Brief info : this conversation is 4 months old. we were students in the same group. had friendly, but kinda distant relationship with her (i never texted and never invited her out. just used to chill with her a few times after uni)

after 1 month of not seeing or contacting each other

[3 am]

her: Miss you

me: Bet you're drunk. miss you too. what's up

her: No, i'm past those days now. I don't know, im in a horrible mood. what about you?

me: I'm good. What happened?

her: I was hurt by someone who could have hurt me the most (wtf was she saying at this point)

me: Who? No way that i can meet you right now(duh its 3am), but if i can be of any help, tell me.

her: No, no. Just some problems with Chad(her bf or some shit)

me: In that case it's none of my business- can't help you there (told her in friendly way, not rude)

her: haha no, i will take care of it myself

.... and this was followed by some chit-chat for the next 10 minutes, nothing important, really.

so my questions:

  1. was she trying to use me as emotional tampon? I don't think it was the reason as i have never really showed any provider/beta traits to her. whats your opinion?

  2. was she trying to hook up for the night? I have never received any IOIs from her before, so i think its unlikely. what do you think?

  3. Is "writing to a guy at 3am for no reason" a normal thing or am i overthinking this situation?