Hi. Been browsing the forums and reading other posts. Marriage isn't over per se, but is at a cross roads.

Have supported my wife over the past 6 years with her infertility problems. In return, she's caused major upheaval with my life, career, etc. she put up with my jobs, etc until it no longer supported her immediate purpose. Then she pushed me to find a new job.

I work in the medical field where moving around is frowned upon. I've worked 3 jobs in 3 years now. Last job sounded good. Location was where she wanted. But catch we're bad hours ( made worse once I started) and a pay cut ( big one). Wife never wanted to adjust her lifestyle. Created a lot of pressure on me financially. It was supposed to be a compromise move, but nothing changed on her end. Our spending went up instead of down. She wanted the same life we had before in a better location. 2nd kid came, and she wanted a lot of help ( nannies).

I worked a lot of hours to support our family. To the point I got exhausted/burnt out. Schedule was hard. Didn't trust my wife would find work like she said she would. She was off loading the parenting to the nannies.

Old job came back with offer and I took it. It was a place we had friends. A life. But not sophisticated enough for her. Hours were better for me. Double the pay.

Anyways, it's been 3 months now. I get at least 2-3 explosions a week about how I'm an a$$hole and selfish. That I f'd up. Etc. she threatens to leave at least once a week or tries to kick me out of the house.

No intimacy in the marriage anymore. Just coexist. Or if something goes wrong, then it's all my fault.

She's depressed. Refuses to get help. I've been talking to a marriage counselor myself.

Doesn't feel like so long ago that things were good and looking up ...