Always wanted a family…

I want to keep this short. I always wanted a family. I want to be married and I want children. Currently I am married. Problem is my wife can’t conceive. Done a bunch of tests, I’m not the problem (doc said “ideal sperm”).

Wife refuses to cooperate with optimizing our chances. Doctors say she has to lose weight and then there might be better chances. She does have PCOS if anyone is familiar with this.

I’ve been at a loss for what to do next. I feel betrayed and rejected by my wife doing the opposite of what we both presumably want. Refusing to live healthy. Refusing medical care other than finding a pill that will work its magic.

Been lurking on here for a long time. I feel like I’m in a one sided relationship like many others here express. I make the money, do chores and care for my wife when he can’t get out of bed.

We had a big long talk six weeks ago about what must happen this year for us to work out. I clearly stated I needed her to cooperate and try to get to a physical condition where conception would happen.

We have other smaller issues too but nothing as major as this.

Now I’m at a point where seeing how she behaves would be a disaster if we had a child now.

Been married a year or so. I talked with a lawyer in my country and the split would only cost me about $1.000 if she refuses a divorce.

TLDR: Wife won’t try to get healthy. No chance of family and kids if she doesn’t. My biggest desire in life is building a family. Been married 1 year. At a loss for what to do next.