Apologizing

fluviant · 2014-01-10T23:27:37+00:00

Instead of apologizing, acknowledge that you were wrong and own up to it. Do not apologize, just flat-out say that, yeah, you were wrong.

Be unapologetic.

rebuildingMyself · 2014-01-11T00:30:19+00:00

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ozymodeus · 2014-01-10T23:43:50+00:00

Never listen to advice from cracked unless substantiated by a reliable source.

rem0nster · 2014-01-10T23:51:38+00:00

I never apoligize to women. I find that you earn a lot more respect from men if you do though.

jabberwockysuperfly · 2014-01-11T07:17:34+00:00

There's a book called Hagakure. It's basically the "Meditations" of a Tokugawa-era samurai.

He says that a real man should never apologize. At best it makes you seem careless and like you don't think things through before acting. At worst,you appear to be insincere, and willing to lie to escape the consequences of your actions.

He says essentially that you should be absolutely certain before you do something, that it is the right thing to do, and be totally willing to stand by your choices, no matter what the outcome.

Of course this philosophy is a bit removed from our time and place. But I think it's still got some real truth to it.

BloodRoseTRP · 2014-01-11T03:12:41+00:00

People like you when you apologise not for the apology itself, but because they recognise you can realise your genuine mistakes. However, if you apologise too often and/or when you are not wrong, that's when people will unanimously see you as weak and a pushover.

In my experience, women don't require an apology. It's like LMR, where they hamster away their responsibility.

"I'm not offended at all, in fact it makes me tingly when he does that, but I will act offended anyway because I need to look oppressed."

ajswdf · 2014-01-11T04:38:16+00:00

The importance of not apologizing is actually something I learn in /r/TalesFromRetail. When you say sorry, even if you clearly aren't admitting to doing something wrong, people still interpret it as you admitting to being wrong.

If you're in the right, don't apologize. If you're in the wrong, apologize quickly and fix your mistake if you can.

rporion · 2014-01-10T23:59:24+00:00

Do never apologize if you think you were right.

Do apologize when you know that you were wrong.

People despise weakness and exploit it, but when they know that you do not do it because you must but because you are strong enough that you can, they will respect you more.

FortunateBum · 2014-01-11T01:54:50+00:00

I think that the rules are different for men. For women? Sure, you can do this.

2014-01-10T23:24:44+00:00

Never apologize unless you are absolutely unequivocally in the wrong. And then only do it very quickly and efficiently.

ScannerSloppy · 2014-01-11T13:48:21+00:00

My philosophy professor was big on the difference between "apology" as understand by the Greeks who originated the term and it's modern English usage. To ancient Greeks, to offer an apology meant to explain the reasoning behind your thoughts and actions. An apology as an admission of wrong-doing is a more modern concept.

slutworship · 2014-01-11T04:48:06+00:00

There is nothing wrong with apologizing to a girl if you did something wrong, but only do it once. Some like to play that game of 'I don't think you really mean it', and I usually just say you can believe it or not or do you expect a fucking parade or something? I'm not gonna jump through a bunch of hoops just to appease some drama queen.

MahlerNinth · 2014-01-11T09:13:50+00:00

Don't "be sorry", but be aware when you did something wrong.

Saying "yeah, I made a mistake, I'll fix that now" makes you look a lot stronger than when you show weakness. People apologize all the time for small things, but it's harder to own up to a mistake.

Captain_of_the_ship · 2014-01-11T02:21:33+00:00

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Title	Apologizing
Author	The_BitterTruth
Upvotes	17
Comments	34
Date	January 10, 2014 11:22 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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