Currently dealing with ex that is spiteful and difficult. Ex refuses to reimburse children’s therapy costs, refuses to communicate regarding coordinating routines to reduce stress of children and refuses to address or coordinate on educational concerns regarding children’s bad grades.

Situation is 50/50 everything, no child support. Children ages 8 and 5.

I’d like to take 60 or 70% physical custody to have kids all of the school days and let HCBM have just weekends. Argument would be that I can manage their homework and studies better and provide them with consistent study schedule. Wouldn’t be asking for child support.

HCBM sends emails repeatedly refusing to address education concerns or offers to coordinate routines on behalf of children. Children report cards just came out showing homework scores as average overall for older child and failing for youngest child. Scores seem low because homework was just not completed rather than submitted with no help. Ex could argue the kids lost the homework or whatever, but emails state she just refuses to even communicate regarding it.

Parenting plan says we must go through mediation before court. What is best strategy to get more custody if possible? Any experience or advice appreciated.