I had fun in my teens and now want to settle down, why do men have such a problem with that?

nnote · 2019-12-08T21:56:27+00:00

And after your a used up mess why do women have such high expectations for men and demand to have the rest of their lives financially supported?

Lethn · 2019-12-08T22:08:44+00:00

Yeah, that's not what you're doing at all and that's why people are telling you so often to go fuck yourself. You're not sleeping around with men casually you're emotionally manipulating multiple men and wasting their time by making them think they might have a chance with you in the long term. Then when your primary targets for a relationship fail you're surprised when the men you strung along in the past like an annoying number of other women that they've simply moved on to women who actually care for them and love them because they're wiser now thanks to those experiences.

Men are just fed up of you, your ( apparently self-admitted ) antics in your 20's have finally caught up with you and now you're lashing out at this sub in particular because the men here simply know what you've been up to and that feels like a personal attack. Don't go trying to shame men for having standards for a long term relationship because that just makes you look pathetic and desperate.

Trunk-Monkey · 2019-12-08T23:00:16+00:00

You don't see the issue because you're looking in the wrong place… No one cares how you've chose to live your life. No one hates you for expressing yourself, for feeling positive about your body, or for exploring your sexuality.

The issue, the one that you don't see, is that we oppose your sense of entitlement, the idea that we owe you something and are obligated to "settle down" with you.

Men don't owe you anything. Full stop.

For comparison, you are probably less interested in settling down with a guy who spent his 20's and 30's expressing himself and partying, than with a guy who spent those same years developing a career and increasing his earnings potential and financial stability.

colombian_neet · 2019-12-08T22:00:13+00:00

We don't have a problem with that. I have a problem with women that go with only hot guys when they are young and then complain in their 30s or 40s because those men won't commit and has to settle for a provider

rahsoft · 2019-12-08T22:35:06+00:00

I'm surprised you came here?

did r/Feminism or r/FemaleDatingStrategy throw you out because they couldn't stand your attempt for approval in your echo chamber?

if you couldn't or didn't bother to research what this sub was about then there are two issues for you.

you are acting out for attention
you are so clueless that your own life is going to go downhill in a few years because you can't see the big picture..

2019-12-09T00:43:06+00:00

Women indeed can do whatever they want with their bodies, but men just as much can do whatever we want with our relationships and commitments. We don't owe you anything and you are not competent to police our relationship choices. Heck, from your description you can't even successfully police your own.

Sort your own house out; mine is none of your business.

Sithis1979 · 2019-12-08T22:16:31+00:00

For me it depends on the situation if the woman brings a ton of emotional baggage or stds with her than it’s a no go.

Ie the girls who constantly freak out and compare you to exes that is irritating and I don’t have time for it. I don’t do that to others and don’t want it done to me.

filosophicalaardvark · 2019-12-08T21:57:53+00:00

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2019-12-08T22:08:23+00:00

You're in the wrong sub.

mgtowolf · 2019-12-09T00:23:40+00:00

Plenty of guys willing to fuck girls like you. Settle down when you are nearing that wall? I wish you luck.

Greg_W_Allan · 2019-12-09T06:17:42+00:00

You go for your life. Don't count on being respected by men however.

AskingToFeminists · 2019-12-09T10:49:34+00:00

1) Yes we do like to play the field 2) Yes we’re proud of it

Good for you

3) Wanting to settle down after isn’t contradictory

Of course it isn't contradictory. But you have to understand one thing : settling down is a big deal. It usually take a long time to vet correctly someone to see if that person is a good match for that. A long time that some people do take in their youth, rather than screwing around, in order to be settled down by the age you are beginning to try to do that.

So, it shows two possible things : you didn't have the foresight of thinking about the future, and what was required to ensure what you want latter in life. This doesn't bode well for you as a long term partner. Or you intend to rush the vetting process. That could be because you are irresponsible, which doesn't really bode well for you as a long term partner, or because you just don't care and men are indistinguishable for you, which, in addition to not being a great perspective for long term relationships, also speaks volume of just how great a person you are : not at all.

Also, bei'g i' a LT relationship is something hard : it takes a willingness to commit, to work on issues when they arise, to communicate properly, etc. All of those may be skills that can be worked on and improved a cross relationships, provided they are committed, but when you "play the field", you practice more of the opposite skill : not committing, leaving at the first sign of difficulties, etc. And you train those skills, which is in direct opposition to the goal of committing. So you start with a disadvantage compared to those who didn't play the field, let alone those who maybe are not virgins but had one or two LTR that allowed them some experience in those very useful skills.

There is also the fact that the higher the number of partner you've had, the more likely it is that the best partner you will ever have had in your life is in your past. Which will skew your expectations towards something probably unreasonable, and make you more likely to be disappointed. Which is not something you should expect anyone to want to face if they have another choice.

4) Men need to grow up and accept that almost all girls you speak to by age 20 would’ve had their fun before you

Men need to do nothing. You are not entitled to anything from men. Everyone is entitled to their own standards, and if it turns out that your life choices put you out of the dating pool of many men, then you need to act like an adult and take responsibility for your past choices. If it turns out that the dating pool that result from that for those men is too small, they will adjust, or they will decide that the lowering of standards isn't worth it, but you can take your shaming and put it wherever you like. You don't have any more of a right to impose on men what you think should be their standard that men have a right to impose you to have their standard.

And I am pretty sure the irony of you acting that way is lost on you, but I find it hilarious, just because of the sheer magnitude of the double standard and entitlement you exhibit without thinking.

2019-12-09T01:10:17+00:00

Wrong reddit. Try an incel group.

N19864 · 2019-12-10T01:20:17+00:00

Conclusion - Please accept reality and stop blaming women for your own insecurities, we can do what we want with our bodies!

No one is. You should stop expecting people to live by your expectations. If a man want to marry the town bike, it is his choice. If he wants someone more reserved that's also his choice. No man is obliged to marry you and vice-versa.

The fact of matter, the more partners one has. the more one messes with their pair bonding. One also ends up carrying more emotional baggage and have a higher risk of seeking divorce. Females with high body count are a liability. Simple as that. It is backed up by stats.

shit-zen-giggles · 2019-12-14T11:23:04+00:00

Please accept reality and stop blaming women for your own insecurities, we can do what we want with our bodies!

Dear Danielle,

please accept reality and stop blaming men for your own insecurities, WE can do what we want with our bodies as well. And YES, that includes NOT commiting to any women for any, all or no reason(s).

Women need to grow up and accept that almost all guys you speak to by age 30 know the rules of the game and they've taken a long hard look and decided that the old saying:

The only winning move is not to play.

is indeed sadly accurate.

ausgamer529 · 2019-12-09T01:08:45+00:00

Please tell me your trolling.... If your not then go end it all because your pretty worthless

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