Want to hang out? VS Want to go on a date?

Peter_B_Long · 2018-05-11T00:50:59+00:00

which is better to ask.

Try not to ask. For sure DO NOT use "want" in your question. Say, "Let's grab a drink this weekend?", "Meet me for a coffee tomorrow?" LET'S & MEET ME are the only 2 I use. You're showing dominance and leadership but you're still asking her.

I agree with all of your points under "Hang out pros"

Makes sure she doesn't have a boyfriend when she's with you [ probably haha ]

If she's "hanging out" alone with you and she has a boyfriend, then she most likely is DTF. She's either REALLY into you that she's risking her relationship, or you're so beta that you're not a threat and she will tell her boyfriend that you're her gay friend.

Conveys more intent

Asking to hangout alone with you already conveys intent. Unless you say some shit like, "you seem sooooo cool, I have to meet you!" she's gonna know your intentions, even if she pretends that she has no clue.

Might get things moving faster

Your frame, game, and escalation determine how fast things move, not how you ask a question.

Seems more ballzy

I actually agree on this one, but if you're going for ballzy, I'd go with something like, "I'm gonna be in downtown tomorrow at 8:30pm. Come meet me" or even ballzier, "I'm picking you up tomorrow at 7pm. Dress pretty for me."

am I just insane and overthinking everything?

You're just new, and I can see myself asking these kinds of questions when I first started getting into game. Keep studying, keep learning, and keep practicing.

Phoenixston · 2018-05-11T00:36:09+00:00

I never really ask for either. Just invite them out, if you’ve led up to that point correctly then your intentions will be as obvious as inviting her over to your place.

MartinMcFlyy · 2018-05-11T00:32:28+00:00

This all depends on your frame. Chad will never ask a girl out on a date lol SHE will be the one to ask to hangout.

nicholasbuchanan · 2018-05-11T00:34:07+00:00

Date if you want to get things rolling and to make your intentions clear

Hangout if you're not sure you want to date this person yet, ie: get to know them in a more chill setting

this is my 18 year old guy's advice

Title	Want to hang out? VS Want to go on a date?
Author	DietDonut
Upvotes	1
Comments	7
Date	May 11, 2018 12:28 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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