“Man-Hating Lesbian” Is a Classic Insult. But in the #MeToo Era, It’s Time to Reclaim It.

tenchineuro · 2018-10-19T03:39:36+00:00

In the wake of the Kavanaugh hearings, a dyke friend in her twenties posted that, real talk, she doesn’t like men. I hit the like button super fast, feeling secretive and sort of guilty about it. She’d come through the same radical queer and trans circles I came up in, and in that click, I felt relieved to acknowledge an obvious truth: Most men treat women like something less than human, whether accidentally or on purpose, and that means it’s hard to like them.

I’d recently been scanning the men coming into my workplace, wondering about their histories of sexual assault. Is he a rapist? What about him? Where does he fall on the creep scale? It was an old impulse that had returned in force as the nation debated just how many of their husbands, brothers, and sons were perpetrators, given that one in three American women experience sexual violence in their lifetimes. Republicans insisted that men were the ones who should be afraid, while women recounted the everyday, harrowing ways we reroute our lives to avoid assault. My “woke” male co-workers made #MeToo jokes, as if the whole thing were a funny spectacle. It was enough to make me want to stop talking to men entirely.

What can I say, it's everything I've come to expect from Slate.

Basically it's the lesbian version of why it's OK to hate men.

goodmod · 2018-10-19T10:31:12+00:00

More and more feminists are coming out of the closet as true man-haters.

This provides us with lots of evidence that feminism is a hate movement. If there was a list of contemporary feminist hate quotes, it would be quite handy to have.

I don't have the time to make up a list like that myself, but it could be a group project.

fengpi · 2018-10-19T07:35:37+00:00

Where does he fall on the creep scale?

Haha, and how do you judge this? Visually? Gut feels? Women's intuition?

Does he become less of a creep if he steps out of an expensive car?

Fuck this chick's head-surrounding vortex of paranoia.

mikesteane · 2018-10-19T10:21:37+00:00

Most men treat women like something less than human, whether accidentally or on purpose, and that means it’s hard to like them.

Projection, plain and simple.

I am a married lesbian, as far away from needing male approval as a woman can get, and I still feel it, the slow poisonous drip of cultural conditioning that tells me to prioritize men.

You still need men, because men have built civilisation and technology and continue to maintain, operate and run it to your benefit, even though you give nothing in return.

Men have to learn what it feels like when we stop protecting them

Projection again.

Reimagining something bigger than resistance, in Michelle Alexander’s terms, requires us to get beyond that fear of male approval. Once we do, we can be a source of massive, radical power, and straight women would do well to follow our lead

Yes, well when you actually do something...

Hadashi_blacksky · 2018-10-19T12:24:14+00:00

It's not an insult. It's a description.

Sasha_ · 2018-10-19T05:33:05+00:00

I know quite a few very nice and supportive lesbians - in fact my best friend is one and she pretty much saved my life after my divorce.

She can't stand feminists either.

marcooni1 · 2018-10-19T05:50:03+00:00

Who are cis lesbians? I thoughed that only staright are cis.

nonrequested · 2018-10-19T11:11:56+00:00

another proof of this mathematical statement: With the increasing human population the intelligence remains constant.

thrway_1000 · 2018-10-19T11:21:49+00:00

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Title	“Man-Hating Lesbian” Is a Classic Insult. But in the #MeToo Era, It’s Time to Reclaim It.
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Date	October 19, 2018 1:35 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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