So this is my first time post so bare with me. I 40m am a service member living in Germany. My spouse 36f came here with me and she cheated, dragged my name through the mud to anyone who would listen to her, threatend to take my kid then asked to work it out. We did the marriage Counseling thing for three months until she said she felt we didn't need it anymore only for her to cheat again 6mo later. I told her she needed to go and in a panic she joined the military. I was surprised they accepted her with all of her medical issues but here we are. I make around 6600 a month and I'm paying her bills as that was what we agreed on and she turned her bills on autopay through my account. I believe she opened a new account and has money going to that account as I am not receiving her pay that should of came in on the 1st of July for her last Civilian employee job. The kid is with me and I am struggling. I'm getting mixed advice some people are telling me to shut her bills down and take care of my own and some are telling me to just pay them as the judge will be more likely to screw her over than to screw me if he sees that I was paying her bills while she was in basic. I don't know what to do as there is no way to contact her in basic. She racked up $374 talking to some dude in the states on the phone bill as well any advice would be great