I'm scared af

MTedc2018 · 2021-08-16T19:41:39+00:00

Obviously nobody knows your situation and what’s in your respective hearts…it’s a brutal decision and a worse process. If you have exhausted your options and really, really tried to make it work but it hasn’t…it’s usually over. I’m probably only about halfway through the divorce process at this point in time, it’s been nine months of agony. So many times second guessing, but if it’s never going to be great again don’t you deserve better?

RepresentativeOk5968 · 2021-08-16T23:22:03+00:00

Whatever decision you make, live with it. No decision you make will be 100% right or 100% wrong; you just have to live with it. Playing the "what if I made a mistake" game will drive you crazy. Select a path and forget the one not taken.

OkFox5030 · 2021-08-17T01:09:17+00:00

I’m in the same boat now going back and forth in my head. My last step is to try martial counseling. Maybe this will help.. it’s a decision that I won’t regret.

pegleg_legal · 2021-08-17T00:28:53+00:00

difficulty separating your emotions for the both of them may be a sign you should try to reconcile. For me, my kids are my kids and she is her - while I waivered back and forth about her, it was never really related to the kids. Maybe that's just me. Try writing down your feeling on paper, it helps to stop the round and round.

iamjameslee16 · 2021-08-17T10:13:06+00:00

Tbh. As one who got through a divorce from one who had been faithful and loving and me not being so loving and having children.

At the time frankly I really couldnt see another way. And even now if I were to go back I wouldnt have been able to see another way.

Having crossed the bridge. I will say this.

I would do anything to go back.

But you wont get this until you suffer. That I dont wish on you friend. But if you are to work at it you would be really doing everything and more.. which I dont know if you are willing to do until you face the mad slap of reality and its consequences.

Im voting down on this one. If you are scared brother.. its not too late. Run back. I wish I knew what I know now... but we humans are unfortunately retarded.

sicrm · 2021-08-17T14:03:44+00:00

My parents got divorced and my dad still says my mom was the best wife he could have had... and I can see the regret in his eyes. I'm completely scared.

unless both of them talked in depth about their marriage, you don’t really know how good of a spouse either of them were.

Title	I'm scared af
Author	andyhdzdelgado
Upvotes	8
Comments	11
Date	August 16, 2021 7:16 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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