Getting Info on a Potential GF's Past

jb_trp · 2017-03-10T17:10:31+00:00

When vetting a potential LTR, you have to read between the lines and look for the subtle flags. She'll tell you her past slowly as trickle truth. Just let her start talking and listen. Think of her as an iceberg, she'll show you 10%, it's up to you to see the rest of it.

brinkleybuzz · 2017-03-10T16:41:29+00:00

Figure out how to meet some of her friends. You'll learn a lot by observing them and how your girl interacts with them. Also if your girl is trying to hide something, her friends may drop hints for you. I've seen this happen more than once. Apparently there's not a female version of bro code.

quicklogaccount · 2017-03-10T15:57:39+00:00

Why is it that you want to know her past?

If she treats you well, her past didn't harm her potential to bond, so, there's no point in knowing;
If she treats you poorly, it doesn't matter the cause, the course of action remains the same, so you don't really need to know.

Either way you need to keep your abundance to be able to leave if she starts disrespecting. "Starting" to disrespect after committed is something you ought to expect more with experienced women than with inexperienced, but AWALT, virgins will as well. The only solution is keeping your capacity to leave. Virgins make shitty relationships too.

The past is an issue for populations. Party girls, on average, make shitty girlfriends, so you don't go there seeking "the one". In an individual scale you vet for the present. Is she shitty or not?

Well, NEVER ask. Act sex positive, it's all you can do. When you do it, some naive women look into gaming with tactics that they know that work on themselves, this is showing pre selection.
If your girl has learned that this is a bad move, it's over. Smart women don't talk and it usually costs you a lot to ask.

abdada · 2017-03-10T14:58:04+00:00

Her past doesn't matter -- what matters is how she treats you today.

My current GF started off as a plate 7 years ago -- and she knew that fact. I never asked about her past. Ever. I don't care. She treated me exceptionally as a plate and worker her way up the status ladder.

I still don't care about her past. I know she had a very serious boyfriend in college just from her photo albums she has. Had one in high school. Dated some guy after college for a few years. I never inquired. The photos just confirmed those 3. Never bothered me.

If I text her, she answers. Instantly. Doesn't matter when. If I tell her to come over tonight, she comes over. Never once has she canceled or blown me off or flaked.

If that changes, I change our relationship. I call, she comes. I invite, she agrees. I take her to bed, she's enthusiastic as can be.

That's all that matters -- my needs, right now, today, and her being offered the chance to fulfill them.

If she fucked 1500 guys in the past, she's not acting like it. Why the fuck would I care?

intradasting350 · 2017-03-10T18:45:42+00:00

you don't look into her past, that's a lot of hard work and screams needy.

What you need to do is to screen her. Just talk about subjects like partying, one night stands, and etc, and see where she stands. DO NOT seem like you're interrogating her (even if that's what you're doing) because she'll sense it and put on an act.

I noticed in my past that girls who like clubbing are not LTR material. Tattoos and excessive piercings are also deal breakers.

One thing to keep in mind, however, is that it is always the GIRL who ultimately decides the rules of the relationship between you two. So in the end of the day, it's not like you have the option to make her your GF or not, the only option you have is accepting her request to get into and LTR or deny it. So my point is keep treating her as a plate. Don't get too romantic and beta.

max_peenor · 2017-03-10T15:10:57+00:00

I have a plate

I have an angry wolverine. It bit me.

Are you sure she is "a plate" because you starting from the default that she is just there for casual sex. She took you on a trip; I'm not so sure she thinks it is casual (unless she is older, then they do that sort of thing).

LordThunderbolt · 2017-03-13T02:58:02+00:00

Birds of a feather flock together.

bbm72 · 2017-03-10T22:37:05+00:00

I'm guessing she has social media that you don't know about.

Title	Getting Info on a Potential GF's Past
Author	bobbydabruce
Upvotes	5
Comments	37
Date	March 10, 2017 2:55 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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