Hey guys, first time poster and would appreciate some feedback and perspective, so here it goes:

I'm caught in a situation where I've met HB and have gone on several+ dates. Chemistry is there, lots of kino/playful touching, sexual banter and compliments from her. She is responsive to texts and commits to dates, picks up the bill on occasion etc. all good there...

BUT (and here is the big but)...

From the outset she was hesitant to kiss and would often turn to her cheek. On the first couple of dates, I thought she may be shy but after a few dates this turned to suspicion that there might be someone else she was already involved with. Finally got a kiss on the last date.

In the meantime, I've inadvertently learnt from a third person that she has a bf (as suspected), but things are not good between them. So, looks like this may be a case of hypergamy (I am quite attractive, sociable, and am in a very highly respected profession, but admittedly working on improving alpha behaviour).

If I want her, what's the best approach? Confront her (my thoughts are this is risky/beta), continue seeing her and escalate and continue displaying high SMV etc? Or none of the above? Anyone been in a similar situation that can shed some light? If I pursue her, is this doomed from the start?