Hi, as the title suggests, my mind is wandering, probably because I'm feeling sick. My ex wanted the children this coming Sunday, but I told her no. She responded that since she is off work, she should have the children.

I tried asking my ex about her work schedule a few weeks ago, but I never received a response. We had an informal agreement that I would have the children every other Sunday, picking them up on Saturday night. My ex is off this coming Sunday and wants the kids. I have told her "no," and she hasn’t acknowledged whether she's okay with me picking them up Saturday. I plan to text her tomorrow evening and then show up to pick the children up Saturday night.

Essentially our schedule means that one parent is getting four nights and the other three nights during the week. The. We flip the number of nights the following week. My ex has been keeping the children on Thursday, Friday, and Saturday. Then Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday I have the children. Then we rotate on Sunday. We've been following this arrangement for about 16 weeks and are currently in the process of mediation.

To return to my original question: Do you share your work schedule with your ex? If your ex tells you their schedule but you choose not to share yours, then any resulting conflicts would be the fault of the person who didn’t disclose their schedule, right?

Thanks!