So I got permanently banned from r/mademesmile . I can see my comment getting deleted, but a perma-ban? Damn.

kaboomaster09 · 2020-04-12T00:40:21+00:00

What does LGBTQ have to do with men’s rights? The point is a lot of LGBTQ kids are disowned or not loved by family and the post is saying “hey there’s people who do live you, don’t lose hope.” As a straight guy myself, we aren’t disowned by family for being straight.

HarryShachar · 2020-04-12T00:23:19+00:00

It's not to all kids probably because he is speaking from experience. That would be my guess

pro_aliasing · 2020-04-12T02:06:37+00:00

This has nothing to do with men’s rights. This guy was supporting a marginalized group, that is all. I find this analogous to being anti black lives matter

To_me_my_board · 2020-04-12T00:51:53+00:00

So... let's sort this out. A person who is from a marginalized community or who empathizes with said community shared a post to support that community, and you felt the need to make a snide comment about that because his comment wasn't a general statement about children?

And now MRA is supposed to see this as an MRA issue?

And why are you sharing this here? This subreddit does the EXACT same thing you are criticizing this guy for doing. It creates a forum for discussing issues that impact a specific population. Women experience parallel or analogous modes of oppression, which is why feminism exists.

I mean... did you stop to ask yourself why you haven't shared this post on r/feminism? Or why you are ok with r/mra advocating for men but not making snide comments like "How about everybody instead of just men"?

I'm straight. I was abused growing up. I don't feel like this person is overlooking those kinds of experience. The person is simply highlighting an issue that is unique to a given community (even if many kids from other communities experience parallel or comparable forms of abuse).

I mean, what is the purpose of your comment? Do you think that person genuinely doesn't care about kids who are members of the LGBTQ+ community?

And why are you posting it here? Do you think this group should also stop posting about issues that impact men and instead focus on making comments about equality for all?

We are all allowed to advocate for groups that we are apart of. It doesn't mean we don't recognize the pain that others feel. Ideally, we should draw on this to empathize with others through their struggles.

I hope you learn to use that to empathize with others. Maybe net time just give the guy and up vote and move on. Or a down vote. Or no vote at all.

Your response was just some immature, ill-informed, hypocritical alternative virtue signalling.

Aracnida · 2020-04-11T23:12:47+00:00

You can certainly be supportive of all kids in quarantine. In this situation I think your comment is awful. The point is that LGBTQ+ children in unsupportive households are under more stress than other kids. The OP is trying to put it out there that they are not alone. You then come in with a shitty point that straight up shits on those kids current situation.

You being banned is definitely stupid, but let's not pretend that this has anything to do with Men's rights.

lampropeltiss · 2020-04-12T01:52:24+00:00

Why did that post make you feel defensive? And why do you keep trying to label it as humor? Because it really isn't. Humor is funny, but these responses are repetitive and dry, given the context. As a man who is gay I don't care for these posts but I can acknowledge that they do help some people who are lgbt.

It is hard describing to a straight person what it is like being lgbt, and right now, in a global pandemic, there are many people stuck in really shitty environments. Being banned is stupid and unnecessary for a comment like this but it seems like you just wanted to argue about something.

And this isn't a mens rights issue. To me, I just feel like this made you defensive over something you cannot be included in and you wanted attention over it, regardless if their decision to ban you was stupid or not.

Yeah all kids are important, obviously, but it is scary wanting to be yourself in a world where people will literally murder you for it. No need to take it as an attack against non-lgbt, it's just that those who are lgbt can be afraid to be who they are for various reasons. And a lot of those reasons can lead to suicide. So it's important that people care about people who are specifically lgbt.

bladeofgrass90 · 2020-04-11T22:50:06+00:00

You showed a level of maturity beyond their comprehension; it was the only way they could handle that situation.

Also, of course I thought your comment was on point.

SunosUnix · 2020-04-11T23:54:27+00:00

You're an asshole.

Mugin · 2020-04-11T23:26:28+00:00

To answer the question you got banned for. Because "just all kids" does not give you the social justice points or the attention these people crave.

shadowknuxem · 2020-04-11T23:32:23+00:00

I mean, I cloud see it going to r/choosingbeggars but a ban is too far.

Piza-YT · 2020-04-12T02:47:41+00:00

Why was this posted here again

kaboomaster09 · 2020-04-12T01:07:04+00:00

It's gotten to be truly insane bipolar type behavior from that community. They say not to make a big deal out of them and treat them like everyone else. Then when you treat them like everybody else, they get upset that you aren't making a big deal out of them. But then when you go out of your way to make a big deal about them, they get upset that you shouldn't be going out of your way to make a big deal out of them and they should be treated like everybody else. And then you call them out on it, and they try to give you some convoluted explanation about why they behave that way. It's tiresome, and makes me completely indifferent to whatever plight they might actually have going on.

Title	So I got permanently banned from r/mademesmile . I can see my comment getting deleted, but a perma-ban? Damn.
Author	kaboomaster09
Upvotes	34
Comments	53
Date	April 11, 2020 10:43 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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