Small town living not a lot of support groups looking for a little knowledge.

Married 14 years, 13 year old child together, House mortgage together Joint credit cards together,

After 7 years happily married her addiction started and the drinking got worse and worse constant fights over drinking and driving when, suspensions after suspensions eventually tallied up to loss of license, well living in a small town and requiring commuting to the city and not wanting to lose her job my wife mother of our child packed a bag and literally snuck off back to the city without you and a goodbye or informing us of what was happening.

6 months without seeing her son, but getting random messages blaming husband for her losing her license.

Over the last 6 months have the cost of running the, child care & typical household bills on my single income has been getting harder and harder.

Pretty sure I know what my next step needs to be but how to get there, lawyer or no lawyer? Separation service? And what kind of cost should I be looking at?