A lot of women are awfully entitled to male company and friendship

238 points•1,092 comments•submitted by TopNYJeweler to r/PurplePillDebate

I was reading a threat in r/ TwoXChromosomes (I know, I know) and a lot of women were complaining that male coworkers stop speaking to them, or stop going to lunch with them, when they find that she is in a committed relationship. I find it odd that even lesbians (especially lesbians, for some reason) complain about this, as men simply cut them dry if they find they have no chance with them. Personally, I think this makes perfect sense and those men are being honest and open about what they want or not.

The fact is that a lot of men are not looking for female friends, they don't need or want friends, especially at work. Men who talk and relate to women want sex or dating or a relationship and family. If the woman is on a relationship, she is just not worth a man to stay around. Besides, being a friend of a woman with a bf or husband is a way to find problems. It makes no sense to take that risk.

Being a male friend also implies a lot of responsibilities with usually zero reward, except maybe some status. You are expected to put her first, fix her stuff, carry heavy stuff, help her move, emotional labor, accompany her to car at night, etc. Even at work, and HR can get mad if you don't help a woman, even if it is beyond your job.

A lot of women also see you as second options if the relationships end, and most men don't want to be second options... porn is way more satisfying than that. It is humiliating and dehumanizing.

This gets my wonder if this explains the so-called male loneliness "problem". Maybe it is not as much a problem at all, men simply are choosing loneliness over doing free labor for women. They don't care as much about friendship as women do, especially if it implies non-reciprocated responsibilities, and that is also perfectly valid. Men often have more niche hobbies, their own businesses, investments, etc. so maybe loneliness is not as bad for them after all if you account for that.

(I can share the thread if you want, but I don't know if it is allowed)

TLDR: A lot of women feel awfully entitled to male company, friendship and protection, even without those men getting anything back.