Girlfriend wants to get engaged right after university

LordThunderbolt · 2017-04-02T22:32:24+00:00

What part of "don't get married" isn't registering for u guys?

Peter_B_Long · 2017-04-02T20:45:05+00:00

It's up to you if you want to get married or not. If you do want to get married, then consider it. If you want to wait, tell her you want to wait.

If you never want to get married, then you should definitely tell her and just let her go if she's not down with that.

Keep in mind that it is very hard to find a girl who isn't ugly af that has zero n count, in case you change your mind.

I personally would appreciate a girl nowadays who stays loyal to you during her best years.

It just comes down if you want to get married or not

RedSkeller · 2017-04-02T21:46:35+00:00

That's great. What do you want? Because you are the one who makes this decision - not her.

derkoff · 2017-04-03T00:07:44+00:00

Only marry a girl you want to divorce, because that's what's going to happen.

aurelius_shrugs · 2017-04-03T00:13:12+00:00

She's living the ABCs of life. What do you want? This is your life young blood. Her vagina does not entitle her to own you.

RunawayGrain · 2017-04-03T01:36:51+00:00

Girlfriend wants to get engaged right after university.

First things first, how much student loan debt does she have, and what's her major? Are the parents cutting her off? What's her major?

It could just be that the free ride's over, and she's looking for a meal ticket. Maybe not what you want to hear, but asking these questions could save you from committing a serious fuck up.

What should I do?

What do you want to do?

She comes from a traditional family and hasn't done anything with other guys before me besides kissing.

What are the odds of a girl making it all the way through university without getting dicked once. Oh yeah, Not very likely

lrb6805 · 2017-04-03T02:48:11+00:00

I was in the same boat as you before I found TRP. I had pretty much progressed the relationship becuase she wanted to feel "secure" as we were about to go into a LDR right after graduating. We were engaged 1.5 years before I came to my senses 9 months before the wedding date. I had already bought wedding bands, down payments for honeymoon, etc.

One day I just couldn't get it out of my head how it wasn't the type of relationship I wanted to be in. I became indifferent and started searching on the internet for people with similar situations and I found this place. My eyes were opened and within the week of deep thinking I called it all off. I didn't care about all the money I had already spent. Better to cut it off before becoming married and dealing with divorce. Now I've never been happier and feel so "free". I had never realized all the shit and dead weight I was carrying around.

My point is never do it becuase she wants you to or becuase it feels like it should be the next step. If you have an inkling of a doubt in your mind, you already know the answer. Your mind is just trying to tell you, but society is saying you're wrong. Listen to yourself.

If you want to get married then get married, but do it for you not her. It's your life, she should just be coming along for the ride.

If she hinders your ambitions in any way or has any "power" in the relationship, then drop it. You already lost and it's only going t get worse when you legally bind yourself to her

Restart with a different girl if you need to and start the relationship dynamics off right

RPShitlord · 2017-04-02T20:37:29+00:00

Tell her the truth. You don't believe in marriage.

You rode for free, now you have to buy a ticket. So get off.

Title	Girlfriend wants to get engaged right after university
Author	chairdepoule
Upvotes	1
Comments	13
Date	April 2, 2017 8:06 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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