She doesnt do any work in bed

[deleted] · 2018-05-01T09:46:22+00:00

She had an emotional breakdown when asked to put more effort in sex? That's not your problem, and to be fair - plenty of girls that do put work in so I wouldn't stick to it.

Talisman64 · 2018-05-01T09:46:35+00:00

If she won't put in the work to please you,she shouldn't be allowed to enjoy your dick.

Sex is a 2 way street.

ElijahBurningWoods · 2018-05-01T09:46:07+00:00

I used to be in the same boat. I nexted her.

MisterRoid · 2018-05-01T11:13:56+00:00

You should tell her how to improve, and not expect her to read your mind like a little girl. If she's using too much teeth during blowjobs or being too rough with your dick, tell her that.

vandaalen · 2018-05-01T10:39:53+00:00

It's your fault if she doesn't know how to properly do those things. You are supposed to teach her how you want it. A woman who is attracted to you will be eager to please you and especially things where she feels like she is in control of your pleasure (and subsequently you), like blowjobs and riding you, will really turn them on.

Start giving her specific instructions and give her some feedback ad cheer her if she is doing something right. Moan, tell her "Oh! You dirty little slut." in a surprised tone, compliment her on her improvement etc. pp.

Two_kids_in_a_coat · 2018-05-01T12:15:53+00:00

Read the sex god method. This is your fault. Give her direction, put her to work. Praise her when she does good.

Women want to be turned into dirty little whores for the right man. Be that man.

ghosts_of_me · 2018-05-01T12:38:14+00:00

Dont tell her to "put in more effort"

Say "hey it would be sweet if you got good at twerking on dick. Hop on cowgirl and try it"

MattyAnon · 2018-05-01T13:04:55+00:00

> Is there a way I can motivate her to start practicing riding me?

Yes and no.

There's a lot you can do - mostly encouraging, teasing, forwards/backwards, telling her what to do at the right time, etc. But read on.

> Once when I asked her to put in more effort she had an emotional breakdown after which I sent her home.

Like a child bursting into tears when told "Clear up your room" ?

I've never had good results with "do more" and "don't be like a sack of potatoes". Teasing and even "ok, this isn't working for me, let's do something else" work better.

The problem is the girl, possibly lack of attraction. You might be able to train her up better, but it's almost certainly not worth it.

There's also a bigger problem here: you've committed yourself to be exclusive with a girl who isn't what you want. Why did you do that? Answer this honestly to yourself and you'll see the problem.

Herdsengineers · 2018-05-01T14:18:53+00:00

just get her on top, then grab her hips tell her "do it like this" and then guide her how you want her to move. talk to her about much you like it, how much she's satisfying you, how sexy she looks while she's doing it. you know - validate and stroke her ego while guiding her. you'll have to do something to overcome whatever headspace issues she clearly has.

she's likely very insecure about something with sex, knows she's not good at it, and telling her that just hits her in the insecurity, hence the breakdown. so don't tell her. just coach her, show her, and guide her while having sex with her, and use your words to guide her mind away from the insecurity. and in this case, less is more. Just simple sentences - "do it like this", then go into how good it feels and how sexy it is. and for god sake, don't say anything that could refer to her lack of skill like "oh that's so much better" because it implies she was crappy in bed before.

deeze6 · 2018-05-01T14:08:38+00:00

Is she out of shape? I've had girls that are awful riding cowgirl because they simply don't possess the stamina to ride you long enough to bring themselves to orgasm. Or they simply don't know how....

HappySmaug · 2018-05-01T16:03:19+00:00

Get a hoola hoop for her. It will help train her hip motion.

[deleted] · 2018-05-02T15:42:23+00:00

Have you ever taught a woman to fuck or did you always get leftovers?

One reason I know my wife had little to no experience when we dated is because I had to teach her everything. She was not very good but I was up for the challenge.

You’ve got to learn their way of communication. Some people respond to negative reinforcement and others respond to positive. If you treat the wrong girl like shit she might accept it as a challenge but if you use that same mindset on another woman she may feel that she can’t do it so she won’t even try.

Blackedoutsky · 2018-05-01T11:44:42+00:00

Most of them dont know how to do anythibf, just fk her brains out.... Make her practice sucking dick tho everytime you can though, show her videos and all.

fuck-fuck-fuck-fuck- · 2018-05-01T18:26:11+00:00

Sucks at blowjobs and does no work in bed?

And if she can’t handle a sexual discussion without breaking down, she’s an intellectual child as much as she is a sexual child.

Be rid of her.

IncelNoMore · 2018-05-01T21:59:42+00:00

Teach her, lead her, ask for specific things. Move her around, show her videos, whatever.

I trained my girlfriend from a very vanilla and boring lay to my best fuck. It took me months, and I did all the work.

[deleted] · 2018-05-01T12:24:28+00:00

Ex used to suck at blowjobs and sex. For example doggy style she would go forward when i went back so I kept popping out eventually I said fuck it and broke up with her. She was Crazy and Shit at sex so not worth. Next her.

acekilo · 2018-05-01T17:13:43+00:00

She gave you that starfish sex!!! Lol

Title	She doesnt do any work in bed
Author	Lyxeka
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Date	May 1, 2018 9:04 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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