... my nursing ethics professor sang and harped how nursing is a field more for women and caregivers... I somehow failed a test by .01 which brought my overall grade to a 75.99 which is cause to be removed from the program... I got 83-87 in my other courses... being a guy when I reported her, they laughed it off and said there was no evidence of that... 1 other guy in the program, failed her course, retook it with another professor, passed... but I had no evidence..

reddut_gang · 2021-07-06T19:21:16+00:00

and yet nobody will talk about that, because it doesn't fit the narrative

JuJvert · 2021-07-06T18:42:43+00:00

I haven’t met 1 male of my age that hasn’t experienced it literally every school day (Germany). I remember a lot of time where I compared my exams with the ones from my female friends - our arguments and quotations (in the exam) were almost every time identical yet I and every other male was a 3 (C) and the girls regularly had 1&2 (A&B). In PE every male got a 2 (B) or less and every female got an A. Most didn’t even do the bare minimum. Art was the worst of all, in our final exam I build a ,school of future‘ with a 3 site long concept paper and so on and didn’t pass (5 -> F)/every other male had equally bad grades. A girl took an empty milk bottle drew 10 windows on it and wrote a half a paper long concept about her ,tower‘ being the school of the future the opening of the bottle being a telescope.. and she got a 1 (A).

I could write a book about my experiences there - literally every week we had at least 1 incident like this.

RanchyVegbutts · 2021-07-06T18:58:12+00:00

Yep had a few female teachers, catholic school, who.would let the girls get away with anything. A boys did the same exact thing, detention.

Time_Charity4286 · 2021-07-06T19:44:27+00:00

The world loves women

YourFavouriteGuy · 2021-07-07T01:46:59+00:00

https://www.thecollegefix.com/92-percent-of-sex-specific-scholarships-are-reserved-for-women-study-finds/

Most sex specific scholarships are for women only

https://www.usnews.com/news/articles/2016-06-22/boys-bear-the-brunt-of-school-discipline

Boys get disciplined more for the same behaviour

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/wonk/wp/2016/01/28/the-serious-reason-boys-do-worse-than-girls/

Some data analysis examining why boys, on average, do worse at school.

Again, this doesn't stop men from getting the majority of SAT scores in the top 10 percent or top 1 percent. But it doesn't elevate us either.

Bowlnk · 2021-07-06T14:34:55+00:00

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SHINSEGA · 2021-07-06T18:32:44+00:00

Oh all the time. I'll share one story with you guys here.

Highschool shop class, we had to build aero dynamic vehicles that we would let slide down a cord. Every group got a turn. It was quite gedo as the kids say today. two people would hold up the cord on one end and hold it down on the other end. Of course two of the people holding the cord were both girls. Anytime a girl was having her vehicle slide the lower end girl would. If a boy was having his turn she would hold the string way higher, like 4 feet higher. It was so damn obvious, everyone could see it.

When it came time for my turn I politely yet sternly spoke up. "Uh , please put the cord down" she pretended to look confused. After repeating myself the teacher said "Ok put it down"

She rolled her eyes and dropped the cord half a foot. I said "All the way down" All the girls in class groaned as if wanting fair plane was wasting everyone's time. Ignoring the stubborn girls who were clearly cheating to affect the grades of others. They refused and we had to run our vehicle with an obvious handicap. Then came her teams turn (all girls of course) and just as she did with all the other girl's teams she lowered the cord to the bottom. Thing is my team still won. All I did was smile.

That class was full of one sided events like that. It was pretty clear that most girls didn't want to take that class and I guess they thought if they gave them an easier time, it would make them more willing to join.

JuJvert · 2021-07-06T18:47:40+00:00

Not to rant of course, I just wanted to deliver examples of the Gender Bias at schools. It’s destroying males. Many like me have lost confidence in themselves because they are taught to value themselves by their achievements which are as a teenager your grades. However if you receive bad grades even though you’re putting so much effort into it and others with a much worse performance get far better grades than you, then of course you will doubt yourself and lose all confidence+ambitions.

As a teenager you trust the system - it rarely occurred to me that gender was the main reason for my and other males bad grades - only after you become an adult, you realise it. Only when you become part of the system, you will see that the system is flawed

makosh22 · 2021-07-07T08:20:01+00:00

My POV: I am woman, not from US, so what i can tell about girls' privilege: yes, it exists. And has been existing for years.

Grades: All my childhood i'd worked hard to be the best and the first in class, later in university the same strategy. I succeeded. As for the school i can't say anything but higher education... If teachers were men - i had to confess that i think that they really gave the higher grades to female students. Female teachers gave higher grades to boys... and marked down girls. Especially if a girl is pretty.

Now: my elder boy is already in school. There are three best students, two boys and a girl. Students two had to re-take tests are both girls and boys and almost 50\50. It's elementary school. In couple of years i shall see how it works in other classes.

Attitude: girls almost always are given excuses if smth is done wrong. BUT if boss is man. If you have female boss - women will be harshly criticized and penalized. Men - it depends. Female bosses are more likely to have favorites OR they just show it more openly then men do.

Police: if you didn't do smth extremely bad (like hurting smb) girls are more likely to avoid a punishment or arrest. Like if there is a group of drunken girls in the street and there is a police patrol they just tell you be careful or even can give some help and guide you home. Boys are more likely to be arrested or treated harshly.

I remember there was a fight during concert: some ppl in the crowed started it and security had to use force. I was there with my female friend, we got scared and begged security guys to let us off the crowd and let go. So these huge blocks who had just fought the crowd took us out and released in safety. Boys woudn't get it.

Potatolover3 · 2021-07-06T18:33:58+00:00

Of course they did, it literally happens on a large scale in the us justice system

AdventurousShut-in · 2021-07-06T14:31:33+00:00

The girls in my class were reprimanded less often when they did something bad. There were also instances when teachers got physically aggressive towards students and it was always boys.

Bowlnk · 2021-07-06T14:30:18+00:00

This is gonna blow up in societies face, mark my words.

Alot of boys turning into men with inferiority complex with a butload of anger they can't healthily vent. We are seeing the first wave already with the more destructive (for lack of better word)-incells

Its only gonna get worse.

Selvadoc · 2021-07-09T01:30:29+00:00

Yes!

frustr8tion · 2021-07-07T11:39:57+00:00

I dont wanna make it like a controversial question

I hope this isnt an inappropriate question.

I m sorry if it is.

Things are in such a bad state that boys can't even question their oppression without having to apologise for being inappropriate and controversial.

frustr8tion · 2021-07-07T11:35:13+00:00

I was refused entry to the college I wanted to go to. I was told it was because they had no more room for students further away. I ended up going to the place a couple bus stops further down the road.

Had to get on the bus every morning with a group of 5-6 girls who I knew. We had the same grades. They were already on the bus because they lived FURTHER away.

I turned to drugs.

I wish I'd changed my gender before that point.

Boys get absolutely fucked by the education system.

Z0mbleBee · 2021-07-09T19:15:08+00:00

I remember we had lessons on sexual stuff in highschool (UK) and we were taught about consent and harassment and it was directed at boys only. The girls weren't men haters or anything they were nice but thinking back it's so wrong. At the time because it's all I knew I thought only men did those kind of things. Learned later though actually being harassed.

LastRounder · 2021-07-06T16:56:23+00:00

Personally from my experience? No. I was at physico-mathematical liceum, so of 20 people in classroom only two were girls, and other 18 were boys. That pretty much explains my exp, yes? XD

Title	It’s really frustrating
Author	Pef1432
Upvotes	249
Comments	53
Date	July 6, 2021 2:10 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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