Confused

SkorchZang · 2017-06-02T12:49:12+00:00

First thing I did was feel like shit for a while. The world made more sense, but it was brutal man. It got a brutal ruthless tinge, with a hopelessness that drove you to despair.

After another while you realize what utter laughable bullshit that way of thinking is. Fact is, that despair is just another extreme of the Blue Pill ideology. You make the transition, you go from believing the Blue Pill, to not believing it any longer. Great, except you're still associated with the Blue Pill, you're still in the same muck up to your ears, only difference is that you now actively hate it. If this doesn't make sense, think of it like this: the blue pill ideology, it was never real. It was never "there", it's all made of artificial expectations in a man's head. If you decide to reject it and you immediately go into mourning, you know you're still Blue Pill to the core and got work to do yet.

You'll know when TRP has finally dissolved in your bloodstream and "started acting" because all of a sudden a light goes on, you realize in an instant that there was nothing to mourn about in the first place. It's eye opening, and like a ton of bricks off your shoulder. You'll probably want to dance like a madman and hug random bitches.

FuckboyAWALT · 2017-06-02T12:24:16+00:00

First of all read sidebar and handbook + top posts it really helps a lot.

When I discovered RP, I went lifting trying to focus on my own but when I had the chance I tried to apply game. For instance in a supermarket or whatever just get used to approaching and talking to girls. But girls are incidental right now.

About the picking. --> Lift and ignore. Be a rock and hold frame. Don't care about others. Don't let them interfere with your mission to become the best version of yourself. Whatever they say don't take it personal suck it up. They might try to pick even more on you since their common picking is not working anymore leading to physical interaction. That's why you should lift they won't do this when they recognise oh shit he actually is massive.

However once you show no reaction to their bullying they lose interest. Picking always tends to force a reaction if you don't give any reaction they will look for someone else that will.

' Don't ever pay people out or put people down.

Instead just put yourself up and let the haters do their thing.

I'd rather be a person that's hated on, than does the hating!'

Never-quitting · 2017-06-02T12:52:55+00:00

Take it easy bro, you're doing good. You need to realize that you are taking in a great deal of information in a short amount of time. You are trying to undo two decades of bad habits in a short amount of time. Not easy

As cliche as it is first advice is to lift this is non negotiable. Lifting increases all aspects of your life. It's not just muscles, its knowing you can put yourself through pain, knowing you have the discipline to do something you don't enjoy and doesn't feel good (at first). The mental benefits of lifting greatly outweigh the physical ones.

Second keep reading. Implement the advice you get here slowly. Baby steps. You can't undo 20 years in a couple of months. If you're in this your in this for the long haul you're in for life. Take your time do what you can. Even when you don't see results be happy in knowing that you are still working at it.

"Patience is the hardest to bear, but it bears the sweetest of fruits"

mallardcove · 2017-06-02T13:28:44+00:00

First steps should be to stop being skinny fat and lose weight and get into shape.

SovereignSoul76 · 2017-06-02T15:09:43+00:00

Pick achievable goals. Can you run a mile? Can you do 5 pull-ups? Can you hold eye contact with a female stranger for 5 seconds?

Telling yourself "I'm going to be confident starting....NOW!" is a good start, but when you're actually setting goals and making them a reality...that's the shit right there, my man.

MattyAnon · 2017-06-02T23:54:45+00:00

, but it's as if those that poke and prod at me are always one step ahead. I think of something witty to put them in their place after disrespecting me, and they instantly have something else to throw at me.

This takes practice and experience.

The fundamental problem is that you CARE what they think of you. Previously you lost. Now you fight back, but you still CARE. You now CARE that you win.

You can answer all shit by looking at the perpetrator and saying "oh", completely matter of factly. Look at them. Then get back to whatever you were doing.

Putting them in their place is NOT how you win. You win by being funnier and not caring. And not TRYING to show you don't care. Really by not caring.

If they're funny, you can say "haha good one". But don't CARE what's said.

. I'm not prepared to enter that realm when I'm not even able to establish a footing in the workplace or with friends

You're making excuses.

. I've been reading the material but it's all so overwhelming, I don't really know what my first steps should be.

Be as attractive as possible, approach women, slowly escalate until they leave.

intradasting350 · 2017-06-02T16:39:50+00:00

TRP is a philosophy, not a method. There is nothing in particular that you need to put in practice. Everything will fall into place as you digest the knowledge here.

Title	Confused
Author	MalignantReformation
Upvotes	3
Comments	7
Date	June 2, 2017 11:49 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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