Dating after 1 year post divorce

Technical-Mammoth592 · 2025-08-13T13:36:20+00:00

Just man up brother and go on some dates! Keep hitting the gym! I got divorced last year, but I was so over my ex already I immediately started to hit the dating scene. I didn't like dating multiplle women, not my thing but you got to see what's out there and hopefully find a connection whatever that connection might be! I'm 51 and went out with women from 25 to late 40's. I have a teenager in college so that works out pretty well being single. I finally met an amazing women, early 40's, divorced for a long time, older kids and it's been the best time of my life! Didn't know I would ever build a connection like this with anyone, didn't even have it with my wife. Had no idea what I was missing out on and now that I have seen it and am currently experiencing it, I couldn't be happier. So just know there is someone out there that's gonna knock your socks off, but you won't ever know that until you get off your ass, respectfully. Just do it, you have nothing to loose, you've already lost a lot, so go for it.

woundedsurfer · 2025-08-10T17:07:24+00:00

As a young 40s something, bald man, I feel this pain. My self esteem was super low after my ex cheated on me and subsequent divorce, but then something odd happened. I determined that I will not let this divorce define the rest of my life! I potentially have 40 more years on this earth and I was gonna make them count and I would make the conscience effort to be happy. I got on Hinge and Bumble and start getting matches. I realized women didn’t really mind that I was bald. So I said fuck it and started going on dates. What is there to lose? They either like me or don’t, no skin off my back. I had just gone through the depth of hell and back, so no stranger was gonna make things worse. And wouldn’t you know, I was a great listener and I could make them laugh, I was offering something they weren’t receiving in their last relationship. Then, wha-bam, I fucked a gal on the second date and it was game on!

Moral of the story, you literally have nothing to lose by dating. Go into it with the attitude that you can provide something too, and if they like you, that’s great, and if they don’t, move along to the next. Don’t get bogged down on if they don’t like you, and don’t fall in love with the first woman that has sex with you. Haha

Heavy_Guitar_4848 · 2025-08-10T15:04:17+00:00

I’ve gone on 12 dates since divorce. 1 turned into an 11 month relationship and latest 1 is trending in that direction too. It’s a 2 way road and not all on you to carry the conversation. You both have a lifetime of stuff to talk about so I wouldn’t worry about it. Talking over drinks and having a couple funny stories ready helps too

RDJD5 · 2025-08-10T08:44:51+00:00

Chat with yr matches and go with the ones that made you comfortable. Just be yourself, you are not the only one that has worries on first date? Hope you know what you are looking for.

UnknownUsername113 · 2025-08-10T03:17:56+00:00

Maaaaan… I feel this. My confidence is wrecked. Im 41 now and met my ex wife when I was 26. I was in the zone back then and had a different girl every weekend it seemed. I also felt more comfortable going to a bar and had plenty of friends around then.

One of these days I’ll sack up and get back out there but online dating sucks the big one for most men unless your 6’5” with a 12 pack and making a doctors salary while also being able to devote time to her.

maturin_nj · 2025-08-10T03:14:19+00:00

You don't know how to date. Your probably thinking in terms of relationships instead of just go out and have fun. If you fail to display confidence, you won't be attractive. Most of those old matches won't pan out. If you can't converse with women you have no game. Avoid being the provider male. Be the lover.

Check out a guy on you tube skills of attraction. He's the best I've seen on this stuff.

qmriis · 2025-08-10T01:09:54+00:00

Have you tried not being a little bitch?

I was dating immediately after. But I'm probably a bit off.

Seriously just get out there. It's probably going to suck once or twice. But then you'll be enjoying yourself.

Just do it. Do an easy low stress quick date to start.

midniteXOG · 2025-08-10T00:30:46+00:00

Go out and do it with no expectations. Casual lunch, walk, dinner, etc.

Be upfront with yourself and the other party about the situation

It’s like riding a bike

Mangrove43 · 2025-08-09T23:07:36+00:00

Coffee and a walk. Happy hour drink. Keep it simple until it makes sense to move it. You may need a lot of coffee dates to find something worth pursuing. Also some women want a fancy dinner out of the gate. Stay away from them

Helpful-Paramedic463 · 2025-08-09T22:46:37+00:00

First, just ask them to meet for coffee. Always a casual meeting, low stress, and worst case you're out $10 for some coffee.

Takes a few dates but you'll get your groove back. Confidence is key.

IcyMycologist4837 · 2025-08-09T22:38:22+00:00

It helps to hit it. You will gain a whole new perspective. I dated for a year and half and always bailed before but then this one gal was like let’s do it. Glad I did and wished I had done it sooner.

pooptartone · 2025-08-09T22:24:02+00:00

You answered your question with the last question. Dude I went on more dates than I care to admit the first year. Pick a place that isn’t too fancy or expensive. Coffee shops, brunch restaurants, or maybe meet at a park. I spent so much money on dates that went nowhere. Women are so easy to talk to. They just like to feel wanted and actually paid attention to. Act genuine, ask questions, keep the conversation going, make her laugh…and you’re in. Don’t over explain, or talk about yourself. Just ask questions…if she answers with follow up questions, she is interested. Just pick one online, I don’t give a shit if she isn’t the prettiest girl out there, if you match keep it light hearted then ask her for a meetup at a coffee shop, once you do that a few times you’ll be a pro!

Title	Dating after 1 year post divorce
Author	Kind-Number-419
Upvotes	18
Comments	29
Date	August 9, 2025 10:15 PM UTC (11 months ago)
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