Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault Support Resources

hasegawaryouta · 2020-01-22T11:45:12+00:00

Last year I learned that "psychological abuse" also a kind of domestic violence. We know too little about DV

Oncefa2 · 2020-01-23T11:58:06+00:00

A few others:

The National Domestic Violence Hotline has a list of domestic violence services for men here.

https://www.thehotline.org/2014/07/22/men-can-be-victims-of-abuse-too/

The National Center on Domestic and Sexual Violence has a list of resources/publications for men here, which include guides and information regarding domestic violence against men and children.

http://www.ncdsv.org/publications_malevictims.html

Stop Relationship Abuse has information regarding how to craft a domestic violence safety plan when children are involved.

http://stoprelationshipabuse.org/help/develop-a-safety-plan/safety-planning-with-children/

The Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline: https://www.childhelp.org/hotline/

They have a 24/7 phoneline and a 24/7 online chat option.

The first one was already listed by OP but the link above is to a specific page about men.

I got all these from a post on r/relationship_advice by u/Ebbie45.

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/eqvtiq/comment/fezo0ep

OP described an abusive relationship where he had always been the target, but his wife finally targeted his son, which to him meant she had crossed a line.

Not sure why the mods deleted his thread but hopefully OP found some help.

One other thing you can try, if you're in the US, is dialing 211. Explain that you're a male victim of domestic abuse and that you're looking for male specific services. Especially if you're recently homeless or in need of other services. They may or may not have anything specific for men but it's worth a shot.

On a related note, it should actually be a goal of the MRM to make sure that they do.

Phollie · 2020-01-22T09:04:38+00:00

Your second link above headed "Center Against Domestic Violence" goes to http://www.cadvny.org/2009/09/14/help-for-men/ and is redirected to https://urinyc.org/2009/09/14/help-for-men/ where it returns 'not found'

Help for men is not found but they do help animals.

New York City’s first and only co-living shelter for people and pets When domestic violence victims decide to leave abusive situations, they face many difficult choices. For victims with pets, it can be even more agonizing if there are no options for pets.

Do they flee with their children and leave their pet behind? Do they place their pet with a rescue organization and hope for the best? Do they stay and try to keep their family intact despite abuse? Or is there a better way?

Very few shelters accept domestic violence victims with pets. That’s why the PALS (People and Animals Living Safely) program can mean the difference between staying in an abusive situation and finding safety for the entire family. PALS removes barriers to entry by providing accommodations for co-living with pets of any species.

Your fourth link is to National Domestic Violence Hotline at https://www.thehotline.org/ where the 'resources for victims and survivors' page https://www.thehotline.org/resources/victims-and-survivors/ has no mention of men other than as abusers, in recommended book titles like

Battered Wives – Del Martin
But I Love Him: Protecting Your Teen Daughter from Controlling, Abusive Dating Relationships – Jill Murray
Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men – Lundy Bancroft

Male_Positive · 2020-01-24T23:38:22+00:00

Correct me if I am wrong, but I believe that none of these groups offer shelter spaces for male victims and their children. Some of these offer someone to talk to, whiles others are advocacy groups that do not serve victims directly.

The list makes it look like there is more help out there than there actually is.

duhhhh · 2020-01-22T11:24:54+00:00

RAINN helpline has had several very negative reviews on here by men that have tried to use it over the years. It appeara many of the volunteers assume men are perpetrators and women are victims.

Title	Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault Support Resources
Author	Phollie
Upvotes	45
Comments	26
Date	January 22, 2020 8:28 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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