My wife (soon to be ex, divorce paper work was filed by her 2 days ago) took our son out of our shared apartment either at night or early morning without me knowing. I had to ask where she was Sunday when I noticed they were missing. She’s staying at her dad’s house (the same one she’s complained about our entire 2 year marriage). He has money so obviously she went running back for support and $$$.

She’s refused to let me see our son. I finally was able to FaceTime him today but she’s been adamant that she will not let me see him in person unless there’s a formal custody order in place. I just paid for a retainer on an attorney today, and we have a follow up next week to go through her complaint.

I believe she is going to try to claim she works part time and I need to pay support for her to watch our son full time. She makes more money that I do but can’t keep a steady job without quiting due to someone being out to get her.

She’s had mental health issues in the past, been violent towards me and accused me of cheating. She’s threatened divorce over 10 times in these 2 years and thank fuck it’s about to over…

At this point, I have asked her to see our son, and she’s still refusing. Anyone been in a similar situation? Any advice? I’m going to keep texting her regarding our son, and make sure that I am focused on being a part of his life, but she is withholding him from me.

For context, I’ve never been violent to her, never had police called, no violent history or criminal record. Not even a speeding ticket to my name. I’m trying to keep the long term in mind and make sure I’m moving calmly and reasonably so that her unstable behavior and patterns show in court.