How do I stop seeking validation for everything I do?

HotStickySemen · 2018-05-05T17:30:50+00:00

You need more self awareness.Catch yourself about to or while doing it,and stop.

redhawkes · 2018-05-05T18:31:06+00:00

Read No More Mr Nice Guy and apply, what you do is known as covert contract.

Phoenixston · 2018-05-05T18:24:15+00:00

Start doing things for yourself. It took me getting out into the real world before I realized that no one else is going to be watching out for you, let alone giving a shit about you. Truly accept that everyone is self-interested and you’ll no longer seek validation.

chazthundergut · 2018-05-06T02:22:12+00:00

Start by picking one behavior that you'd like to stop doing. And stop doing it.
Next, find one thing you could do every day to improve your life. And do it every single day.

That should get you started on the long and arduous path of self-validation. Good luck young man.

Slipstream17X · 2018-05-05T23:15:31+00:00

I was the same and TBH I still rely on validation from women to a fair degree (or maybe as a test that what I’m doing is working, I don’t know).

I think it’s a confidence thing. You’re not confident enough to look at your own progress and conclude that it’s good (or not).

Mauls · 2018-05-06T12:50:48+00:00

Research affirmations and incantations, do them in the morning. Get clear on how you wish to be and repeat daily for a month.

Title	How do I stop seeking validation for everything I do?
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Date	May 5, 2018 5:16 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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