Every time a man says his wife is controlling, he is just "pretending" and exposing his "paranoid, "aggressive" and "fragile male ego," most likely because he hates feminism. Imagine if we said something similar about women who discuss abusive marriages.

pnw_diver · 2015-08-24T22:40:40+00:00

Because God only knows no perspective any man ever had on his marriage could be valid, or legitimate. /s

Imnotmrabut · 2015-08-24T22:50:32+00:00

Just ask Erin Pizzey what was done to her! Terrorism In Action. P¬)

We have had thousands of international studies about male violence but there is very little about why or how women are violent. There seems to be a blanket of silence over the huge figures of violence expressed by women. Because family terrorism is a tactic largely used by women and my work in the domestic violence field is largely with women, I address this problem discussing only my work with women.

The potential for family terrorism may rest dormant for many years, emerging in its full might only under certain circumstances. I found that in many cases it is the dissolution, or threatened dissolution, of the family that calls to the fore the terrorist's destructiveness. It is essential to understand that prior to dissolution, the potential terrorist plays a role in the family that is by no means passive. The terrorist is the family member whose moods reign supreme in the family, whose whims and actions determine the emotional climate of the household. In this setting, the terrorist could be described as the family tyrant, for within the family, this individual maintains the control and power over the other members' emotions.

The family of the emotional terrorist well may be characterized as violent, incestuous, dysfunctional, and unhappy, but it is the terrorist or tyrant who is primarily responsible for initiating conflict, imposing histrionic outbursts upon otherwise calm situations, or (more subtly and invisibly) quietly manipulating other family members into uproar through guilt, cunning taunts, and barely perceptive provocations. (The quiet manipulative terrorist usually is the most undetected terrorist. Through the subtle creation of perpetual turmoil, this terrorist may virtually drive other family members to alcoholism, to drug-addiction, to explosive behavior, to suicide. The other family members, therefore, are often misperceived as the 'family problem' and the hidden terrorist as the saintly woman who "puts up with it all.")

Erin Pizzey (1 January 1998). The Emotional Terrorist and the Violence-prone. Commoners' Pub. ISBN 978-0-88970-103-8.

Lrellok · 2015-08-25T00:46:43+00:00

Linguistic double standards have long bounced between the sexes, and while self-assured men are praised for being assertive, undaunted women are often damned as being bossy, or controlling.

Self assured men do not need women, and thus do not see any reason to tell women what to do. The fact that we are discussing women telling men what to do invalidates the entire above claim.

Ultramegasaurus · 2015-08-25T06:19:15+00:00

Why do men pretend that their wives are tyrants?

Women have pretendend that all men are tyrants for 50-100 years now. The result can be seen easily nowadays: a culture which ridicules, shames, chastises and punishes men for anything they do or do not do.

JayBopara · 2015-08-25T04:27:27+00:00

More of the same. Feminism in a nutshell. Women are angels. Men are devils. Move along people.

666Evo · 2015-08-26T22:37:41+00:00

Happy wife, happy life

Yeah, nah, society hasn't reinforced this at all...

Tmomp · 2015-08-25T12:40:09+00:00

Should we teach women not to abuse the system?

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