Need help on hitting a wall

stillnoturday · 2014-05-25T00:29:51+00:00

K time for some truth.

You make a decision every time you pick up the fork/spoon/knife/chopstick. EVERY TIME whether you take one bite or finish the plate you made decisions to lead you to that point.

How come you aren't binge eating on celery? Because you derive pleasure from food. I can help you break that though pretty easily, take whatever you are eating right now cut it in half. Someone made fajitas you usually have 2 not anymore you have 1. Portion control is the first step to self control.

There are no cheat days/cheat meals or rewards either, this is you deluding yourself and keeping your goals further out of reach.

Now after some time once you have the portion thing down, how should you go about eating better if your inlaws are cooking.... start cooking yourself tell your husband your goals he will most likely help you(its in his best interest also) you look better blah blah.

Now what should you cook, he likes fajitas, chicken fajitas are really simple and absolutely healthy. Other things he might like that are healthy and easy to make.

Tostatas - they are corn shells, and on top of that you make taco meat 97/3 lean ground beef, refried beans(you can buy them in a can taste great), and cheese if you want.

Cut flank steak and rice- Cook the steak like you would fajita meat same seasonings, then cook some white rice let the meat cool on the rice it will impart flavor to the rice.

I could list a ton of healthy recipes that are simple to make(I'm a guy) and great for you but honestly I don't think that is the problem. I really believe if you can get a handle on how much you eat and then continue to be active everything else will fall into place.

If you want to change your world start by making your bed.

LifterofThings · 2014-05-25T00:19:42+00:00

1) Losing weight and eating healthy aren't easy. I think most people would rather mow through cookies and watch Netflix than eat salad and get up early to get all sweaty. I know I would. It's a choice you're going to have to make for yourself, and not compromise. If you can talk your in-laws into getting on board with your self-improvement project, even better. Feel free to PM me if you want more specific advice here.

2) Time and gravity come for us all. Living a healthier lifestyle will help. On the bright side, the wall is most apparent for the superhotties who've gotten by on looks alone while letting their malignicuntery run rampant. Pretty girls get a LOT of allowances made for them. I guess what I'm trying to say is that if you've never received a lot of special treatment for your looks before, you're unlikely to miss it as you get older. I'm in this category too! Reasonable upkeep isn't a bad idea though-- wear sunscreen, drink lots of water, try to shed the extra weight. Above all, remember that your husband's perception of you trumps everyone else's. If he's still getting boners, you're doing alright.

3) Make out like you want to serve them, too. Because they're such lovely wonderful people. Doesn't matter if it's bullshit or not... flattery gets one everywhere. Tell her to go put her feet up, and relax or something. Bring her a magazine. Also, move out asap. I know it may not be financially easy, but I think you and your husband could both flourish if you were pushed into the role of "captain and first-mate of the household", rather than "kids being looked after by in-laws".

4) Try other mexican-type foods. There are an absolute fuckton of recipes online.

I don't mean to be a dick, but you come off very passive... like life is just something that's happening to you. You really need to take charge of the shit you want to change, and not take no for an answer. Being a victim gets one nowhere. Good luck! You got this!

2014-05-25T00:22:18+00:00

It's great that you're recognizing that you need to change and you're trying to make positive changes!

First, are you going to therapy? That will help with the underlying issues behind your binge eating, and that means a lot more than just losing weight. In my experience, women who try to diet with anxiety end up having strange, unhealthy eating habits that make it difficult to consume enough calories, and that's just as bad as eating too much!

Others can chime in with other tips on aging gracefully, but my biggest tip is take care of your skin. Get facials every six weeks if you can afford to. Wash your face every night. Moisturize like your life depends on it! I recommend heading over to /r/skincareaddiction - their sidebar is full of great information and they're very friendly if you have any questions.

I saw someone mention a while back on this sub that their New Years resolution was to cook three new recipes every week and I think that's a great idea! Because of your MIL, this might be a little difficult. Maybe you could speak with her about having set days for you to cook dinner; say it's because she needs to take a break because she's so good to you! Also, you could try recreating her recipes with healthier options.

Ask your husband what exactly he likes about fajitas. Is it the spice? The texture? Try to find recipes that have similar qualities. AllRecipes.com is a great way to find new, interesting things to cook!

TempestTcup · 2014-05-25T04:52:01+00:00

You are married so as long as you work on yourself and add value to your relationship, you will not hit the wall in his eyes; he will always see you as the woman he first met.

HappySnowGirl · 2014-05-25T00:14:38+00:00

people are going to throw all kinds of fashionable paleo keto food magic bullshit at you but i will tell you what works, good old fashioned weight watchers. you can eat a lot of good food, mostly what ever you want as long as you weigh measure and count it, and youll naturally switch to a higher protein diet to conserve your daily "points"

Volunntary · 2014-05-24T23:25:08+00:00

Whats wrong with Tea?

Hookers666 · 2014-05-25T00:09:01+00:00

I suffer from PTSD and binge eat to deal with my emotions and anxiety attacks

Write down everything that you ingest, forcing you to be aware of how much you're eating.

I suffer from PTSD and binge eat to deal with my emotions and anxiety attacks

Cut your portions.

Start walking for an hour each day. Don't cheat; 45 minutes isn't one hour.

mikelieman · 2014-05-25T00:46:38+00:00

I've found that sticking to regular mealtimes is crucial for me to avoid making bad snacking choices. A normal breakfast, lunch and dinner at the right times means I'm not grazing all the time, and when I get the urge to snack, I can simply tell myself, "I don't want to ruin my appetite for my dinner in 2 hours."

2014-05-25T01:36:33+00:00

I know it's already said, but portion control is important, especially if you're a picky eater like I am. You can really eat practically anything so long as you get your macros in and stay with proper portions so you don't overdo your calories. And track everything on something like MyFitnessPal so you know how you're doing each day.

Exercise is great, as well. Lifting weights will burn more than cardio, if you're really looking to burn calories. Exercising whenever you feel the need to binge might just work out in your favor as well, since you're doing replacement therapy to cope with the unhealthy relationship with food.

HappySnowGirl · 2014-05-25T02:20:28+00:00

This is only going to work on a certain type of MIL, but see if you two can workout/eat healthy together. If she gets into it, it will change how she cooks, which is helpful if you must live with her.

Focus on eating healthy and portion control. You can't exercise your way out of a crap diet. Losing weight is the #1 way to improve your appearance.

KyfhoMyoba · 2014-05-26T01:37:50+00:00

OP: Go paleo. No grain products of any kind. Only liquid to pass your lips: water and vegetable juice. Fat cannot be formed in the absence of insulin, fat cannot be burned in the presence of insulin. Manage insulin by managing carb intake. Get to a gym. I like Crossfit. If you're 130 kg, the wall you hit will be the bottom part of a coffin. Just sayin'.

reggieray · 2014-05-25T20:46:54+00:00

Your weight, to the extent that it can be controlled, is determined by diet. You need carbohydrate restriction.

Book you must read: "Why We Get Fat" by Gary Taubes.

Also, being "active" is useless for losing weight from the body. Take it from a 300 mile-a-week cyclist. I see hugely overweight people every day on their bikes. If that type of exercise by itself were enough, every bike rider would look like Andy Schleck. What we think of as "cardio" merely creates a calorie deficit that results in an equivalent, or greater, increase in hunger in order to compensate. Your brain will not be fooled.

If you want to exercise in order to lose fat from your body, the workout in "Body by Science" by Doug McGuff is the way to go. Five exercises, fifteen minutes and you're done. It requires maximal intensity, but it is the only type of exercise that works for achieving this goal. Look:

http://www.counselheal.com/articles/9789/20140520/two-minutes-exercise-enough-prevent-diabetes-researchers-claim.htm

Doug McGuff is on youtube, you can see him explain and do the workout for free if you don't want to buy the book.

beginnerbuttocks · 2014-05-25T13:11:13+00:00

Ask /u/eatplaycrush

Bakerofpie · 2014-05-25T14:31:12+00:00

I'm honestly not sure just how advisable this is, but when I'm wanting to lose weight I will be really strict about portion control for a couple of weeks to a month. In order to keep my portions really small I just eat several small meals a day instead of three less-small ones. This causes my stomach to shrink so that I can't eat the portion size I used to without feeling really uncomfortable. I like to do this periodically. If I notice I am capable of eating almost an entire burrito from Chipotle in one sitting, I know I need to work on shrinking my stomach back down. The initial part can be difficult, but it's much easier to maintain a diet when your stomach can't hold as much anyway.

Also, I try to keep healthy snacks and quick things I can grab around at all times. You get hungry much faster when you cut your portions down significantly, and if you allow yourself to become ravenous you're likely to make poor decisions. I try to make sure I have a little something to snack on anywhere I go that will at least ease hunger pains so I don't have an emergency where I'm about to pass out and end up having to go through the McDonald's drive through just to be able to function. I'm slightly hypoglycemic, so this can be a real problem if I don't watch out. I can't even tell you how many times I've ended up buying some crap food just to get me by because I wasn't prepared with something healthier to eat.

I think that weight loss is honestly going to be your #1 best bet in staying attractive as you get older. Also periodically assess your makeup routine. When your skin starts changing you can't wear the same makeup as you used to, and it can really start to accentuate age.

Title	Need help on hitting a wall
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Date	May 24, 2014 11:07 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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