Due to all this "women can accuse anyone" shit I feel like I'm screwed for life. I want a wife eventually even, but I don't know what to do with our gynocentric society currently. What do I do I need advice? I'm also constantly anxious someone will just accuse me of shit.

rurikloderr · 2017-06-20T19:44:41+00:00

There are women out there that see through this shit. They understand what's happening. A surprising number of women want to be women in a relationship with a man that wants to be a man. When you find such a woman, everything changes and you find yourself in a relationship where both partners are being genuinely fulfilled.

A woman that finds herself in such a relationship, especially after taking the so called "red pill," is a woman that finds herself content and happy for the first time in her life. She won't leave such a relationship willingly and she'll be legitimately terrified of potentially ruining it. They'll accept fault for the things they do wrong and don't challenge you for being yourself. If anything.. things that would bother other women in this society are attractive the kind of women I'm talking about.

Source: I found such a woman and I have never been happier in my life. We've been together for 4 years and things just keep getting better. I've never felt more like a man than I do around her. It's such a game changer that it's having a hugely positive influence on every facet of my life as I rediscover what it means to be a man. I'm not just bullshitting either.. Before her I suffered through an eight year long abusive relationship with a narcissist that basically destroyed me. I know the difference intimately.

2017-06-20T17:55:36+00:00

Do not despair. The world is not the Internet or a liberal-arts campus. There are lots of perfectly decent and sane women out there.

TheCuriousJackass · 2017-06-20T20:35:54+00:00

The internet can be misleading, because it makes crazy people more visible.

I am 31 years old and I have a girlfriend of five years who cares more about men's rights than I do. I've had a total of four relationships and all of them hated feminists. In my entire life, I've only met one single crazy anti-porn feminist and dozens of normal sane women.

Just be sensible and don't follow your dick. When meeting women, be friendly first, talk to them, find out how and what they think. Crazy people have the tendency to stand out, because they are very opinionated.

intensely_human · 2017-06-21T05:40:42+00:00

Continue to have more and more conversations with more and more people.

Keep expanding your social world and make more connections. Make weekly habits of being out at meetups and just generally doing social stuff.

The more people you meet and converse with, the more and more nuanced people will be to you. There are good women.

Don't make large commitments at the first sign of goodness. Don't be an idiot. If you are prone to self-isolation, your judgments will not be as effective as they can be.

Don't dive deep too fast into trusting people. Just keep making friendly connections while keeping yourself safe. If this means being in public and in groups then do that.

You won't become safer by staying inside. You need to go out and brush elbows with the danger to stay safe.

Also you need to brush elbows with the world of humanity in order to recognize the goodness in people. There is evil, and there is good. Staying in the cave will isolate you from the good and protect you from the evil but only for a little bit. Some evil will come get you if you isolate yourself because you will be getting weaker and weaker and more attractive to predators by staying inside.

Predators prey on weakness, on easy targets. And someone whose social skills are atrophied by self-isolation is an easy target for a predator.

So go outside. Yes that's where the danger is. But it's also where your food is so staying inside isn't going to work. Go to meetup.com, find some events, force yourself to go if only for five minutes.

Set a timer for five minutes and force yourself to stay and say hi until that timer goes off.

Next time do six minutes.

Every time you buy coffee from the coffee shop, say hello to someone. Just "hi, how's your day?".

Keep pushing on those neural networks and they will grow. You can connect. It's a skill. It's a whole enormous mass of interrelated skills. And they grow through exercise. So make that exercise part of your routine.

Out. Out. Out.

2017-06-21T11:50:54+00:00

Woah. Get a grip.

JestyerAverageJoe · 2017-06-21T12:45:16+00:00

Remember that the vast majority of the women in the world are just like the vast majority of the men in the world: They're people. Fairly self-centered, not exceptionally intelligent, but also not malicious. Just trying to do their best to move through life and figure it out as they go along. Remember also that only about 20% of women are feminists. Most women don't buy the gender war hype either.

bufedad · 2017-06-20T18:01:46+00:00

1) Build your friendships outside of the college crowd. (Go to local joints, instead of college hangouts).

2) Don't get married.

Imagine you are in charge of the US. Do you give nuclear launch codes to Britain? You can trust them. You trust them implicitly. Do you give them your launch codes? No, because it doesn't matter how much you trust someone, you don't give them the ability to destroy you.

This is what marriage is. It's giving someone else the ability to destroy you. Will they? Maybe, maybe not. They can't destroy you if you don't give them the ability to do so.

For the record, I'm happily married. I wish my kids could have a relationship like I do, but the risk isn't worth it. That's what I've had to tell my boys.

andejoh · 2017-06-20T20:34:08+00:00

My plan B (Well OK, it was mostly their plan B, but it seems fairly solid given the alternatives) was to have my mom and aunts find a wife for me, but I'm half Filipino so that might not be a realistic option for you.

I know a couple guys who've married women from the Phillipines and it's nothing like the abusive relationships portrayed in the media and advanced by feminists. These much older men adore their wives, who've done a great job caring for them. I've never known any of these guys to be the boss in their house, but it would be like living in a gilded cage you don't want to be let out of.

A woman I know (white) who's very traditional has noticed the same thing. She wonders why anyone man would marry an American (ie feminist, progressive, materialistic, transitory in that marriage is only marriage in good times and not worth putting work into) woman. BTW she's taken. Married with 2 kids. Women like that don't stay single long.

I'm sure there are a few others like her, but you can slways look into the foreign bride market.

P.S. I have an Indian friend, who's divorced. He married his first wife "for love". His second marriage was arranged. His mom lined up women 20 years younger than him. He told her they were too young (he was mid 40s). He was looking for mid 30s. They've been married maybe 5 years. He has no issues. Not everyone is looking for a 20 year old "hottie".

cymrich · 2017-06-20T21:10:55+00:00

I think maybe you need to take a step back and get some perspective. this sub specifically highlights stuff like that. that hardly means it's so common that you should go out of your way to avoid women. If anything it just means you should make sure you know the woman you are getting involved with before getting in too deep. part of that is making sure not to excuse bad behavior just because it isn't directed at you. like, for instance, if she goes out of her way to be spiteful toward her ex... even if she claims to have a good excuse. if you see that, and excuse it, then you will very likely be on the receiving end some day. take it as a warning sign and proceed with caution.

Meyright · 2017-06-20T21:19:34+00:00

Getting accused of rape is very unlikely. But still you wouldn't hide under a tree during a thunderstorm, so just don't date feminists and the chances of being accused go down!

If possible don't date girls from your college in general, because they have the power to destroy your education through those kangaroo courts on campus.

If you have sex, always bring your own protection and use it! Don't rely on anyone for your birth control! Getting a girl pregnant you don't want to spent your future with, can be equally destructive as getting falsely accused.

Make it your habit to write the girl you had sex with a text message, getting her to say that you both had a wonderful evening together or something. Especially when you have a bad feeling about her, you don't know the person actually you slept with or/and had a ons! This has saved many guys their asses already.

If you ever come into a situation where you are falsely accused of rape, start recording the interaction immediately, don't say anything to anyone, secure all text messages and evidence, write everything down and most important get a lawyer and don't do anything without his advice.

It is unlikely that you are falsely accused of rape. It is unlikely that this accusation will result in a criminal conviction without evidence. If your college doesn't give you a fair trial and you can prove it, you can sue them for millions. Guys all around the US are suing their colleges and win!

If you follow those advice and are a decent human being you will be safe! You are not lost and on top of that, things will change! The tide is turning, and if you want to help with that, join or build a mens rights group on your campus!

Good luck!

user1492 · 2017-06-20T20:02:47+00:00

Find a girl that is religious, doesn't have divorced parents, respects her father, and isn't majoring in liberal arts.

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