does anyone else relate

Glad-Discount-4761 · 2023-01-21T01:16:14+00:00

I want validation from men and that's it lol.

Even though I would love good looks but no need because looks dont even last a decade for woman.I would be more happier if some random magic turn me into actual man so that I will escape endometriosis and get love from mom lol

Opening_Pattern_301 · 2023-01-20T15:32:45+00:00

It used to be my reality years ago, i was so obssesed with the idea of being liked by girls rather than just getting girls, that the moment i put myself there after doing some hard work, the moment i would get a chance for casual, my interest for that girl would tank, like the only thing that mattered to me was to be sexually desired rather than having sex because it made me feel validated, after all, i was also raised in that culture where a man's manhood is equivalent to the amount of women who desire him. Whenever i would get the validation i desired so much, i would feel a high for a while, but then it would tank and i would start chasing it again until it became a deadly spiral, as the mere action of a woman not acting the way i wanted would cause me inmense self doubt, pain, my fake confidence would tank, and the worst part is that most of the time i didnt even liked the woman but i liked the fact that she liked me, horrible situation to be in, after a lot of self reflect i realized what my psychology was and i managed to break free, validation addiction is real and it is fucking up a lot of people mentally, specially men

TsugaC · 2023-01-20T16:02:07+00:00

I feel like most pilled men are far more interested in validation than sex, and most are actually just clinically depressed and suffer the wrong idea that a girlfriend will cure their depression.

2023-01-20T16:00:02+00:00

does anyone else want validation rather than sex

Yeah.

hutavan · 2023-01-20T16:40:26+00:00

I somewhat relate. I think I could live without sex or relationships just fine (close intimate friendships and jerking off are a decent substitute imo), but I can't stand the knowledge that I'm objectively a subhuman and I think some validation would give me exactly what I need to live a happy life. I lived a perfectly fulfilled life until I got blackpilled, especially on height. Even my grades and motivation suffered.

But in a way I'm different than you. I don't want to be more attractive/taller, I actually want to stay the way I am (because that's what I identify with), and instead I wished women found that look just as attractive as the hyper-masculine Chad ideal.

Of course I would like a relationship ideally, but I could also easily do without it if only my phenotype wasn't perceived as shit-tier by women.

inkvellion432 · 2023-01-20T17:55:48+00:00

I'm kindve mixed about this. I do want a girlfriend but now my current priority is getting a bunch of cosmetic work done on my face... for that I need to save up tens of thousands of dollars to get 🥺. After almost 25 years of being alone and being rejected 6 times, I am not delusional enough to think that your average girl would find me physically attractive enough at this point to be with.

As you said yourself, prettyboy is the new meta, and approaching 25 in March, I am older looking and have facial lines and balding. The only good thing about me is that I'm in shape, and that's because that's really the only thing about myself that I can truly control. My skincare products haven't reverted me back to looking like the way I was when I was 18, and my hairloss medication hasn't given me back all the hair that I've lost over the years, but I still keep taking them with the fear in the back of my mind, that my situation would even be worse without them.

And lastly my standards for women themselves, I personally find them reasonable but I guess women don't, but I'm assuming that just comes from them not wanting to take responsibility for their own actions in life, and also them wanting to have their cake and eat it too.

Average looking, fit, virgin, monogamous minded, not an agreeable dumb slave, but also someone who won't just start fights with me unnecessarily. I do want someone to talk to and have deep conversations with and I do want a 2nd opinion on things.

I'm not entirely sure if I want children. I've always wanted to be a father, but at the same time I'm always in constant fear about passing down my physically unattractive physical features down to my own children, thereby condemning them to live the same terrible life that I had to live.

no_bling_just_ding · 2023-01-20T20:05:13+00:00

tbh im not even monstrously ugly just gardien variety subhuman though id like sex (NOT HOOKING UP) its more that my life is just utter shit i have no friends outside of campus because i live in a secluded area where not even the age dmeographics are in my favor, my job prospects are slim to none in the future as a CScel, and half the fucking time i want to do something my depression is stopping me from moving. i don't even play video games as much as i used to anymore

debatelord_1 · 2023-01-20T20:18:59+00:00

Can relate. I like attention.

SilentFroggy · 2023-01-21T02:42:59+00:00

Yes I do. It’s narcissism and a lot of guys and girls want the desire to be better than others. I’m surprised many guys are admitting it here. I wouldn’t know what percentage of guys choose to be incels because of this. But I’m sure 90% of femcels just want to be the pretty ones.

Title	does anyone else relate
Author	puririnpa
Upvotes	6
Comments	46
Date	January 20, 2023 3:14 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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