I’m going to try and keep this short to give a broad picture and in need of some help guys.

Basically I have been in a miserable marriage for 23 years and stuck it out until my done was 21. I realized when he was about 12 how wrong I was to marry and have a child with this woman. I’m an airline pilot and I’m not home as often as I would love to be, but I’m out working it’s what I have to do to provide. I never asked my wife to work, we agreed she can stay home and raise our son. Turns out she used my job against me and my absence to make herself indispensable to my son. He has no friends and is terribly aggressive, narcissistic, and arrogant (much the reflection of his mother). I should have tried to turn this when he was 12 but I didn’t want him to grow up in a broken home if I could just try and save my marriage and him...

My wife is the most professional and impressive narcissistic manipulative people I have ever come across and I’m ashamed I fell into it. Needless to say after some severe events, if anyone neeeeds I’ll divulge. However, I couldn’t do it anymore. Now I’m in the middle of a nasty divorce getting my ass handed to me because I have to fly across seas for several days to work and make money as this proceeds. While I’m away she still does not work and she pays everything to my more than adult 22 yr old son who should and has every opportunity to work and do things on his own. Mommas boy to the max that it almost startles to how odd and close their relationship is.

Basically she has mastered PR and has not much else to do with her time but kenive. I should also mention she is a Christian Scientist which is all fine and well, but used and interpreted wrongly is extremely dangerous and brainwashing. This has been the case of my son, she can document anything and refer it to a book and justify all action and bend it to the principles of the religion. I honestly feel gaslighted my whole marriage and can’t snap my son out of it. He has no real concept on reality and she can play normal people to her will. I have had little time to build rapor or deal with lawyers and such as I cannot get time off work to do so and she uses my lack of time to her advantage and has built her law cases against me with her lawyer out to just hurt me. I’m the third man to divorce her and I think she’s taking it all out on me. I want out guys.

My lawyers aren’t much helping and I need serious legal advice. She declines every offer I make her( my wife) and her attorney must hate life for how brutal and unreasonable this is getting. Personally as a pilot I made comfortable money and I think she is wanting to get every last penny from me as a lawyer and my wife is to interested in making me suffer she fails to realize my money is the only money going to support us here. She’s further tying to hide money with my son, who as long as he gets his penny doesn’t care whom he steps on. Religiously I’m persecuted because I don’t want to be with her so I must be angry abusive and hateful for having a for disapproving of what has unfolded.

I need lawyers that can just nail some one. Or advise on how to beat this type of person and come out of this able to live and at least provide for myself. She’s not a helpless woman she just a mean narcissist who I can’t get away from. I have tried all fair splits I can think of and she spoke to all high end attorneys before I got in town from a trip and shred about with each that they won’t or cannot work with me. Thus I was forced to a lower scale less experienced lawyer while she’s set with great experience. Guys I can’t quit work but I need help. Ideas? How to you beat this

Also, sorry for typos and spellcheck, typing in phone here