As a 23 yo man I put immense pressure on myself to be as physically attractive as possible. This leads to very toxic thinking and feeling of competition with other men. Does anyone have some enlightenment on how to change this mindset.

Basically what the title says. I feel like whether I feel attractive can make or break my day. I hate when I get immense jealously and competition when I hear one of my male friends call someone else attractive. I hate that these are my instinctual reactions and I desperately want to change my mindset. It makes me so critical of myself and others.

Edit: Thank you so much to all those who have responded thus far. I am reading each and every comment and hope to reply to many more! I think I need to dig deep into myself, as I am an accomplished, talented, giving person in so many ways, but none of those things factor as much into my self-esteem as how my appearance is perceived by others.

The day I found out that my research paper was published in IEEE, I also found out I had gained 5 pounds. I was crying about my weight even though I had just achieved such an exciting milestone. That's just wrong. So I'm excited to take this advice to heart and start deprogramming myself.