Facial expressions

VigilantRedRooster · 2016-10-22T06:48:06+00:00

In extreme cases this is referred to in psychology as reduced or flat affect. While there can be underlying pathology driving it, often it is down to simple shyness or not so simple guardedness. The good news is, these can be easily worked on.

What I'd strongly suggest you try is mirror work. You can use the bathroom mirror, but better to set up a decent mirror you can sit in front of comfortably.

The right language coach or behavioral therapist can help you advance toward your goals rapidly. There are a few things you can work on yourself.

First develop a baseline. Record your face and use the mirror to see your natural expression for various emotions. Sometimes you'll find obvious things that don't work well for your face (but never usually see) like a rectangular celebrity smile or overly scrunched nose/eyes that look all wrinkly, but usually it's a matter of fine tuning that makes an impressive difference.

Next, wherever you think you need improvement, work in the mirror on perfecting the look you want for various states of smiling, interest, etc. Then go from a neutral expression to the target expression several times to build muscle memory for it.

Facial expressions are a very important component of nonverbal communication. If yours aren't naturally working for you, it really is worth putting a little bit of effort into developing them further.

Starberryfizz · 2016-10-23T01:51:28+00:00

Hey there! I'm one of those big expressive eye people so take this with a grain of salt. I am also a customer service vet of many years, so reading people I've never met and only talk to for two minutes is kinda my thing.

Be conscious of your eyebrows. Even if you don't do makeup, get them done or do them yourself, and avoid the wax off-draw on like the plague (personal prejudice here. more salt needed) and avoid extreme or unnatural styling. Raise them as if concerned when you listen.

Be aware of how often you look down, and always make eye contact. When someone makes you smile, really smile. Like you're grateful for the chance to smile and it never happens to you.

Feel the way your eyes and lips react when you do emote naturally. Mirroring can help you, but cultivate your natural expressions and make sure you're not inventing.

A face that expresses caring empathy sympathy and openness will get you far. Think of a kid with a skinned knee. Think of someone you love. See what it makes you look like.

This goes double for sex appeal. Try that in the mirror. Think about the hottest, filthiest thing you can and look what it does to your face.

Resting bitch face is to be avoided at all costs. Practice open-caring face on people like me who sell you coffee and wait tables, you'll be surprised how far it goes.

Sorry this got rambly, had to drop it and come back. I'm full of this stuff though.

PinkTulipz · 2016-10-22T01:47:31+00:00

No one owes anyone anything. That said, since joining RPW, I've let go of the frame of mind that because I don't "owe" something, that I shouldn't bother to give it. If a small gesture will benefit me and those around me, it's best to take advantage of it.

Having good posture, for example, not only affects how other people perceive you - it can also boost your confidence and mood. It costs nothing, and you can only gain from it.

The same applies to facial expression. Expressing even a slight smile, raising your eyebrows as you think of a response, tilting your head and so on help people understand how you feel and perhaps get to know you better - therefore, easier to read. It doesn't even have to be a smile - it should flow with whatever the subject is. Even simple questions can be met with mild emotion.

bakebynumbers · 2016-10-22T01:32:03+00:00

I'm no expert on this subject, but I think in general you want to avoid RBF whenever possible- although a neutral expression to the wearer, the way a lot of people's faces rest make them look bored/angry/serious/etc, and people will make assumptions based on what they see, as it is a non-verbal cue. So I would say no, you don't owe an expressive face to anyone, but if you are aware that the way your face rests will skew perceptions of you (unfair as that is!) than it might be good to be more conscious of your facial expressions? For example, I've been working on smiling at strangers (I'm reading the Surrendered single and its recommended) instead of just being caught up in my own world/looking at my feet when I walk somewhere, and it's easier if I'm smiling just a tiny but already- like not enough to really be visible, and not much more effort to hold than a resting face. It feels less forced, I guess?

Anyways, only you can judge if the therapist is right for you, but I'd probably chalk "an expressive" face under cultivating a feminine appearance, as our expression shape others opinions of us just as much as our words or demeanor!

runway · 2016-10-22T03:20:40+00:00

Oh, I’m very expressive. My mom and several friends have commented on it at times. I don’t have a poker face.

I’ve made faces in the mirror to see what I look like when I make certain faces, but I don’t know that I ”practice” facial expressions. I can’t practice a natural reaction.

Title	Facial expressions
Author	ayvyns
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Date	October 22, 2016 1:17 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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