My income will be reduced significantly starting next month. I was on a salary an now I'll be on commission so my pay will change every month. My ex still does not have a job. I pay lifetime alimony that doesn't change unless my pay changes, her pay changes, or she gets married. I need to try and get my alimony reduced as it was based on making significantly more money. I cannot afford to pay my current bills and continue paying her the same amount in alimony.

I'm curious to hear from other that have gone through this process. Anyone attempt do do it without an attorney? How did it go? For those that used an attorney how much did your attorney charge to handle it? How long did it take to get the alimony amount reduced? For those that are in sales and on commission how did they factor monthly alimony payments each month? Was it a set amount or did it change every month?

I am so stressed out from this. I won't be able to afford to pay rent where I'm at currently. I still cover many bills for my two kids that are in college and terrified I'll have to go to them and tell them I can't do it anymore. I'm 48m and may have to get a roommate or rent a room to afford to live. I'm so down and depressed. I want to start dating but don't know what women will want to be with me given my current financial issues. Same job for 20 years and feel like an absolute failure.