Letting go

dday_throwaway3 · 2018-10-24T12:48:55+00:00

Your wife will never forgive you for the affair, no matter how much she pleads with you to stay and tells you that she will change. (She won't change.)

Everything you want is on the other side of fear.

NoShoesAllProblems · 2018-10-24T03:30:50+00:00

I had a girlfriend I loved a lot that I can't ever seem to move on from. I can't imagine how much that has to hurt you man. Hang in there I believe it gets better.

Ebon13 · 2018-10-24T07:31:40+00:00

How long have you been together? Before I told my wife that I wanted a divorce, I tried numerous times to "fix" the problems we had. The truth was that I was afraid of the unknown. When you've been together with someone for a long time, the thought of being without that person and not knowing what will happen is terrifying. People get so comfortable with a familiar situation that they would prefer to stay unhappy than risk venturing into unfamiliar territory.

Ask yourself: What are you afraid will happen if you leave. If it really is fear holding you back, then that's something you need to admit and face. Good luck!

personguy · 2018-10-24T14:06:41+00:00

What helped me... realizing how many times I doubled down. How many times I recommitted... and how little things changed. Then asking myself "Can I live the rest of my life like this?"

Loneliness is a very powerful deterrent.

sleeze02 · 2018-10-24T17:53:19+00:00

‘Now what do I do’ is a scary and absolute concept; but you gotta do it. Get out of there

Hoggie2878 · 2018-10-24T17:13:46+00:00

Simple phrase to help you, it helped me after a 14 yr relationship. Growth requires change. You need to change the things your doing in order to get to the place you want to be. See it as a necessary step to get to your ultimate goal, happiness.

Theres beauty in the struggle. - J.Cole

Title	Letting go
Author	carryingfire
Upvotes	5
Comments	8
Date	October 24, 2018 3:29 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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