Fellow brothers,

First I want to thank this sub for getting me through one of the most difficult times in my life. I didn’t always post but I was a long time lurker here and I appreciate all the stories and words of wisdom. I know now what it feels like to hit rock bottom and this sub helped me through some dark days

My divorce was finalized last December. I know it’s been said a lot but I felt truly blindsided, maybe I just didn’t see the signs. Regardless I’m doing much better now. I own my own home, have a good job and I’m getting my dream motorcycle tomorrow. I’m happy again for the first time in a while and I’m also in the best shape of my life.One thing still tends to creep up from time to time and wanted to hear the thoughts of anyone here that might have been in the same situation.

I have a very strong hunch my ex cheated on me, although you could say I don’t have 100% proof. This bothers me because I felt I should have done more digging during our separation. Looking back I didn’t think to do this because I felt we would work out our differences. I know it sounds crazy, I need to move on, get her outta my head etc, and ultimately I have with the exception of this one thought. Maybe I would feel a bit better knowing for sure that she did? Then she can be labeled the asshole instead me being the “one that wasn’t good enough”. I’ve been in therapy for the past several months and it’s helped immensely, but it’s also good to hear from other people’s real world experiences. I know I need to drop this and move one and not let her take up space in my head but just wanted to be real with you guys and let you know this is something that still bothers me, however I don’t let it control me like it once did. Any words of advice would be appreciated!

Stay safe out there!