If you’re not her “first”, it’s over

I’m (37M) my wife (45F) still wears the engagement from her first marriage literally everyday. Her first husband let’s call him Marcus because that’s his name and I’m not going to keep typing out “her first husband”

Some context because I know everyone’s going to have a lot of assumption: Marcus and my wife met when they were very young, they married young, first love type of shit. Marcus travels a lot for work and after 7 years of marriage my wife and Marcus decided that their marriage isn’t going to work because of the constant traveling. My wife wanted to settle down in one place. This is the reason for why their marriage ended, nothing too crazy. They don’t have any kids together

Marcus got my wife a 4 carat diamond ring from James Allen. He never asked for it back after they divorced. He didn’t want it back, he told her to keep it. They don’t talk to each other anymore, they lost in touch so long ago

She always wore this engagement ring even after the divorce and I met her when she was still wearing it. Originally she wore it to prevent guys from hitting on her also she just really loves rings and jewelry, she wears a lot of rings. This engagement ring is her dream ring

I don’t have that much money to be honest. I’m just an average Joe. I’m not poor but I’m not rich. I don’t live pay check to pay check or anything. I’m just normal. Because of this my wife said after we get married it’s fine we don’t have to get each other super expensive rings or anything, she can just wear the rings she has now. We got each other wedding bands though, she wears the wedding band I got her everyday

It bothers me that she still wears that engagement ring even though it doesn’t mean anything anymore. I don’t want to bring this up to her because I don’t want to come off as some kind of control freak that tells a woman what they can or cannot do