Just wanted to share this as feels positive and lots of (understandable) negativity in this community lol

I went “grey rock” as a new year resolution, she’s constantly looking to fight so any time I reacted on text it would turn into all day back and forth, I just kept getting sucked in, the loop was basically:

  1. She attacks/provokes/accuses/etc

  2. I defend/explain

  3. She re-raises/manipulates/etc

  4. I get triggered and react

Going grey rock, literally every angle she tries now I’m just like “ok thanks for letting me know” etc

And I initially framed the new year with “I just want to focus on parenting logistics, via email”

The texts have stopped and it’s GREAT

it’s insane how much more head space I now have

- no more ruminating

- no more context switching

- no more stress/anger/frustration

Just head space, to think, plan, learn, build my business etc

If you’re caught in that loop, get out asap. 100% worth it