How to manage feelings of intimidation towards alpha women. Smart and Independent women who stage a character and defy TRP truths.

Archwinger · 2017-06-29T20:01:52+00:00

You talk to them like you'd talk to anybody else. Like they're your bratty sister. Like they're some old lady in line at the bank. Like they're some dude in front of you at the coffee shop.

The reason you're fucking up is because you're imagining that there's some kind of special technique or preparation or approach you need to deal with this special kind of person. There is not. Because these are not special people. They're just women, like any other. So you talk to them like any other.

What's the absolute worst that can happen? You walk up, say hello like you would to anybody else, and the woman comes unglued? "WTF are you talking to me for! You pig! I'm strong and independent and don't tolerate loser men approaching me! LOSER!"

What would you do if a chubby old lady in line at the bank said that to you? You'd probably laugh, shrug your shoulders, and walk off, right? That's how you treat these "alpha women". Like anybody else.

JackGetsIt · 2017-06-29T22:51:12+00:00

This was a real weakness of mine growing up. Partially because of my mother doing most of the parenting. I had a great dad but he was ill and sidelined... I had it bad. Let's just call it pedestalizing mixed with freeze up syndrome. Nothing really fixed it for me.

I joined sports/social clubs and got more female attention; helped but didn't fix it.

I dated/lived with a smoke show girl in college and got to see her taking a shit and all her ugly sides; helped but didn't fix it.

I got my heart ripped out by an ex wife; helped but didn't fix it.

I forced my self to approach a lot more and be a space alien a bit in social situations; helped but didn't fix it.

I constantly go out and meet and date women that I couldn't have dated when I was younger; helped but didn't fix it.

I spent years seeking out social situation, jobs and a career where I would be around women and people in general; helped but didn't fix it.

I read countless books like Dale Carneige's How to Win Friends and Influence people; helped but didn't fix it.

Now I look back at my current middle aged self and I no longer pedestalize...

Every women I meet, no matter how beautiful, is just average or below average until I get to know her better or fuck her a few times.

Somewhere along the line I fixed it and there was no book or silver bullet or magical quote from a PUA. I just fixed it by putting myself out and failing more. You need to get out there and do the thing you don't want to do and fail with women.

I think a lot of pedestalization stems from the fact that you give women the power to rank you. One of the many secrets you learn when start failing more is that women specifically try to rank you to see how you will react to being ranked/rejected. IT'S A GAME. The female blue pill world narrative teaches young men that if a women rejects you or scoffs your approaches then you simply are not a man or not worthy of fucking/dating a good looking women. This is complete bullshit. Do you realize how many stories there are of famous actors and athletes and PUA, and Doctors that have been resoundingly rejected by women? It's enormous. It's practically a meme. Women reject men for lots of reasons and it's rarely actually related to your real SMV. It could be she's married (and want more convincing!), on her period, not in the mood, looking for a niche guy, stuck on a fantasy, feeling that you're too good, etc. etc. etc. She didn't reject you, just how you presented yourself in that moment. Women live in that emotional moment. Positively charge that emotional moment and you've increased your odds tenfold of landing whoever you're talking too.

Another thing that helped me through a lot of the pedestalization is realizing that women really really love men. They absolutely love the dick! Short dick, fat dick, muscular dick, geeky dick, foreign dick, redneck dick, surfer dude dick, poor dick, rich dick, old dick.... but almost never WEAK/TIMID dick. I guarantee you that no matter what type of guy you are, if you own it, there's a metric shit ton of women that want to smell your dick. You just need to put yourself in their vicinity and be at ease enough to say, "hi I have a penis, you have a vagina, we should smash!"

The hottest girls in the world regularly go through phases where they don't feel that hot and fuck regular dudes to make them self feel better. You could be that dude! There's also a ton of amazing looking women that because of social media, friends, no dad, and feminism feel like they are ugly and worthless (actually I think you could make an argument that this is the majority of American women today). A simple smile and a joke and these girls are often putty in your hands. Get out there and start molding them!

Hope some of this helps!

Side note 1: this journey took me about 20 years. If you want to speed it up then listen to quality male role models in your life and just get out there and fail faster!

Side note 2: I'd highly recommend this underrated post from seddit last year --->

https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/4o83me/why_you_absolutely_must_be_a_space_alien/

Love8Death · 2017-06-29T20:56:48+00:00

Lol they don't defy RP truths. You're pedestalizing them.

They're still just women and are beneath you, or should be, if you're not shitty.

Look for their weakness, they always show tells of their insecurity. There are no alpha women.

Though you will occasionally meet a woman with truly powerful frame. But that's like, 0.1%.

If a woman's ego and confidence is higher than yours, you'll feel intimidated, and it tells you you need to work on your ego and confidence.

DubbleFUPAwitCheez · 2017-06-29T22:13:33+00:00

It's a facade. It's just the face they show the world. If you've read enough TRP you've probably heard about smashing someones frame. Have you ever experienced a woman doing a 180 on her personality? From a bitch to a sweetheart in a short period of time? That's that.

Break their frame. If they're feminists it should be easy, just don't let them get away with the "i'm not one of THOSE feminists.".

edwardhwhite · 2017-06-29T21:16:17+00:00

they just have level 100 bitch shields

Title	How to manage feelings of intimidation towards alpha women. Smart and Independent women who stage a character and defy TRP truths.
Author	29thofmarch2017
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Date	June 29, 2017 7:56 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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