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good u have no kids as the situation would be even more worse with kids. With children, you would be faced with 2 options: Take on more responsibilities to maintain some sense of order, such as cooking and childcare on most of your free days, which would add to your already heavy burden ie doing 80% Neglecting your children's needs, which would lead to even more severe consequences and potentially harm their well-being
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/25 07:04 PM
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Alimony is a stronghold of communism in a capitalism, where mostly the ex gains benefits to minimize her working hours especially in the event of a divorce. while the man is still expected to share his 'converted' free time (i.e., his financial resources) with his EX , she gets to privatize her own free time, without providing any household services in return after separation. So instead of trying to maximize your income n both side in a healthy manner, the vicious game is to maximize poverty ne…
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/25 08:39 PM
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Lesson learned for the others: ⚠️DONT leave the HOUSE⚠️ unless u wanna provide her free housing for years as she is milking you out free housing & financial support & be the default primary caretaker Silver bullet divorce: you are a victims of it. be aware that other sinister accusations can drop later. Learn about it to protect yourself. Expectations with Lawyer: When you meet with your lawyer, make sure to calmly and clearly express your expectations. You deserve a lawyer who takes your case s…
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/25 12:26 PM
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At first, after your wife initial description, I assumed she was a stay-at-home spouse who neglecting her role & u have to fill the gap while working full time , as I've seen this dynamic frequently. However, since you BOTH work full-time jobs, it wouldn't be fair to expect her to handle most of the cooking and cleaning – that would mean she's working MORE hours per day than you or bc you clean her mess behind you are doing half half (cooking 10mn & you cleaning 10mn behind etc). Am i correct? i…
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/25 06:58 PM
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Documentation Steps While Still Home Keep records of ALL time spent with your daughter Document any hostile behavior or attempts to force you out Save all communications about living arrangements Keep proof of your involvement in daily childcare Get a court order specifying parenting time Ensure any move is documented as "without prejudice" to your rights Stay within reasonable distance of daughter's current/future school Don't relocate to a different borough/area just because she suggests it Ma…
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/25 03:31 PM
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Yes, you can file for divorce yourself in NY using the NYS Courts DIY Forms system However, given the custody issues and financial disparity, I strongly recommend at least getting a free consultation with NYC Family Justice Centers (free legal services) Legal Aid Society of NYC New York Legal Assistance Group (NYLAG) Based on your situation in NYC, here are the potential financial considerations in your divorce: Spousal Support (Alimony): temporary spousal support since you were a stay-at-home p…
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/25 03:30 PM
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if u move before divorce is finalized she can drag the divorce for years.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/25 09:51 PM
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⚠️Warning⚠️: protect your belongings from potential theft. Consider doing a thorough inventory of your place (pics, videos & with a witness) to prevent her fro refurnishing her new place. It's a common tactic. If you really WANT to keep something, move it to a secure location ASAP. It's easier for a lawyer to argue to keep something than to try to get it back from her. If possible be there once she moves out and take the keys back and change them if they can be copied
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/25 11:43 AM
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One reason why we recommend over and over to not leave the 🏠 unless divorce is finalized. Leech bf will take your place and will use your home . Very classic move OP wrote :"I finally filed for divorce and left the house...She double down and moved her AP into our home"
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/25 11:08 AM
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House inventory yesterday: marital theft to refurbish the new place is very classic. She just need u out of house a day while at work/holiday with 2/3 men usually family one to move it. Better secure things u can't accept to lose
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/25 12:34 PM
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How did u "lost" contact with family and friends after marriage? Something does not add up sorry but hope I am wrong . I did not lost contact after personally especially Not with family unless u went to the other side of the 🌎. In this situation u need them more than anything. If u cut contact with family u better have a strong financial backbone bc who is gonna. Support you in difficult time and watch over you in case of disease or surgery? The future ex wife? That is why we are social creature…
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/24 09:32 PM
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Therapy: You wife may have deep wounds from her childhood like rape etc. And child rape is pretty much a pandaro box for all mental issues. In case of doubt, just ask her bluntly & watch her eyes movement & expression as she is bugging & try to comprehend how could u know & pause or look away. But normally just by letting her speak with therapist should make her ready to split the bean on her own. I know someone like you who manage to cool down her anger by 70% by pushinhher in therapy so each w…
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/24 07:56 AM
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You are at high risk of false accusations once she knows she can get you out of it with the Silver Bullet Divorce Document everything. Keep records of all interactions, threats, and incidents, including dates, times, and any witnesses. Save texts, emails, and take photos/videos of any property damage or locked doors. Try to bait her to threat you again of what she did alredy & proncoune her name for identification. Consult with a divorce attorney immediately si he can helo u Your rights regardin…
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 10:02 PM
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temporary could become permanent. If she changes keys u wont get back soon. the rules regarding abandonment or desertion vary from state to state. You may want to consider drafting a temporary separation agreement, which can outline the terms of your separation &ie how long etc If you leave, it's crucial to take possession of the items that are most important to you. This is because, from a legal standpoint, it's often easier for a lawyer to argue that you should be allowed to keep it you alread…
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 04:50 PM
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Help her get therapy for the benefit of your own kids at least. Your kids wont thrive with a depressed mother.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 03:20 PM
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non not for kids, she can still detalay as long a spossible the divorce, evil attorney will advise her to do so , probably for years bc it is free renting & mandatory spouse support until divorce. To leave or not that is the question, 1.You leave: * con: she will get spouse support & could be for years especially with her inflated medical conditons she will try to make it even bigger. Bear in mind temporay order by the family law can still force u to leave as temporary measure without violence a…
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 10:48 AM
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You're one of the most intelligent man here at least for detecting partner BS & coming to the right conclusion years ahead, come to a realization that divorce is needed in just 6 months while most men often take 10 years , in denial, and with 2 kids . You deserve credit for that. Everyone would agree with me on this. Or she is so instable that lucky for you she do not stay just under the threshold BS that could have maintained her in relation for years Reverse cheating: She could be considering …
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 08:33 AM
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You are a victim of parental alienation (PA) & your son calling step-father dad is a textbook emotional erasure attempt. Please read those other one so you could anticipate her next dirty moves She is probably suffering from mental issues (BPD, depression, narcissism...) A subreddit may be more appropriate for r/ParentalAlienation if u need targete advices on PA The fact that your son is comfortable telling you about feeling "weird" about the stepfather situation means he trusts you & is fightin…
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/24 09:29 AM
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STD check DNA parental test if you have kids & asap from a reputable laboratory while you have access to your kids. Bearn in mind In some countries, that is illegal. You do not want to be a victim of the cuckoo: a bird that rely on others to raise their young. While all US states now offer "no-fault" divorce, some states still consider adultery when when determining alimony Alienation of Affection Eligibility to get $$$ Alienation of affection , aka "homewrecker" law, is only available in a few …
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 01:25 PM
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U have time Just take 1/2 day off to see an attorney u won't die. U need to prioritize . With he mental issues u are qt high risk of false accusations and related parental alienation I hope you r kid qt 10yo above to limit impac.. So once the D word Is pronounced u have no choice to be elsewhere frankly and even with that she could throw false accusation like marital tape and sexual abuse on kid on past. Before D curse word make sure to do a house inventory with pics and video and than secure an…
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 12:44 PM
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⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless a judge orders it or divorce is near finished 99% Once you're out, she becomes the primary caregiver by default. You're suddenly the "weekend dad." or "walking purse" thus impacting your child custody by creating a precedent. Her 👹lawyer might tell her to drag this divorce out for years for Free housing and financial support BUT If you stay, she'll want to speed up the divorce Worst case: You pay for a house while she brings in the new BF (real example: Sarah Ja…
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 10:21 AM
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⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless a judge orders it or divorce is nearly 99% completed, here is why: Once you're out, she becomes the primary caregiver& you the "we dad." or "walking purse" Her 👹lawyer might tell her to drag this divorce out for years for Free housing and financial support BUT If you stay, she'll want to speed up the divorce Worst case: You pay for a house while she brings in the new BF (real example: Sarah Jane parkinson bring home his BF with his 3 kids) Don't fall for her sug…
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 10:11 AM
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than ask her to pay your new rent if she wants you out & also ask alimony. U deserve marital support as long as u are married. Dont let her fool u with the "You are an Independent Man" card
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/24 05:24 PM
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U assume.u have to leave the house before divorce is almost settled whereas the basic advise I to not leave it. U could be on financial hook for years for her while u are out and impact also child custody
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/24 02:47 PM
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What are the other false one? Rape? Pedo? Child violence ? If not those are the next ones Stop listening to Dumbo Judge. No interaction With her Without full recording video around neck like cop and audio With wrist watch.no phone call or audio nothing. Only written messages ideally on co-parenting app so she canr delete them
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/24 10:22 PM
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Forget about your woman a sec, u had 50% of getting divorced and 80% of the time filed by a woman. So your divorce was not a statistical anomaly or unexpected . For your next marriage divorce even higher in case u still believev in eternal wows lo What is ugly in your story is the false accusation aka silver bullet divorce
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/24 01:49 PM
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So so we can step up the level of explanation: any websites can and do collect IP addresses and approximate geolocation of visitors the same companies can use, share or sell this data to other companies so if you own a website & someone click on it, than you can collect their IP & potential geolocation. For users concerned about tracking, they will use vpn, tor, proxy etc While there are privacy laws, pushing it in court is quite difficult because tracking the flow of data between companies is c…
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/24 09:11 AM
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Like I said u have zero experience in it like by a bit factor. The moment u are connecté on any google or Facebook for exemple they have your ip and geolocation. It is part of the web prototocol
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/24 08:24 AM
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Pre-marital Assets and Inheritance used for the down payment before marriage is typically considered separate property in most jurisdictions. However, you'll need to Gather documentation showing when you received the inheritance & Maintain clear records showing the inheritance money went directly to the house down payment Does she hide assets in that church? They could agree to return funds later or could be structured as "loans" that will be forgiven or repaid She may use it as shell Organizati…
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/24 10:39 PM
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Electronic trail: Get a custody app (like Our Family Wizard or TalkingParents) that's court-admissible. This way, all communication is documented and can't be deleted. Writing custody changes: Make sure any major changes to the custody schedule are in writing: "As discussed, you're not taking the kids this week" type messages are important. Not phone call without text confirmation ideally on that custody app. Get your current custody arrangement officially modified if this becomes a pattern. Bc …
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/24 02:28 PM
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Are u speaking about experience or just last hacking movie u saw
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/24 10:33 AM
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Social media monitoring - public posts, location tags, and photos that indicate cohabitation. Public records searches: Property records and lease agreements (available through county clerk offices), Address history databases, Vehicle registration records Hire a private investigator in PA who specializes in cohabitation investigations. This is often more cost-effective than using a lawyer (Typically charges less attorneyà & Can conduct surveillance legally, Know local resources and records & Can …
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/24 10:14 PM
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she said she doesn’t love me anymore and wants to go out of the house and quoting her “find her self , see what’s out there for her”. ---> Cheating??? it is Crucial to find out as it could dramatically impact your divorce (alimony, finance etc) with lawyer: Marital Property vs. Separat: Since the marital home was purchased before the marriage &under your name, clarify with himr whether it can be considered separate property and excluded from division. Custody : Ensure you communicate the reality…
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/24 11:12 AM
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So u wanna trade money in exchange for less time with your son am I correct? Time is a irreplaceable ressource that can't be bought back. Not even Elon musk can buy time back. Once your child will be a teen or near adulthood he wont need u as much than. Until then stay with him
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/24 10:24 AM
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It's time to reduce your workload, but be prepared to provide a valid reason. She took control of her personal time, and in return, you'll be expected to compensate her with a portion of you converted free time in $$$ you've accumulated in the past. It would be easier to get her a lower alimony payment than let her fight back after to increase than the opposite you fighting to lower it. Also dont leave the house.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/24 09:36 AM
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⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless a judge orders it. or divorce is 99% finished. Here's why: Once you're out, she becomes the primary caregiver by default. You're suddenly the "weekend dad." or "walking purse" Her 👹lawyer might tell her to drag this divorce out for years for Free housing and financial support BUT If you stay, she'll want to speed up the divorce Worst case: You pay for a house while she brings in the new BF (real example: Sarah Jane parkinson bring home his BF with his 3 kids) Do…
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/24 08:50 AM
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Same thing everywhere u can't record someone without his consent but once u get throw the courts bus any proof is acceptable pretty much. Just don't display u are recording unless asked about that day and time specifically .anyway things have to be validated With attorney in case of doubt
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/24 02:57 PM
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use your common sens : just DONT wash them & changing clothes unless required for a baby or toddler. If she said u push a finger in a vagina yesterday when changing clothe i don't understand how u could think that having a record video of that exact same moment & of you changing her clothe normally, & avoiding the below zone, is a proof against you. Judge are not that dumb & manipulable Btw, U wont find many 2/3yo changing their clothes themselves or taking a bath alone. That is what will be use…
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/24 02:35 PM
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there is no karma stuff, I know it is reassuring thinking they will suffer unless u believe in the Final Judgment post mortem but than it is not Karma but God' Judgement Day At best she will suffer bc of mental issues & reduced IQ so she will commit down the line some mistakes leading her to some "karma"
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/24 02:29 PM
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Do to her what she did to u but with the Truth: Do you know if she’s committed any fraud, falsified COVID passes to work with elderly , or been involved in illegal activities like money laundering with some family members that have companies? Push her as well under the court's bus. We did that, she was doing money laundering, but u have to be persistent, we knock like 10 doors to get one open, send letters pretty much eveywhere (chatgpt will help you identify the relevant authorities to contact …
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/24 02:22 PM
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4. Push Back Against False Allegations Consult with your lawyer about filing a motion for sanctions against your ex for making false accusations. Courts frown upon weaponizing the legal system, especially in custody cases. Depending on the state, there may be laws against false allegations in family court. You could also consider requesting a custody modification if her behavior shows a pattern of instability or alienation. Even case is closed, you’ll probably start with supervised visitation. H…
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/24 09:52 AM
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Ask for Alimony & Child Support, you are "the Man in the house" is just 101 manipulation to feel you guilty to ask for it. If situation were reversed, she would have asked
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/24 09:14 AM
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Your story is very classic, you are a victim of Silver Bullet Divorce Method. Read about it as it cold get worse & also Protective Order & Police Tactics as you have not met them yet. You better have a backup of your all computer & phone as they will seize them for a while, typical in case of child abuse accusation, bc they would search for pedo conten That being said: --------------------- Keep Documenting Everything If your custody or visitation rights are being obstructed, ensure you have a c…
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/24 09:09 AM
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Your ex would have prefer that offer bc she will have more disposable income after receiving child support
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 08:58 AM
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Last person I heard saying money is not real is near billionnaire. Expect for such rich profile I won't understand it. She probably parroting her bf ie means with half a million and her new branch she don't need to work. Just putting 500k in spr500 should provide her on average 4k/month before taxes her financial advisor told her to do do do enough for personal need. Bf would pay the rest
/r/Divorce_Men17/12/24 11:26 AM
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You had sex and she has a baby, accept your responsibility. Be there for him either in her place or at yours I don't mean stay With her but you cant be a remote dad just sending $$
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/24 04:18 PM
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Just selfish: Most men here fight to get children custody at great length & you ask us what would be our opinion if you want the opposite? It seems like your wife has changed her mind about moving, even though you've talked about it before. I think she might be worried that if she moves, She might also be thinking about how hard it would be to see her family and friends & have their support. Also she'll be stuck there if you get a divorce bc of child custody but i dont think she tought that far.…
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/24 01:04 PM
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1 month after wedding. I just lost it & dont like wearing jewelry
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/24 09:58 AM
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With her mental issue (NPD, BPD, HPD)🚨You are at high risk of false accusations🚨 once she know divorce is imminent( Silver Bullet Divorce). Read that page & all pages on that wiki especially Digital Helmet & Police tactics. In your case: Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) Exaggerated sense of entitlement &self-importance. Public vs. private behavior contrast. Lack of genuine remorse. Manipulation through threats or coercion. Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) Erratic mood swings. Chronic…
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/24 09:55 AM
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read Silver Bullet Divorce & all pages on my wiki, the pages there are specially designed for highly conflicted divorce (police tactics etc) I wanted to remind you NEED to strike first: file for a protective order & for a fault-based divorce. if you let her do it first, they may think you are just acting out of revenge even with proof (legal system is weird) Good luck, bro !
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/24 09:42 AM
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Upon reading the abuse I thought that you have with her for the last 10years of abuse but no less than 2years !! Lucky u don't have children with her. 🚨 Be careful , do not have sex With her again!!! She could ask a last one, but ff she gets pregnant u will have to see her for at least next 18years !!! The documented domestic violence charge can significantly impact divorce proceedings - Your journaling and detailed records of abuse incidents are important evidence - Police reports and the pendi…
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/24 08:28 PM
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I guess you are in Canada. I would strongly recommend at least consulting with a lawyer initially. Here's why: Child custody & support need to be properly established asap to protect bc Your wife's addiction issues &abandonment may be relevant to custody arrangements Joint financial obligations (mortgage, credit cards) need to be properly addressed & There are significant assets involved that need proper division Given her mental issues, you could be at risk of being accusing of random stuff wit…
/r/Divorce_Men14/12/24 11:30 AM
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Split finance asap first priority. Spender should always be restricted in a limited account. I always did that With her. It is a no brainer And make her work for God sake bc With housewife u gonna get drilled upside down ...with alimony and part of your retirement. And work less to avoid calamity and privatize your free time Your other shopping list can wait after that and many elements looks like a transactionnal sex With a prostitute like a one time stuff. No way I can impose her that regularl…
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/24 10:08 PM
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Silver Bullet Divorce 's victim: a MUST to read
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/24 04:13 PM
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Before asking about her , bear in mind You are on the hardest mode of potential conflicted divorce: With her mental issues, you are at risk of severe bogus accusation during the divorce (aka Silver Bullet Divorce read about it) : ie domestic violence & sexual abuse on your daughter to win the divorce & custody. If you never been in court, dont ever think she needs any proof. Just random accusations will be enough to push you out of the house. How would you know if you are high risk, find below Q…
/r/Divorce_Men13/12/24 08:12 AM
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how did Ring cameras in house helped? Did you show them in court? i can imagine that if I were in your shoes, and my ex were to accuse me of child rape without providing a specific date and time, it would be incredibly challenging to prove she is wrong even with camera. Unless one has a comprehensive recording system in place, including infrared cameras that capture everything & no blund spot , i dont understand see how one could definitively prove their innocence. And i dont imagine anyone woul…
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 09:22 AM
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have u even been in a muslim country or know some of them personallity? if you are from USA & learn about them just in the news, it is normal that u mostly hate them so u can support random wars they throw in the Middle East to support "democracy" ie petrol research ;)
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 09:14 AM
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Ask for Alimony & Child support nothing less; it is your righ. Do NOT ABANDON that right. She would have asked if this was reversed. For allt the men out there paying it, do it in their name Child-Centered Mediator: suggest involving one who specializes in child custody issues. If she refuses, that refusal can work against her in the eyes of the court Document everything! Keep a thorough record of everything: as time passes, the details of events can become overwhelming. A simple online Google s…
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 09:01 AM
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I read your whole stoy & you are a light & an exception for all those men who got false allegation. Most false allegation even full of lies are usually considered. I know so personally she said the DUMBEST thing ever, like u will make better tlies if i let you 5mn. for eg, 5yo son said he put a full Nintendo switch in her ass & nobody bat her eye if is that even possible with a adult gay one. She said he was watching criminal series on TV to learn how to kill her, he raped her (they had 3 kids..…
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 08:51 AM
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Depending on the state you may sue her BF for alienation of affection to get $$$ such as in NY. Don't leave the house 🏠 unless u wanna drag the divorce for years while she live there for free and impact you custody wishes
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/24 07:21 PM
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With her mental issues, You are at high risk of false accusation & be out of the house within a hour. The method is called Silver Bullet method. read it & all the other pages of the same wiki to take some protective measures.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/24 01:25 PM
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Document Everything: all incidents, including dates, times, & the nature of the events., crucial for any legal proceedings. Secure Your Belongings outside of your own place (friend?? parent? work palce) General advices: here such as FREEZE joint account ASAP!!!, Protecting Your Home from a Raid, 4 eyes strategy Prepare for Escalation: with her mental disorder & prevailing paranoia you are at high risk of false accusation to win the divorce aka Silver Bullet Divorce. Please read about it here to …
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/24 01:55 PM
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You should not have move out. is she a Stay at home wife? Her lawyer will tell her to drag the divorce for years to max out financial sypport & free housing from you while u are bleeding paying 2 places. And if u have kids, you compromised your chance for a 50/50 custody. STD check, do it DNA parental test for kids (dont ask/tell her). Alienation of Affection Eligibility to get $$$: , aka "homewrecker" law, is only available in a few states, allowing a married or divorced person or to sue a 3rd …
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/24 10:14 AM
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Contact domestic violence support organizations, you are a clear victim of ECONOMICAL ABUSE with is a form of domestic violence: see https://www.ocadsv.org/our-work/economic-empowerment/
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/24 09:04 AM
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Dot NOT leave the house unless you wanna compromise your child custody & create a custody precedent. Studies show that consistent involvement from both parents contributes to kid' well-being. On the other side, an absent father is often a key factor in the development of delinquent behavior. Suggest mediation to have a neutral professional guide the conversation. A mediator can help identify mutual priorities and propose fair solutions. Propose a temporary 50/50 arrangement for 6 months to evalu…
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/24 08:22 PM
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" Not even billionaires are insulated from it "Nope. See the bigg differences between Elon musk divorce & Jeff besoz. Ex Wife of Elon just got what he wanted to give her, big hosue & lot of money but no share in his companies. Elon made her signed a ton of paper she had no clues by her own declaration before wedding to protect his companies. Strange things is that the USA, capitalist at core, has a big Communist vision when it is about assets divisions.
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/24 10:33 AM
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The rules of the game are skewed. Welcome to Marital Communism in Western Countries ! Yep totally normal: She did not work and likely had years offree time compared to him He converted his free time into work that he needs to share but not her! but she retains her free time and has no obligation to provide him with services, such as cooking and house cleaning. However, he is expected to maintain the same quality of life for her AFTER Now, ex won't get married unless a BF provides her with more. …
/r/Divorce_Men09/12/24 09:56 AM
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Your ex is trying to weaponize your mental health against you in regards to custody, The fact that your kids get emotional during transitions? That's completely normal for 4 and 5-yo dealing with divorce. That's not a reflection on your bad parenting. Her bringing up the emergency line calls unprompted, connecting your mental health to child safety despite no incidents,- it feels calculated. She is trying to get a legal trail from you in reply. ---> Consider from now EVERYTHING you say or write …
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/24 08:30 PM
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for alimony & child support it is not the time to have the highest wage. better start low ,than let her request more in court later than the opposite, unless she is earning more than you. So stay with minimum wage that do not jepoardize your child custody Meanwhile, Before accepting the Airbnb option, explore: * Roommate situations with formal leases that would look more stable for custody * Whether any family or close friends could provide temporary housing or serve as lease guarantors * If you…
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/24 06:27 PM
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Your ex getting a full-time job is considered a "material change in circumstances" that could justify an alimony (spousal support) modification. February would be strategic timing since it'll be a year since the divorce finalization and you'll have documented evidence of her employment change. The $2k spousal support + $700 child support seems excessive, especially given her statements about intentionally avoiding remarriage to maintain support payments. This actually matters legally because CA …
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/24 04:39 PM
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What do u mean by done? Once it is sold? Both of you would need to move out anyway when it is sold or are u referring to the divorce being done
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/24 04:29 PM
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Good. Also it was in the linked page but stay 10 feet away at all time and always have an audio recording when near her just in case. Whatever happens make sure to described it as if u were describing the scene to a blind. Her last card would be to accuse you of violence to force you out and police 👮 will throw you out of house even without proof in an hour so recording wOuld be you only proof of her lying. And even after that if this happens u will need to move anyway to avoid better accusation…
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/24 12:46 PM
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Dont do that by erasing part of your history. Kids has the right to see them unless you are into parental alineation (that is a typical move of alienator who trash old pics of the erased parent) you are better than that. Unless she tried to put you in jail or similar, I would have even send her back the pics fi she wants them.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/24 11:54 AM
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STD check asap DNA parental test: u don't know when she started it. Don't ask/tell her * Alienation of affection exist in some states to get compensation her Bf such as NY. In any case u need proof over her cheating to minimize alimony and get her pay attorney fees. Leverage: if you divorce and she accepts your conditions on custody and financial than promise her as she asked to not disclose it to her family and kids. And promises are not engaging you legally lol Plus Your daughter will be also …
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/24 11:38 AM
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Final advice: record the meeting and don't ask. All phone can do that on the table or next chair and started before the meeting Sonu don't touch it. Unless u are familiar with the divorce law he may give your some todos and lot of data and if u pay by the hour don't wast time on taking notes or asking details, just record it and listen afterwards. Also don't use him as your psychologist and bitching about her. Just go to the point. You will be surprise on some parts u did not listen that well bc…
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/24 11:32 AM
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PARENTAL ALINEATION: Your daughter is showing early signs of parental alienation (PA) by parroting what her mother said. PA is closely related to the Silver Bullet Divorce. Please read about it to learn about her tactics If that continues adress it on the decicaated reddit r/ParentalAlienation This might be something worth documenting and discussing with your lawyer at Tuesday's meeting. Non-disparagement CLAUSE: to add to your agreement & to discuss with your lawyer next meeting:Both parents sh…
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/24 10:39 AM
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Please cote source correctly: One study, which published a rate near 30%, was performed on populations in which the purported father already suspected that he was not the genetic parent, rather than on a fully random population....Studies ranging in date from 1991 to 1999 quote the following incidence rates: 11.8% (Mexico), 4.0% (Canada), 2.8% (France), 1.4% and 1.6% (UK), and 0.8% (Switzerland) From Wikipedia. So unless you are Mexican already suspecting it 😂 probability is low
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/24 01:06 AM
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As a stay at home dad it will be shocking if u get anything less than 50/50 as u are the défaut primary caregiver. * Don't move outside of your house unless u wanna jeopardize child custody * Subscribe to ai for 20 bucks /month u will get what attorney will advise you at 80% and instant reply. I did that. One year ago gpt4 passed the bar exam and now or is way better. Make sure to check specific law mentioned on gogole to avoid hallucinations. Also perplexity.ai always provide summary answers Wi…
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/24 11:30 PM
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Man up & take care of her BF's kid !!!! lol s/
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/24 07:43 PM
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since when we have to work 10h per day to pay for basic stuff like food, electrical bill ? My boss is asking more from me than my ex ever did! My leisure time is now reduce to 1h/day !!! What a scam !! I need my ex back !! s/
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/24 07:37 PM
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False accusation: with her mental issues, you are t HIGH RIsk of bogus accusations as she could leverage the Silver Bullet Method Read them to add some deterrent as well as my page on Digital Helmet Avoid Family Drama Sending a message to her family will likely to backfire. While you hope to garner their support it could be perceived as an attempt to manipulate or escalate the conflict. Tribalism: Her family will likkely side with her, regardless of the facts. This will provide her ammunition to…
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/24 07:30 PM
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Pros: Safety & Stability for the Kids: If your STBX has a documented history of neglect +CPS involvement, it’s in your children’s best interest to be in a stable and safe environment. Legal Clarity: By going through the courts, you establish formal custody and support arrangements & can help prevent future disputes/manipulation. Your financial stability, ability to provide a homecould work in your favor. Cons: Financial Costs: Even with a good case, court proceedings can drag on & expnesive. Scr…
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/24 04:42 PM
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Why di u care about that restraining order? It is just telling you to no approach her and don't communicate With her. And unless have kids in common u should not see her at all no matter what. If it is the same judge again why she would change her mind and contradict her previous position. In my country rule is that it needs to be a different judge to avoid such biais. Or does it come with some sort of fines or other conséquences with this order?
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/24 10:18 AM
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she is probably with another guy...question is: since when? STD checks & DNA parental test while u can..
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/24 09:24 AM
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yes judge will decide if you dont find an agreement. but child support is not fair when one use to do ùore than 50% of everything ie one lazier decided to have her personal private free time for years & now ask him to share his past free time converted in money ie job in form of child support while she will never provide her past service anymore in any form
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/24 01:05 AM
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when a mother receive 5/10k per month for child support, i had hard time to believe/swallow that it is just for the kids..
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/24 12:48 AM
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DONT leave THe HOUSE unless you plan to provide her with free housing and $$$ support for years. Staying in may protect you from that & also child custody negociation. Details here Assets and debts are divided based on what’s fair, which doesnt NOT always mean a 50/50 split. To make it short, she will get more than half if alimony is accounted. Try this calculator to get a rough idea Separate property You should verify whether the $75,000 you used as a down payment for the house came from a sour…
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/24 12:43 AM
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which country u tested?
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/24 12:56 PM
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false DV requires her to have mental issues to throw that BS so u know better if high or low risk. So stay 10 feet away from her all the time & get a wrist watch recorder for around 100$ & keep recording all interaction just in case & anythin interesteding should be uploaded on the cloud NOT just phone.. Nobody think a watch can record & u have it on you all the time & can active recording with a single button press if configured for that recoridng app. When recording, speak as if u were describ…
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/24 12:06 PM
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I heard more often gaslighting. the general weak trend is that anything unpleasant is called violence used to be physicals viokence, now in DV, now they aded up phycological violence, economical violence (no joke) Soon we will have: Culinary violence (you asked he to cook homemade meal instead of junk food) Digital violence: you asked her/kids to reduced their screen time Kinesthetic violence: Forcing kid to walk to school instead of using your car or reducing the Temperature of the house bc gas…
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/24 11:27 AM
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What did u let her move away first? That is a typical trick to erase you as a father (other steps are called parental alineation fyi) Didnt you had legal custody agreement r that specifies where your child should live or how decisions regarding her residence should be made, ie she need permission from you or the court to move that far away ?
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/24 11:21 AM
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It doesn’t matter if she’s as wealthy as Elon Musk; unless you are a convict, an attorney cannot completely flip the table to the point where she’s earning 4xwhat you do, and yet you end up with 0 child support or alimony. You should ask for CHILD SUPPORT AND ALIM0NY because: If the roles were reversed, she would undoubtedly ask for them. for the majority of men out there paying it, it is your right for once, to be the one benefiting, in their name. You will need that money to better support you…
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/24 11:05 AM
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Is she still with him now? With all kids mixed? I guess that Bf saved somehow you by allowing her to move with her and not pay rent so she accepted easily to move out as she has a free housing plan
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/24 02:27 PM
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If you had moved out, Joe, the new BF, would have been enjoying your sofa & would have asked you the Netflix code for your account :)
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/24 10:44 AM
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you got lucky bc i am pretty sure u were not recoridng during her screaming out her lung.. She had enough moral integrity to not play the obious Bogus DV accusation. You would have been out 1h later even without hitting her & she woul have risked little to nothing. All she had to do was crying when cops come & said you slaped her & insulted her bc dinner was not good & kitchen not clean enough.
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/24 10:38 AM
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Dont eat her crap, just find out who is her BF, as you will need that such info/proof for divorce proceedings +STD checks + DNA parental test if suspicion
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/24 09:49 PM
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As dizsabled veteran, your benefits (like VA disability payments) are protected and can’t be divided in a divorce. The house is trickier since it’s in both names—it’s marital property. She can’t take the VA loan itself because it’s tied to your veteran status, but if she wants the house, she’d need to refinance it without your VA benefits. If she can’t, the court might order it sold and split the equity. For custody, being the primary caregiver works in your favor. Courts usually focus on what’s…
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/24 03:14 PM
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If you really go by yourself and have no other option use Claude AI and upload all document related to your trial in a single project and double check any statement as it could hallucinate. For 20 bucks/ month you can't beat it that. I used it for a family case to support lazy attorney. Other option is a mix to have attorney propose general strategy and ask ai for details of it and minor questions as an assitant
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/24 11:06 AM
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How to Figure how she is paying Her attorney: Discovery: Ask for docs in court—retainer agreements, liens, loans, or anyone funding her. Public Records: Check property records for liens on her half of the house. f they won’t share, subpoena her financials to see who's paying or backing her bills. You can question her or her lawyer under oath about how they're getting paid. Should You Take on Debt for Trial? Nope Don’t max out: No point in going broke for a trial just to split debts or lose every…
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/24 11:03 AM
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Coming without attorney in a California trial is risky, especially if your ex has expensive lawyers. * Courts follow strict rules, and mistakes can ruin your case. * Her lawyers will exploit your lack of expertise. * If I was her attorney I would recommend you that option lol + " judges may get frustrated if you mess up filings or don’t follow trial rules. * Going pro se won’t necessarily stop you from being stuck with half her fees. Options: * Look into low-cost legal aid or free consultations.…
/r/Divorce_Men02/12/24 10:53 AM
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Financial Dependency: She may want to preserve certain advantages (e.g., health insurance, spousal support, or tax benefits). Time to Negotiate : delay tactic to renegotiate terms, or hide/sell stuff if she is the breadwinner , or become unemployed before filling for divorce to maximiser alimony& child support Branching: She needs time to find a new loving & $$ supporting BF ;) The expected one dropped her when she filed. No cheating suspicions?
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/24 09:30 PM
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aka monkey branching
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/24 09:28 PM
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Consider drafting a custody agreement that includes provisions for future change with a review period . every 2-3 years for eg) to reassess the custody plan Risk that temporary become permanent thing or she asks more $$$ in return & use them as leverage. Even with a written agreement she could alienate them & tell you they just don want to come with you & she cant do anything about it(typical BS using kid as a shield in parental alienation).As kis grow older, their wishes carry more weight in co…
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/24 09:11 PM
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You will deeply regret not asking for money ie alimony. That is a typical man mistake. Don't u get it? Tomorrow 2 years after divorce let's say she could make like 60k a year and then voilà,ask YOU child support while you refused her alimony. Before . Judge will not care about that gift 🎁. Alimony is the only leverage u have to bargain with apparently . She is only earning more than you and will have better attorneys probably. But even the greatest one won't espace alimony rules. You could use t…
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/24 09:32 AM
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Just don't leave the 🏠. Don't give her what she wants. Leaving it will impact your child custody as well bc she will be the primary care giver. Ask for 50© child custody nothin less and as she make 4x why u make she will have to pay child support Ask for alimony. Don't be manipulated by her telling u u are a independent proud man blablabla. 80,% of women ask for it. She would have asked for it if she was in your place. For all the men our there feeling this injustice and paying it at least they …
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/24 09:17 AM
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depends on time & place but if u are referring to western countries it keeps going doing since 100 years (i saw stat about this). So a woman from today cannt compare her work from one from the 50s In other region of the word, it is lot of work: my mum in rural africa used to do more than what an average white man could support: * waking up at dawn & taking care of the animals * no water or gas, u need to carry on your shoulder woods & water from miles away (no donkey) * only 2 weeks of rest afte…
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/24 06:42 PM
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use bitwarden, it is free & has a phone & web app & can even be self hosted so u can access all pass anywhere in the world as long as you know the master pass. of course do a backup of alll those pass on the app (export) somewhere else in case of unavailability
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/24 03:18 PM
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yes i could add "Some individuals may find that leaving the house can be a transformative experience, allowing them to start anew and ultimately provide a better environment for their children. However, this decision should not be taken lightly, and it's essential to consider the potential consequences and have a plan in place" u wrote:"When a man leaves on his own terms, of his own volution, by his own hand" it a bit vague, u just mean u had enough money to not bleed financially right or she wa…
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/24 03:16 PM
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lesson learned for this others: have a frequent backup of ALL whatsapp/SMS messages , any platform exchange you use with her. Even without the phone code, she could have just steal it.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/24 07:22 AM
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⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless a judge orders it or divorce is finalized 99% (custody etc) bc: Once you're out, she becomes the primary caregiver by default. You're suddenly the "weekend dad." or "walking purse" Her 👹lawyer might tell her to drag this divorce out for years for Free housing and financial support BUT If you stay, she'll want to speed up the divorce Worst case: You pay for a house while she brings in the new BF (real example: Sarah Jane parkinson bring home his BF with his 3 kid…
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/24 10:37 PM
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Stay firm in boundaries, and don’t let the guilt or manipulation get to you. Keep being the calm, that’s what KIDS remember in the long run. If the family can’t manage this crisis without you, it’s a proof of their lack of preparation and NOT your responsibility to be SuperMan after treating you as the Vilain Bear careful accusations can escalate even more, read Silver Bullet Method
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/24 05:52 PM
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Some districts have so large policies that allow them to exclude volunteers based on any criminal accusations, even if charges dropped bc They often err on the side of caution. bc this is a public school, you may have grounds to challenge their decision as a violation of your rights under the 14th Amendment. So Ask thel to provide the specific policy they are relying on to justify their decision. This will clarify whether they are applying their rules correctly or not Bear in mind accusations co…
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/24 12:49 PM
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all Pediatrics organization recommend to limit Screen time even for teens for adequate sleep duration & quality at least. Guess which public could read those guidelines & can enforce them ? Parents.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/24 05:26 PM
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It is called parental alienation.. they do it bc they are affected by mental issues such as BPD or sociopathy.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/24 01:52 PM
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Lesson learn for the others: once D word is pronounced high risk of Theft especially for furnishing her new place typically while u are at works with some men helps like brother etc. So take it if u need it really bc it is easier for attorney to argue to keep it than to get it back. Temporary possession is easily permanent. She probably let males family members to get them. This happened the same way for my brother and she admitted she gave keys to her brothers. So you need to make house and car…
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/24 08:41 AM
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yes someone i knew was in the same boat. was supposed to be a no contest so he left the house & suddenly it became a contested one but he could not come back.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/24 04:45 PM
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By leaving the house, you have given her the upper hand in the divorce . As the primary breadwinner, she will be advised to extend the divorce to maximize free housing & your $$$ support This could also impact your chances of achieving a 50/50 custody arrangement, as you have created a custody precedent that favors her. by providing financial support without physical presence , she may not feel the full weight of responsibility . For her to truly understand it, she would need to take on those re…
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/24 10:52 AM
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he is right, she could ask for a low child support & ask for more on alimoney & hosue in compensation & then AFTER getting what she wants she can ask more child support LATER down he line after even year of divorce. Dont fall for that trap
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/24 08:37 AM
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yes at least in my country, you cant push a one-sided agreement & expect you only to sign page 10. You have to negociate it ,both or else it is NOT a no contest one. It is that simple
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/24 08:36 AM
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explain in details with stage of accusation: https://slimwiki.com/survival/getting-started/silver-bullet-divorce-iuvy34cw3z-xed5clv4hnpb Hint she would use it if she has mental issues or violent
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/24 08:34 AM
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1⚠️ Do Not Fill Out or Sign Anything Immediately⚠️ Without consulting an attorney as this can have serious long-term consequences, especially if her attorney prepared it. Her attorney is obligated to act in HER interest, NOTyours. Even if she says you won’t need your own attorney, dont believe it. In many jurisdictions in Europe for example 2 attorneys in divorce is mandatory for that very reason. Urgency: it could come from financial reasons, like avoiding sharing an upcoming windfall or pressi…
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/24 08:30 AM
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The issue is that the other party will be notified and will watch their tongue. However, in many jurisdictions, consent is not needed to record in specific situations, such as domestic violence cases. Level 1: Just buy a Redmi or Blackview phone (specific Chinese Android models that don't comply with US/EU laws) as they often have a discreet record button during calls that won't alert the other person. You dont need to go to china to buy such version. I tested them both & can only speak about ex…
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/24 08:35 AM
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No child support proposition is a trap: She could always ask for it in the future after she got the house & after divorce. Dont fall for that ⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless a judge orders it or divorce is almost final. Here's why: Once you're out, she becomes the primary caregiver by default. You're suddenly the "weekend dad." or "walking purse" Her 👹lawyer might tell her to drag this divorce out for years for Free housing and financial support BUT If you stay, she'll want to speed up the div…
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/24 07:20 AM
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if all parent who said 2x fuck should not see their children, 99% of them will be in that category. For fun, they will just add more violence category: - Culinary violence: you force you child to eat too much healthy food - Holiday violence: you did not provided them regular holidays & a trip to Europe. Being broke is no excuse ! - Thermostat Violence: you set the thermostat 1 degree lower than ideal one , bc you cant keep up with the energy bill In short anything unpleasant can be qualified as …
/r/Divorce_Men25/11/24 07:13 AM
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...yelled that “I fucking hated her. Hated what she did to this family and couldn’t wait for her to be out of my life”. Well she recorded the audio and the rest is history. So you were accused only of verbal violence without insult or physical ? ie just yelling? That is it? sound like DV standard in 2050 lol Can you be more specific? . Was it qualified as emotional abuse or inappropriate behavior, especially with the children being present at the time? and only once wont be enough.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/24 11:41 PM
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Man's attorney use this advice as part of their 101 advices for men. There is nothing fancy or original. unless date is fixed, divorce can always be postponed until u reach a non changeable date, & certainty means nothing as divorce is a right unless u accept to have a divorce dragged for years & dont bother 1 year versus 5 years. Bear in mind no man leave the house bc he wants to taste another place & u can be normal for everyone arounds you expect your spouse. I guess you left the house & it w…
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/24 07:45 PM
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"she had stolen from me years ago and fought back HARD" Like what for example? she was wiring money from joint account to a private account for years?
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/24 07:41 PM
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how could she took finances in her hands unless u let her do so?. It is not like a 🧸 u can take from a toddler. That was your first mistake to be honest. You need to get our of the shared bank account asap and have your own to stop the bleeding and start saving for attorney fees. She could empty shared account at any moment as strategic move before divorce btw. Her isolating you financially and also from friends and family is a typical form of violence. Plus the isolation phase from your support…
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/24 08:07 PM
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She is doing light version of silver bullet divorce method to win custody and divorce. It can be way worse see details here to anticipate her next potential move: https://slimwiki.com/survival/getting-started/silver-bullet-divorce-iuvy34cw3z-xed5clv4hnpb. She has probably some mental issues as well.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/24 07:59 PM
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Don't move out of the 🏡 unless u plan to drag the divorce for years and provide her free housing and extend financial support. Typical 101 advice for men.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/24 07:56 PM
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I am around your age and was in similar issue with wife sahm but very different financial status. I contained her by restricting her acces to the 💰 so no shared account even if she asked many times and say no on many things. Told her if she wants more feel free to work Why don't you just cut her our asap you learn she was a spender that did not understand delayed gratification but only instant satisfaction. I bet she was an over spender as a coping mécanisme for some mental issue.
/r/Divorce_Men23/11/24 07:53 PM
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Out of curiosity: 1. Did any of the attorneys you consulted for $40,000 discuss the pros and cons of pushing for a withdrawal with or without prejudice, as mentioned earlier? 2. Or did they just confirmed what they had already advised you? 3. Or did you not ask them yet , possibly because you had already spent a lot of $$ , and they were seeking even more? If so, their written response would have come at a cost of around $500/1k , is that right?
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/24 07:29 AM
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lesson learned for my self: * make sure t check if subscription si cancelled, how long video are retained online before erasure * if not long enough, u need to store them regularly on your own cloud regularly
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/24 07:03 PM
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u mean u did not uploaded them outside the camera & did not had subscribed to the cloud service usually proposed :(
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/24 03:57 PM
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For the BF, Ask for non-disparagement clause in the custody order that prohibits "disparaging" remarks about either parent in front of the kids. It may also extend to third parties, such as BF , family members etc It prohibits from making negative, harmful, or critical remarks about the other parent in the presence of the children. The goal is to protect the children from emotional distress and parental alienation. Ask attorney about it. See details here
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/24 02:18 PM
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You are fighting against a woman surfing the giant Wave of Battered woman soo all the gov ressources around it are at her disposal at once. it is like fighting a silver gorilla without weapon. You better be super clever or lucky she has to be really dumb. Bear in mind this type of false DV against a man is not limited to USA but all western countries bc of fanatic feminism policy.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/24 01:28 PM
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U need to live elswhere meanwhile fi possible. General rule is to NOT LEAVE the house but with constant bogus accusations, u need to create a distance with her to stop them so u can focus on fighting back. It is only a matter of time if u dont fight back that she will get something form : judge is hungry or in bad mood that day bc she got a fight with her husband & u look like him, new cops believing her, she fall back on purpose , with head injury now, when u pushed her back as she tried to get…
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/24 08:16 AM
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DO u mean she did not know that u still had previous recording stored on the cloud & accesisble only by you as evidence against her & she only prevent more recording & not past one?
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/24 08:14 AM
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Push for the withdrawal with prejudice. If she refuses, the forensic process could turnbe a good investment, with the benefit of protecting you & kids from further harm while setting a strong precedent & closing the door for future accusations ---------------------------------------------------------------- Strategy1: Withdrawal With Prejudice +++++: If the TRO is withdrawn with prejudice, it permanently closes the door on these specific false accusations. This creates a legal record of her dish…
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/24 08:09 AM
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you are in Denial phase... Next is cold-water wake up phase
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/24 10:24 PM
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I guess you're that widow :D. If she has children, only if the guyalso has children of their own. Otherwise, it can be challenging to raise someone else's kids, especially if they're still grieving the loss of their real father. This can lead to mental issues and potential resentment, with the child feel like he is not his "real" parent. That is exactly the "cuckoo bird strategy," where one bird lays its eggs in another bird's nest, leaving the other bird to raise its young. That is why most men…
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/24 10:10 PM
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And add std check for next bloodwork u never now...if she has not already a new bf
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/24 04:23 PM
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coincidence she wants divorce just After payrise or she may be cheating and want to squeeze our as much as possible or was planning it for a while and u were clueless Your wife wants to stay next to her family and you go away to maximize local help while squeezing our as much as possible from the Walking a purse. Don't ask for less than half custody. Time is a is irreplaceable resource and can't be bought back. Don't leave the 🏡 u less you want her to drag the divorce for years for free housing …
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/24 04:19 PM
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Whatever u decide, just be careful. ⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless u wanna drag the divorce for years & provide her free housing while u bleed financially. Inventory: Make an inventory of everything of enough value & store proof outside of house. Once she moves typical move would be to steal stuff at once for her ne place while u are at work with some male help (brother, friend...) Take it: It is easierto argue to keep something for an attorney than to get it back from wife. Temporary possess…
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/24 10:34 AM
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Alcohol issue: if you believe the recording might be used againts you despit attorn'ys efforts to block it, then u have to recognize the problem and have taken steps to address it BEFORE going to court, like seeking counseling, attending AAA , or making a commitment to sobriety+ Demonstrate Progress: reduced alcohol consumption or taken steps to avoid it, document this: signing up for therapy etc. As she hates you, The teen's testimonial could be easily leverage against you Non-Contested Divorce…
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/24 10:20 AM
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great question. I know a friend who is doing it but to avoid taxes for his companies & get back money from one country to another
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/24 08:27 PM
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Take it: you want something? take it out of the house: car,. You want kids? take/stay with them. The temporary become easily permanent & It is easier argue for your attorney to argue keep something than to get it back from Ex. Once she left with the kids she becomes the primary caregiver by default. You're suddenly the "we dad." or "walking purse" & create a precedent in child custody. Custody: ask for 50/50 no less. Time cannbut be bought back. Your goal is to be an equal parent, not a 🏰Disneyl…
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/24 07:19 PM
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Hiding $$$ behind a Trust is nothing new or original. It is a strategy used all over the World.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/24 06:24 PM
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* At 14 and older, teens and young adults typically don't "replace" one parent with a stepparent the way younger children sometimes might. You not at risk of parental alienation syndrome (aka PAS) if you are considering the worst case scenario. * Do not leave the house unless you wanna drag the divorce for years with free housing & marital support while u are bleeding. Dont believe her it is better for for everyone sake /kiddos. BS * Speak about your high sexdrive to your doctor: maybe u have an…
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/24 10:32 AM
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* STD checks: STBX is maybe currently branching out.. * If suspicion confirmed: DNA parental test for kids (dont ask/tell her) while u have them accessible. * Don't leave the house even if she wants u out, unless u wanna drag the divorce for years while $ bleeding financially.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/24 10:02 AM
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file first bc that would mean judge read your doc first, your attorney speaks first. Dont leave the 🏠 unless you want her to drag the divorce for years for free housing & mandatory marital support while u bleeding with another rent. She will say is is better for everyone if u leave or she feel unsafe. Bs. if she has mental issues (drinkin pb, depression), Record all interaction (dont ask/tell her) & stay 10 feet away from her, Mental issues would mean u are at certain risk of bogus accusation to…
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/24 09:42 PM
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Do whatever u can, record etc no need to ask. Than your attorney will tell u if that proof is acceptable and on may case it could be. Worst case scenario u recorded or track her for nothing. 2nd option u respect privacy and consent 100% and u got no proof once in court while she recorded u and painted u as a violentone
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/24 07:39 PM
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While most states permit no-fault divorces, some still consider adultery when determining financial settlements, potentially leading to reduced entitlements for the "cheater". Ask your attorney ⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE APPARTMENT⚠️ unless a judge orders it. This a classic mistake & Here's why: Once you're out, she becomes the primary caregiver & You're suddenly the "weekend dad." or "walking purse" Her 👹lawyer might tell her to drag this divorce out for years for Free housing and financial support BUT…
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/24 02:39 PM
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You will have more accurate advices on dedicate sub r/parentalalienation
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/24 01:04 PM
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Divorce increase poverty by splitting assets on both side mothing new.
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/24 01:01 PM
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file first bc that would mean judge read your doc first, your attorney speaks first. Dont leave the 🏠 u Les you want to jeopardize your child custody by putting it as the primary caregiver and she will drag the divorce for years if that mean free housing. She will say is is better for everyone/kiddo. Bs. Take first whatever u need out of the house if u decide to leave anyway easier for ana attorney to argue to keep something than to ask to get it back. You want your child? Stay with them don't l…
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/24 08:12 AM
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in most juridictions yes illegal until u need a proof and than the judge could take it. Also recording his partner is illegal but once u use it for DV proof than it is ok. Perspective
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/24 08:06 AM
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Cheating helmet: * Std check * DNA parental test for kids( don't Ask or tell her) * Hidden gps tracker if she uses the 🚗 to notice location pattern (bf place or motel). If no car one incognito in her bag
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 05:50 PM
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Start looking for rental aaround the 30-day mark of the 60-day waiting period) Do not sign a lease until the divorce is final (or very close to being final) & Negotiate flexibility with potential landlords. Some especially divorced men may be willing to work with you on this, especially if you're honest about your situation. if afraid about getting stuck , you could also look at short-term leases or furnished apartments. So u can move as soon as your divorce is finalized without a long-term comm…
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 04:00 PM
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⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ Repeat that to yourself 10 x. Seriously. Here's why: Once out, she becomes the primary caregiver & You're the "weekend dad." or "walking purse". You create a precedent in custody, compromising chances of getting 50/50 Her 👹lawyer might drag this divorce out for years for Free housing and financial support. Texas requires a 60d waiting but this is the minimum. BUT If you stay, she'll want to speed up the divorce Worst case: You pay for a house while she brings in the ne…
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/24 03:37 PM
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Std checks DNA parental test( dont ask/ tell her) Adultery can be taking tibi account when determining alimony on some state) countries but u need proof. If she has a car hide a gps tracker in bud to find pattern location if you suspect a special cheating day, add a USB or 🖊️ recorder to catch her. You can tell her that you will shut your mouth about ti to the kid if she agrees on the divorce conditions so also you will prevent your kid mental health until he is old enough. Homewrecker law allow…
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/24 09:12 PM
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dont leave the 🏠 unless u are willing to let her her dragging the divorce for years while paying for everything making her the primary parent and abandoning your right for your desired child custody. Don't believe her if she said it would be better for everyone of you leave. If you stay she will have incentive to speed up the divorce process. Once you are our she cold bring her bf and his kids while u are paying for them indirectly: you will be a victim of the cuckoo bird. If you really live the…
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/24 09:05 PM
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Dépense on the type of divorce. You rarely gain anything to be enemy of someone. Did she asked way too much or screwed your life?
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/24 08:14 AM
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Cheating TODOs: Std check DNA parental test if kid (don't ask/tell her) Homewrecker law exist only in some states do get $$$ from her BF While all US states now offer "no-fault" divorce, some states still consider adultery when when determining alimony Communication strategy: Don't ever contact her without recording. Avoid phone call and all by message if possible. She left an audio? reply "seems important, send a message" If u stay in the house, stay 10 feet away all the time & bring a witness …
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/24 06:36 AM
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Most people dont care what you got divorced aside close family at best & maybe for few minutes bc of The spotlight effect : apsychological phenomenon by which people tend to believe they are being noticed more than they really are
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/24 08:37 PM
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Nope, it is the same everywhere.. in Western Countries. In Muslim countries, the default marital contract is one of separation. And the default child custody is for the husband unless they are very very young & traditionally, the right to divorce was largely reserved for men. Alimony do not exist in most of them. Default marital contract is the separated one.Women could only, at best, request their husbands to initiate the divorce process. In some case if she gets remarried, she will lose custod…
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/24 10:04 AM
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video conferencing can be dehumanizing, similar to a pilot engaging a target from a screen, rather than being on the ground, face-to-face, and bombing the place & human in it
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/24 09:57 AM
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If you feel that the judge's behavior was unfair, you may want to consider appealing the decision. Plus, If you feel that your current lawyer is not that good, you may need a better one. Before the next hearing on December 18, gather more evidence to support your case, such as: Bank statements showing your income and expenses. Proof of your mortgage payments & impact of the judge's ruling on your ability to pay. Your healthcare expenzes & how they affect your net income. Any other relevant finan…
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/24 09:53 AM
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Just read the youtube title: Gold Digger. The judge mentioned her $489 monthly "recreational "entertainment and $400 monthly clothing and personal care, are "not acceptable" and that she needs to "tighten up" on these expenses. Nope, the judge said he is reserving the issue of how the house will be split until further information is available, such as the appraisal of the house's value. He also mentions that if Mr. Toodle has contributed separate monies to the house, these contributions may be t…
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/24 09:07 PM
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* Proof: Document her drinking behavior with proof & even recording her (dont ask/tell her). Could be helpful in the divorce & child custody. * Mental issue: Heavy Drinking mean she drinks to cope with mental issues such as depression etc. If she was Suicidal, u need proof of that as well.She needs therapy &/or go to AA * Bogus DV accusation: With her mental issue you are at risk of False DV accusation aka Silver Bullet Divorce explained here & you need to know about Police Tactics if she uses t…
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/24 07:00 PM
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Ye totally agree but I mentioned also a real case when the police watched the footagem as u said it depends on the police will and default behaviour even in Europe is to throw teg man in our haut on casem even if u search on Google women violence towards men u get response or escalating and trying to understand what she felt that way. Try same query from woman and u got the violence office line printed on google resul
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/24 02:31 PM
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Alimony + 1/2 of what she has + child support. Don't ask for less in the name of All the Dad that has to pay for it in Overwhelming Majority. She won't have asked less if she was in your case as 80% of women that ask for Alimony. Don't fall for her manipulation such as:" but it is mine blablabla be a man and earn yours blablabla don't be a thief blablab'
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/24 11:02 AM
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lest stop the theory for a minute, we have multiple cases of divorce men that manage to record their wife when she calls the cop & prove them she was the violent one & her version was not the one presented. EVEN a man stated that only the recording saved him as we all know in DV. One even had multiple cameras & show them to the cope to show thel she is the one who hit him. This is not opinion land, but real cases. Of couse, once she has played that card, u need to move out. She could played it o…
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/24 08:58 AM
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The do not move out of the hosue is NOT a reddit advice but a classic 101 men divorce mistake & basic advice given by most attorney unless u are at HIGH risk of false DV , & i mentioned it. What inevitable? Can u read again? she could DRAG THE DIVORCE FOR YEARS after u move out & if she si a stay at home or low income, guess who is paying marital support for YEARS + loan or rent of it? You the man breadwinner. You mentioned a year or 2 , u have no idea... last friend i followed said her wife att…
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/24 08:52 AM
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Not necessary. False DV are mostly done by mentally ill and/or violent women. He also could record any interaction in case of suspicion and avoid fake DV but only once. Than he would need to go away if she is call the cop as she could call it a 2nd time
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 09:36 PM
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2n reason of not moving our of the house is that her attorney will advise her to stretch out as much as possible potentially years for free housing and marital support
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 07:31 PM
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*⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless a judge orders it. Repeat that to yourself 10 x. Seriously. Here's why: Once you're out, she becomes the primary caregiver by default & you the "WE dad Her 👹lawyer might tell her to drag this divorce out for years for Free housing and financial support BUT If you stay, she'll want to speed up the divorce. Worst case: You pay for a house while she brings in the new BF (real example: Sarah Jane parkinson bring home his BF with his 3 kids) Don't fall for her sugge…
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 02:36 PM
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Don't leave the house unless a judge order it unless you want to delay the divorce and give her free housing and $$$ and let her decide for child. Don't let her fool u by telling u it is for the kids benefits. Leaving the house will compromise you child custody by creating a précédent Std check DNA parental test( don't ask/tell her) Check if eligible to home wrecker law to get $$ but only available in certain states from BF. If not eligible some state still could punish her financially if u have…
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 12:25 PM
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Reddit don't allowed font color dude
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 07:32 PM
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I've been watching the left/right drama unfold, from Europe and it's gotten to the point where politics has become a fanatical religion. I know some folks who wouldn't dare date someone from the 'other side', like a Democrat chick with a pro-Trump guy - it's like they're from opposite religions. And the crazy part is, they think the party in power can imrprove their lives Newsflash: you're the one driving it
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 04:52 PM
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You are really under her thumb: Trump as nothing to do with your wife wanting to cut ties with your family. She could have used the excuse of Ukraine war or the price of bread in Cairo ;). Dont search for an external random culprit, SHE IS. She just wants a divorce. Open your 👀!!!
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/24 03:41 PM
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Do you mean the mum is speaking to your daughter directly? on a daily basis when u have child custody?
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/24 12:09 PM
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If you decide to go to court, bring that: Harassment: Given recent arrest and the barrage of messages on family app, you can argue that her behavior constitutes harassment. Involvement of 3rd Mother f####: her BF in the phone calls is a form of harassment and that it's affecting your child's well-being. Unlawful contact: Since your ex came to your house& refused to leave, you can argue that this is trespassing, which might be grounds for further action. Communication strategy: Quick responses an…
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/24 11:54 AM
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* STD checks is needed here * If they are not yours, kids need to know at some point who is their genitor . It does not mean yo are not their dad. Btw dont ask or tell her for DNA test. * If you are not divorced yet, some states could punish her financially for adultery (0no alimony). So that test is relevant
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/24 08:47 AM
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Legal trail: Discuss her violence with a therapist asap. Ensure that they can provide a testimony if needed, + sttaing that you are experiencing depression, anxiety bc of that. Independent third-party are often considered more objective athan testimonials from friends or family . Documenting Incidents: Send many email to a friend, mentioning the violent behavior and including a timestamp. This can serve as evidence. Try to find an excuse. Never meet her again without recording. TRO strike could …
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/24 03:45 PM
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At such age, she is at higher risk of getting a sick child (Down syndrome to name one) DNA parental test if u had other kids(Dont ask/tell her). You cant be sure when she started cheating.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/24 01:21 PM
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People raise an eyebrow when they see me with a phone , but a smart wristwatch? that stays under their radar. Better than app recorder, I am referring to phone call recording , by default disabled on Android/Apple phone, but enable in Redmi/Blackview phone (Chinese Android brand )
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/24 01:11 PM
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Dont leave the house. That is the general rule detailed here why. Why did you accept it? Now you are in the same situation of that guy's ex-wife: his ex Sarah Jane parkinson bring in his home his BF with his 3 kids) Resilience: Time to add some mental cushions during that shitstorm: therapy, cardio, lifting weight. Details here Cheated? todos: STD check DNA parental test (dont ask/tell her) Alienation of Affection Eligibility to get lot of $$$ aka "homewrecker" law, is only available in a few st…
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/24 12:19 PM
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⚠️Bogus DV⚠️: you are the HIGH RISK of false domestic violence accusations, as she is a violent person & probably with mental issues . We see this pattern every week here in anew story of protective order thrown at the guy & him out of the house. That is just stage 1. Other stages are worse if you have kids. This technique is called the Silver Bullet Divorce., read my article here. Police tactics: to read as u are at high risk of fake accusations. Dont leave the house. That is the general rule d…
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/24 11:42 AM
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fire Vs fire: bring someone else you too,let him be upstairs, use tv, take long shower in bathroom at key times, it will annoy your wife & him & act as a witness in case of false accusation. Ideally a family member but i am pretty sure u can find someone living for free as long as he/she is ok to testify i needed.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/24 01:56 PM
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False accusation: * as retaliation + potential signs of mental issues of your wife, You are at High risk of false accusation, read Silber Bullet for details * you should no more meet anyone one of them without recording constantly & if interesting saving it somewhere on the cloud. I recommend to use a wrist recording watch, discreet & always on you. Make sure to describe everything they are doing or saying that can matter in court as if u were accompanied by a blind person & pronounce their name…
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/24 01:51 PM
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You should have stayed in the house for those reasons. Divorce could last longer than u think bc of that rookie error. Limit communication to ONE channel and ONE person (email to provide a electronic trail) and slow down responses (>=24 hour) to avoid engaging in verbal diarrhea as u did. Consider all your messages can be read out loud by her attorney in court. Stick to minimalist & required-only responses. Communication with should be about the kids only & nothing about any of the legal issues.…
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/24 09:52 PM
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⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless a judge orders it bc: Once you're out, she becomes the primary caregiver & You the "WE dad." or "walking purse" Her 👹lawyer might tell her to drag this divorce out for years for Free housing & $$$ BUT If you stay, she'll want to speed up the divorce. If you leave, NO incentive to hurry. Worst case: You pay for a house while she brings in the new BF (real example: Sarah Jane parkinson bring home his BF with his 3 kids) Don't fall for her suggestion to move out, c…
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/24 09:32 PM
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Todos: STD check DNA parental test (dont tell/ask her) ⚠️ Dont LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ Details on why here Negotiate 0 alimony & other advantages u would like on one condition you keep quiet about it & it will remain a secret. However, only use this if you have solid proof of her cheating, allowing you to achieve 2 goals : No alimony and protecting your child's well-being. If she dont accept it, In Texas, adultery can be used as a factor in dividing marital assets, determining spousal maintenance . To…
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/24 09:27 PM
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I gogole it your question and from family wizard app: "Easy expense tracking Tracking shared parenting expenses, attach receipt files, and keep an accurate payment history so you know who paid what and can settle reimbursements with less legwork. Specify payment responsibility splits like 50/50, 80/20, etc. Resolve unpaid expenses with in-app bank transfers via OFWpay™ Always know what you owe with real-time balance tracking
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 08:05 PM
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Gogole parenting apps list
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 07:55 PM
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What don't u use ca court-approved coparent app. They have a payment section with logs and when you drop in and off at exact time and gps location and calendar custody etc
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 04:43 PM
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First time hearing this and I am not young. . I am a house owner and I am working 9h per day on another job and sleeping another 7h so it remains only 8h for eating errands and house maintenance. I have a garden by the way that Maintain. So no never heard someone stating he needs 8/10h per day just bc he is an owner unless he is doing renovation but limited in time
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 02:32 PM
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Establish Written Boundaries: Since you already have a verbal agreement about sharing the house and alternating weeks, try to put it in writing, even if informally to start. Legal Advice on Property: U can start discussing financial and property settlements with your lawyer now. Given her behavior, you could negotiate arrangements that keep her out of the house when it isn’t her time. Your lawyer can also advise you on how to protect your assets—especially since she isn't contributing financiall…
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 12:14 PM
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i find it difficult to understand how chores are non stop in a house without kids or old parents relying on you. Before kids, i used to have too much free time even after full day of work & cooking something for dinner. COuld it be related to pets?
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 10:07 AM
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If you're lacking social activity, consider joinging a gym or a sport team/association. hey also provide a great way to meet like-minded individuals & form meaningful connections & Develop a sense of camaraderie
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 10:00 AM
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For credit card payments, use Google or Apple Pay, bc they provide: A convenient backup in case u temporary lose credit card Exact timestamp of transactions, with date and time, and location of the store on bank statements (info not available on bank statement
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 09:32 AM
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* Cameras placed in private areas, especially those used for dressing or bathrooms, can be legally questionable ven in a shared home. Check your state/country specific privacy laws that could work in your favor here. If this is a violationyou could bring it up with your attorney, who may advise you * Use a network scanner on the wifi or better use the one provided by the Internet provider. You should find a list of all connecte devices. Try to scan it at a late hour when tv, computer personal us…
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/24 09:44 PM
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yep this is related to the spot light effect in case wants to know what psy research was made around the fact that most people dont care about how u dress, live etc.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/24 09:37 PM
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you are NOT bad at earing money, you are just bad at managing it. I used to earn 50k per year & put aside half of it. Mine could easily spend $1/2K/month if I didn’t put bracks on it. Overspending is usually a sign of mental issue, to cope with stress or depression. Your ex need therapy... You were part of the issue: as the main earner, your have to keep a handle on it For you future woman, ideally u should found someone like you, if not keep clear financial boundaries : Separate Accounts for pe…
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/24 09:33 PM
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sounds like your ex may be trying to bluff, banking on your fear of court to get you to fold. Here’s how you can be prepared: Weak Case, Hoping You’ll Settle If your ex filed just to intimidate you, her lack of follow- suggests she expected you to give in easily. Stayfirm with your attorney will show her you’re not backing down. Running Out the Clock With your son close to 18, she may be stalling to waste your time & money, hoping you’ll get frustrated and settle. Since he’s not going to college…
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/24 07:44 PM
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If the total marital expenses > what child support would be, that should position you for a fairer settlement. your attorney can argue that since you’re covering all these expenses, the proposed child support amount should be reduced /offset accordingly. Courts generally recognize fairness when one has been covering significant shared exp post separation. If mediation gets delayed, you could propose a temporary reduction in expenses while waiting for a final agreement Good luck
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/24 10:36 AM
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50/50 Custody First: good thing your attorney believes you'll get at least 50/50. TIME is one resource that can never be bought back. Looking back, father rarely regret not working more, but often wish they had spent more time attending their children's moments together. As people reflect on their lives in their death bed, the common regret expressed is: 'I wish I had loved more and worked less'. Hope you dont plan leaving the house bc she said it would be better until divorce. be careful it is …
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/24 10:22 AM
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⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless a judge orders it. Repeat that to yourself 10 x. Seriously. Once you're out, she becomes the primary caregiver by default. You're suddenly the "weekend dad." or "walking purse" * Her 👹lawyer might tell her to drag this divorce out for years bc your financial support for her. BUT If you stay, she'll want to speed up the divorce. If you leave, she's got NO incentive to hurry. * Worst case: You're paying for a house while she brings in the new BF living in it (real…
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/24 10:30 PM
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⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless a judge orders it. Repeat that to yourself 10 x. Seriously. Once you're out, she becomes the primary caregiver by default. You're suddenly the "weekend dad." or "walking purse" Her 👹lawyer might tell her to drag this divorce out for years bc hey, Free housing and your financial support for her BUT If you stay, she'll want to speed up the divorce. If you leave, she's got NO incentive to hurry. Worst case: You're paying for a house while she brings in the new BF l…
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/24 09:26 PM
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* Hidden GPS Car tracker if she uses it. After a while u may notice suspicious recurrent location * Hidden pen or usb secret audio recorder if you suspect a specific day(eg: "today, i will be late for work blabla/ i am going on work travel for 1 day..."). I know a woman catch her husband that way
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/24 04:29 PM
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If you live together long-term with that other child+woman, some laws do have provisions that might require support if you were to separate You do not want to be a victim of the cuckoo: a bird that rely on others to raise their young.....
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/24 04:10 PM
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STD check DNA parental test if you have kids & asap Alienation of Affection Eligibility to get $$$: aka "homewrecker" law, is only available in a few states, allowing a married or divorced person or to sue a 3rd party for damaging their marital relationship. Typically, it involve someone who had an affair with her ex, Real-Life Example: After his ex-wife cheated on him, he sued her BF in NY with text messages, emails, and photos, he won:
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/24 04:05 PM
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Put a hidden car tracker or air apple tag in something she has all day. After day or weeks u will notice some repetitive location unless it is a collègue maybe. Or a pen audio recorder on her to catch glamour stuff for specific day A man I know was caught that way as he lied and said he has to work very late . If she already confessed try to get her admit it who he was and that at least u deserve to know that it is not Kim whatever and get the confession on recordm tell her u need to know who he…
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/24 11:16 PM
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TODOS: * STD check * DNA parental test if kids * Alienation of Affection Eligibility to get $$$ aka "homewrecker" law, is only available in a few states, allowing a married or divorced person or to sue a 3rd party for damaging their marital relationship. Typically, it involve someone who had an affair with her ex. -Real-Life Example After his ex-wife cheated on him, he sued her BF in NY with text messages, emails, and photos, he won: $125,000 for that Alienation No alimony Ex required to pay for…
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/24 08:52 PM
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FREEZE/Split IMMEDIATLY your joint accounts/credit card/check to stop your ex running up any new debts or withdrawing money That only advice could save you Thousands. Kidnapping: Dont let her leave with kids, it will be a nightmare. Without a court order, taking children out of the country without your consent could be considered international parental kidnapping . See an attorney urgently. he may suggest initiating a divorce & seeking a restraining order or custody arrangement to safeguard your…
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/24 08:48 AM
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FREEZE your joint accounts/credit card/check IMMEDIATLY to stop your ex running up any new debts or withdrawing money. That only advice could save you Thousands. ⚠️DO NOT ever meet her without a witness or phone recording (without telling her). You are at risk fo false domestic violence accusation Scan or copy all relevant documents without filtering you can do that later. The goal is to gather as much information as possible, as you never know what might be useful down the line.Shared car? Cons…
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/24 07:51 PM
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Resilience is the ability to adapt & the capacity to absorb and manage difficult emotions. You're going through a tough time, so time to add some cushions Physical Get your body in shape: lift weights, do cardio You need to be strong, both physically and mentally, to take on the challenges ahead. It is either this or take depression pills. Exercise has been studied as being as good as Prozac Get a full bloodwork before starting to see result a year from now. Add STD check while u are on it...esp…
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/24 01:19 PM
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Quite funny to see that other woman can be affected by another woman ♀️ demands and be affected by crazy laws. Lawmaker don't understand that puting a man in financial struggle could also affect other women : mum, current gf, etc. He was crazy to accept 10k/month for lifetime as he was Elon musk or had 100millions already in account. I would have preferred to spent that much on attorney to not pay that each month than on her
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 10:59 AM
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Split cost accout and earning account don't mix them up and have her access only cost account and make sure no negative amounts is allowed. I know so who did that . Only a wall will work nor communication at step 1you should have done that at first extravagant expenses. On extrem case in some juridictions bc of her expense one spouse can request full economical custody from the judge if the other has expense habit that jeopardize the family Step2; I strongly advised you to put her on therapy: sh…
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 10:50 AM
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Stay in the house!!!!. More details If you suspect Cheating: STD check Alienation of affection , aka "homewrecker" law, is only available in a few states, allowing a married or divorced person or to sue a 3rd party for damaging their marital relationship. Typically, it involve someone who had an affair with her ex, Real-Life Example: After his ex-wife cheated on him, he sued her wife'sBF in NY with text messages, emails, and photos, he won:$125,000 for that Alienation paid by BF, No alimony + Ex…
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/24 11:14 AM
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Asymmetric rights: Yes weird she can call or msg you, but you can't reply . Until you get an attorney, You NEED to read that EPO in details & have a copy on you all the time. More details on DO & DONT on protective order are here Stay in your house as she is already out of it unless forced out by EPO/law. Details on why here. Record ALL interactions with her (she come home) & upload them on cloud & if possible have a witness Prepare for Escalation: Learn about Silver Bullet Method (EPO is part o…
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/24 10:49 AM
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Who has the lowest fear of loss controls the relationship. Consequence : Always have a plan B in contract-based relationships or else you will be the one fearing loss of it & the other will smell it & has the upper hand. All relationships have a STARTING & ENDING date: Normal blood-related one ends with death Contractual relations expire with end of the contract. That is why Even stepfamily/spouse and former colleagues often cut ties or turn as enemies once their interests no longer align with y…
/r/Divorce_Men25/10/24 10:30 AM
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* WIFE BS Personally i would have accepted to just be roomate with my wife for the kids but seem it depends on personality. But you are taking meds: Is she violent? shouting? insults? Can u elaborate? * Ask for 50/50 Custody no less. Time is a resource that cannot be replaced. Wisdom from older parents: they often wished they had spent more time with their younger children. As people reflect on their lives in their final moments, the common regret expressed is: 'I wish I had loved more and worke…
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/24 07:54 PM
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Are you part of a religious group were alcohol consumption is completely forbidden for her to have such reaction (eg: muslim or some christian group) She had no rights to throw you out of the house unless u agreed or judge decided with a protection order if accused of Domestic violence. Just go back with cops.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/24 07:47 PM
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⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless a judge orders it. Here's why In most jurisdictions, until the divorce is finalized, you have the RIGHT occupy the marital home, regardless of whose own it She Cheated? STD check DNA parental test check if Eligible to homewrecker" law? more details here Time for Resilience Building : lift+cardio+theapist See more details ps: what you meant by renting to her mum? Was it cheaper that way? Did you somehow bought it ?
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/24 12:37 PM
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Depending on the price, if not helping her means cutting ties with your son, I would help her just enough to make him happy. Can you elaborate on " he wants me to help out"? Stay there many hours per day? or just bring some meds once per week? There is helping & helping. Another alternative is that you could reduce the workload of your son if he stays hours with her so he could stay more with her & you are helping him that way. So yo still help her indirectly but at least if the issue is just do…
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/24 11:26 AM
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* Stay in house * Resilience building: lift+cardio+therapist * Other general advices: car tracker, asset protection....
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/24 12:07 PM
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add DNA parental test if kids
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/24 10:12 PM
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⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless a judge orders it. Repeat that to yourself 10 x. Seriously. Rookie mistake. Here's why Read all other pages on that wiki, that cover many tips u need in preparation for the divorce
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/24 02:48 PM
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No
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/24 01:43 PM
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Limit communication to ONE channel (email for electronic trail) and slow down responses (>=24 hour) to avoid engaging in verbal diarrhea. Consider all your messages can be read out loud by her attorney in court. Stick to kids only & nothing about legal issues. No more in person/phone call conversations .Voice message? Reply with an short & to-the-point email. If you lose your phone chances are you don't have a backup whereas email will still be accessible with precise timestamp. If needed, For a…
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/24 01:36 PM
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Your text is WAY TOO LONG (timeline of military transfers, Philippines...) if you argue like that in court, you will lose their attention & will stop you so u wont be able mention important points. you NEED to stick to the core themes (parental alienation, refusal to cooperate, and passive-aggressive behavior) ie she obstructing your parental rights Parental Alineation: your ex is doing is a form of parental alienation(PA), which courts generally do not take lightly if you have evidenc: detailed…
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/24 12:38 PM
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BPD means you are at high risk of false accusation DV and she could have been violent with you in the past. See https://slimwiki.com/survival/getting-started/silver-bullet-divorce-iuvy34cw3z-xed5clv4hnpb Which state or country are u from? Bear in mind she can't kidnap the children where she wants unless she fabricate false accusation and erase you as a parent legally. So stop being afraid Was she ever violent? Insults alone is considered domestic violence in most juridictions. Most men are willi…
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/24 09:32 AM
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Stay in house is the default rule to follow bc leaving is a rookie mistake explained here However, she could sill punish you with false DV if you fill divorce after moving. Filing for DV Whoever files first has a huge advantage. Filing after she does can be seen as retaliation & ignored. Gathering Evidence of DV Try to get her to admit it when she emotional, and record the conversation. Create a paper trail by sending an email to a trusted friend or family member about the past incident of DV, m…
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/24 07:39 AM
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TODO list in case u suspect cheating STD check DNA parental test Check if Eligible to Homewrecker Law to get lot $$$
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/24 05:52 PM
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Yes parent alienation usually work With the primary parent using kid as a weapon. Glad u went past that and probably your son was old enough to to not be brainwashed. I have a wiki about men false accused . See other pages on the left menu. Hope that could help you: https://slimwiki.com/survival/getting-started/welcome
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/24 12:11 PM
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Textbook silver bullet method divorce. She wants you to be the alienated dad aka parental alienation ie kids hating you but seem it is not working that smoothly. They probably took all your it équipement if she accused you of pedophilia to check if u don't have some pedo on it. In Europe in some states that is the default police reaction
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/24 10:58 PM
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250k is a house price where I live in Europe. U really were quite rich as if it was 1k for average eprson
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/24 10:30 PM
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Who paid the 125k? Bf or ex? Very interesting concept. They used to throw cheater in jail in the 70s cheater in Europe and in some countries it is 💀 as we speak
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/24 07:04 PM
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Ho could u send 250k with no paper nothing as if u used to earn that much on a monthly basis? Were u a millionaire ? I sent a year of saving to my sister I trust 100% but still got her a loan paper signed With her husband as well and told her to tell her husband in unprobable case she dies he needs to know he owns me that money and ask her for a payment schedule.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/24 07:02 PM
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Why are u even doubting? Absent parent for long hours without notifying you is a clear fault. This is not rocket science You are doubting bc of what she told you probably aka gaslighting even if I hate this word in general as it is overused. Document everything picture with them rececept email to friend and family mentioning u are alone for hours etc. Leave a giant undeniable trail than fight for custody u want. Min 50 50 nor less. Time is ressource u can't buy back
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/24 01:45 PM
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So u left the house and cannot come back while having to pay for it somehow. Is that right?
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/24 10:58 AM
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Already talked about divorce & long hours ? Either workaholics to not see you or cheating... Hope i am wrong: put a hidden car tracker, pen audio recorder that last many hours. Dont ask permission. About being late: any adult should be able to agree on: who ever is more late than 1h should inform the other. If she disagree with that basic rule it means, she is completely unreliable, or have a blatant disregard for your time, which make her immature aka she has mental issues.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/24 07:59 AM
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lucky she is a bit dumb, & i am being polite... imagine she would have called the cops without threating you so u would not have recorded her & with a clean criminal record & before punch herself enough. That would have been another story. I know that exact case & situation is reversed: he can't see his kids since a year.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/24 11:58 AM
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Many Chinese-based Android phones, such as Redmi, have a built-in feature to natively record calls. Is she still unaware that you've been recording her conversations all this time? prosecute her because one day she might try to retaliate against you & cops could not be that clever & lenient or you will forget to record bc of low battery or unexpected stuff. You need to proves she's a compulsive liar, to be used a permanent shield against any future accusations.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/24 07:02 AM
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you got a wise judge that is used to that BS. Some family law judge are just lazy & take the lest risky word: get her what she wants until something get out of the accusation trial. Bear in mind not everyone is that lucky & some men went though mud without any proof.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/24 07:18 PM
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False allegation are textbook silver bullet method & used as leverage in divorce to get more out of you: money & child custody. more details here Exampe: If you're accused of a pedro####, the other parent may request that your parental rights be suspended or restricted until the allegations are resolved
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/24 07:13 PM
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i guess they mean LTR if you live together. If she live in her own place officially & no kid involved, how could they punishe the man?
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/24 07:08 PM
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False accusation of domestic violence (DV) might be just the beginning. Unfortunately, there are potentially more severe and damaging accusations that could follow. Do I need to elaborate? marital rape, nudism in front of kifs, pedo##" & all at once, i saw that & final straw: parental alienation, aka brainwashed young kids hating you & refusing to see you for years. If you're looking for guidance on navigating false DV accusations and divorce, I have a comprehensive resource available that cover…
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/24 05:50 PM
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DNA swab kit parental test for all your kids while u can & without asking her. STD checks Stay in the house
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/24 07:10 AM
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textbook silver bullet method at work. She only missed accusing you bein par of 9/11 (dont joke, a ex wife tried) you will probably see the alienated kids under supervision at stage 1: * u will be observed during first visit, they will ask them if you badmouth about their mum etc, avoid that. * even if not observed, u dont know if one of them is spying on behalf of her, so consider what ever u said will be listening by her Even when custody is back, it is not finished, she can still try to accus…
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/24 12:39 PM
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I put all my advice on that wiki page. Feel free to comment it in MP or here . We need a central place to fight back.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/24 09:10 AM
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🚨ATTENTION PLEASE🚨 Suicide threats is a classic sign of violence person. When police officers investigate domestic violence, they often ask the victim a series of questions to identify red flags such as: 🔫 Did they threaten to harm themselves? 🍺 Do they have a history of addiction (drugs or alcohol)? 🧠 Do they have any mental health issues? 💊 Are they taking medication? What kind? So far she has checked at least 3 But the twists is here :A violent woman can accused you of being the violent one(l…
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 02:22 PM
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⚠️DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE⚠️ unless a judge orders it. Repeat that to yourself 10 x. Seriously. Only exception is that if she is a violent one &/or with mental issues ---->you are at risk of bogus domestic violence accusation & TRO strike(ie a judge telling you to get out) Here's why: Once you're out, she becomes the primary caregiver by default. You're suddenly the "weekend dad." or "walking purse" Her 👹lawyer might tell her to drag this divorce out for years bc hey, Free housing and support for …
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 09:11 AM
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Just buy a Redmi phone android. They call record natively phone call most of them. Same thing With blackvieW
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/24 07:18 PM
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So no clear accusation or separate one. Without proof any judge would smeel Bs especially fmif this happens coincidentally when asking for divorce . If they were physical abuse you would have asked her detailed questions and your attorney Would have accessed to them. Kind of weird
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/24 07:05 PM
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you story is way too short. How did she accused you of DV? did she got proof? record you?call the cope? u went in jail or where released on bail? Does he has mental issues? i bet yes & she was used to be the agressive one or was it mutual?
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/24 03:00 PM
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the judge would likely consider your background, including your work history and any previous legal matters:-->If you have no prior criminal record or history of abuse , good point for you About those Domestic viokence, could she include testimony, medical records, or witness statements ? dont u have an attorney to talk about that or is it above your league?
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/24 02:56 PM
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explain "toxic & selfish" with real examples(violent? insulting? break stuff?), because on average (70-80%) usually women initiate the divorce
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/24 06:28 AM
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because u decide probaly to leave the house/appart as usual & now have that financial burden you your shoulder., am I right? She got free money & housing from you without you as long as u are married, why would she divorce from you? She needs "time" probably she woulkd reply, to drag that thing for years.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/24 06:21 AM
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I would have told this: "Princess, in our World, 80% do not do something they like. And even those who like it, they would happily do at only 1/2 day per week max."
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/24 06:17 AM
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Cohabitation with your EX, while helpful as u said, could introduce legal ambiguities such as future custody arrangement modifications She might try to change the custody arrangement someday. While it's technically possible for her to try to change the custody arrangement, it wont be fasy, cheap & easy as attorney said bc any attempt to modify custody would require going through the court system, especially for a mum who voluntarily gave up custody. she may have established tenancy rights. In Mi…
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/24 12:56 PM
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Same thing. Not related to rent or owned house. If rent, u are supposed to pay the rent if u are the breadwinner & she has free housing as well. Move ONLy if high risk of bogus DV
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/24 12:13 PM
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It is typical Victim Blaming or Gaslighting: classic psychological tactic where so portrays themselves as the victim, as coping mechanism to justify their destructive behavior. So , they shift the blame on you, the Bad Guy.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/24 06:39 AM
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* Control Finance: time to take control of your finances and make some changes. For divorc prep open a separate bank accounts and keep your income in your own account For her account , transfer her the necessary funds for the month's expenses, and make sure to set aside 10-20% of your income in a separate savings account. That way, you'll be teaching your wife the importance of budgeting. you're encouraging her to get a handle on her spending habits and learn how to prioritize especially if u pl…
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/24 06:29 AM
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A common tactic used by men is to call their wife 'crazy', but this approach can backfire as Judges may be quick to punish the 'offender' without sufficient evidence. So she kind of helped you.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/24 06:15 AM
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so u are also a survivor of a nuclear legal attack. Welcome to MadMax, bro.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/24 06:11 AM
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What u mentioned the only exception to this general rule & it is not the main case. I mention it ONLY if OP mentions insult & violence or mental health issues/addiction of her. I know it too well what bogus DV is & u have not even reach, I hope, level 2 of fake accusations (marital rape, pedo## over kid, nudism with kid...) & PA (parental alienation). So hope u know u are at high risk of PA if u have kids. I even advise a friend in Europe to NOT stay at home with her crazy wife who never said sh…
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 03:07 PM
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* put a hidden tracker on her car to know her whereabouts. * If confirmed, asap DNA paternity test for your kids while u still have access to hem. Dont tell her unless results confirmed twice + put a pen audio recorder when u know she moves out late at night to meet a "friend". I know someone catch him that way & managed to record moanings... * Do NOT move out unless a judge order so. It is 101 Divorce Men mistake Full details here. U wrote "she previously kicked me out"? what do u mean? U are m…
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 07:24 AM
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I urge you to NOT move out. It is 101 Divorce Men classc mistake Full details here
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/24 07:16 AM
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* She can ask another TRO bc she "fears" you blabka when u came back & threat her with an umbrella blabla ---> Limit communication with her & never reply when angry. do not ever meet her without witness or recording * do u have kids? next move could be level 2 of silver bullet divorce. ie pedo## over kid, marital rape, parental alienation if kid etc Google it. She probably feel untouchable now she played the Victim card & got what she wants. She could continue that way. * She could also empty yo…
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 06:15 PM
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Do NOT move out. It is 101 Divorce Men mistake Full details here
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 02:08 PM
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Child custody decisions are made based on the "best interests of the child" standard. So in case of conflict, you will have to prove your implication in the child life(receipt...) & not considered only ab ATM machine. So at least do not leave the house for child custody & financial aspect. Full details here
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 08:07 AM
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If she had someone, she would not say she has else anyway so no point in asking. You mentioned she used to have a normal or high libido & now it is dead bed? Case of unchanged libido: She is either using someone else or doing it alone. Hints of cheating: she starts working late, taking longer breaks, or having unexplained absences. starts dressing differently, wearing new perfume, or paying more attention to her appearance -->If yes, she has her own car, Than u need what to do to track its locat…
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 07:41 AM
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Anger issues'? u mean u are a victim of DV and at minimum she is insulting you & perhaps break stuff around you. Did she played the VictimCard to get a TRO ? are u prepared for that? Violentwoman used to play it when divorce is near .
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/24 07:13 AM
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DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE unless a judge orders it. Repeat that to yourself 10 x. Seriously. Here's why: Once you're out, she becomes the primary caregiver by default. You're suddenly the "weekend dad." or "walking purse" Her lawyer might tell her to drag this divorce out for years bc hey, Free housing and support for her, while you're stuck paying BUT If you stay, she'll want to speed up the divorce. If you leave, she's got NO incentive to hurry. Why? Free housing !! Worst case as mentionned by so…
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/24 07:44 PM
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t doesn't matter who owns or rents the house. By moving out, you basically agreed that their mom is the primary caretaker and has a certain level of custody. So, it's likely the judge will just keep things the way they are & not 50/50, since that's already the arrangement
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/24 07:06 AM
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...I put my life on hold for her. I supported her and her business... What do u mean by that? You got kids and stayed at home managing them? U work for free for her in her business? You cook her dinner qhe she is back and was doing all the housework? U probably gor the jackpot and u don't see u are an exception here. Most men after divorce became poorer and out of house and alimony and judicial leeches sucking 20|80k. With such amount just ask your attorney he will be happy to ask as much as pos…
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 02:34 PM
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i know so had anger issues & weekly consultaion to a therapist almost make her normal. Have u tought about putting her in therapy? I bet 100$ things happened to her when she was younger.... She needs to process those things & vomit them to be a better person
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 12:44 PM
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Add to point 6: abused woman with kid can throw you false sexual ### over her kid to push you our of house and jail. Id she already as a tastes a of justice system she knows the srill now. Classi step daddy doing her stepdaughter shower 🚿 a bit too sensual.
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/24 11:53 AM
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Where are u from? what is her income? Does she has any mental issues? addiction? drug? was she ever violent to you including insult? (yep it is considered as violence in most juridictions) it is not the time to move out of the house unles a judge decide so. DO not move out, repeat 20 times. If she is earning more than you as expected do not start working now until divorce is settled, u cold get alimony & child pension. Ask for it, most women in reverse ask for it (around 80%) . if she ask for di…
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 08:45 PM
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but you wrote " She called me from jail and blamed me for her actions , she called twice the second time saying she thought we where in a better place" So she was sent in jail just for trespassing property woo ! U were already divorced when she cam to your house despite her repeeating "her story of the house being her". Was the hosue yours before marriage? or she is completely lunatic?
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 12:58 PM
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How did you manage to get her arrested for domestic violence, considering it's typically men who are accused of this crime, & many times wrongly accused? It's unusual for a woman to be jailed, as judges tend to be more lenient towards them(this was studied). I assume she must have done something very serious withlot of evidence for winning jail time. Can you provide more details about the case?
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 07:28 AM
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Being to helpful and gentle is seen as a weakness not strength bc other can abuse you as well. You are clearly unless mistaken doing way more than her on a daily basis if we count everything. I have 2 children and she is at home and even with cooking. And cleaning she has way more free time than me by a big margin. All were breastfeed and I don't wake up at night bc she can sleep during the day when they sleep while I can't at work. I am out from7am to 7pm working So no way I have even to cook a…
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 07:22 PM
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strangely enough, it was what was recommended by someone & propose to tlet the parent buy a hosue before marriage & rent from them only so in case of divorce the house go back to the parent. Did you mother bought back whatever you had invested in the house to become sole owner or she just complete what was missing & was sole owner?
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 06:10 PM
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you gotta set some clear lines with your ex, especially when it comes to money stuff. No court order means you don't have to pay her rent, legally speaking. Just keep in mind, whatever you guys work out now is just temporary until you can get things sorted through the courts for real. Using the kids as a weaponized leverage in financial discussions definitely croseds into emotional blackmail territory. Her saying "it's a roof over their head" ? That's playing the kid card to manipulate you, no d…
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 07:52 PM
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Totally right, she want to sell it at the Highest price before expiration date (>38 dating pool drop by a lot for women in a stair fashion - this has been studied bc probably menopause could start at that age & men know it unconsciously ) Who has the lowest fear of LOSS controls the relationship. (david deangelo) She probably knows you are the most fearful
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 12:09 PM
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Just a word of advice from someone who's seen the system in action: if you've got proof, FILE IN FIRST. Your attorney is right on the money. He could earn more over you if he lets you stay in the house & fight her & get your 25K for bogus TRO as she said. The FIRST one to file has a HUGE advantage, and I've witnessed it firsthand. I've seen a victim completely change their statement, spewing lies and false accusations, and the accused's attorney was stuck in a tough spot.He said They couldn't ca…
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 09:09 AM
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"and she returned and took me home"--->. Do u mean u were or are living again with her after she cheated on you, am i correct?
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 08:37 AM
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🚨 Marriage is Hazardous to Your Financial Health. Don't Let Dickie🥒 Decide. Don't Let Dickie🥒 Decide.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 08:30 AM
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Shot answer: do NOT sign that . For 300K on average you will lose around 50K + she will get lazier professionally : Details Here's a calculation hardly anyone does before getting married, but it comes from the probabilities we use in games to figure out if a bet is worth taking, based on the expected gain or loss. Let’s imagine this scenario for Divorce rate: 50% Her proposal: <10 y: pay her 50K more than 10y: pay her 10-20% of your investments so 45K (let’s assume 15% of 300k). -->E=(0,5×−50000…
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/24 07:51 AM
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document/backup /save EVERYTHING. ie receipts, texts, emails - the whole nine yards. You never know when you might need to prove what went down in court. So Keep all money talk in writing. Texts or emails are your best friends here. Verbal agreements? Those can bite you in the a### later. Maybe think about hammering out a temporary support agreement. Get it in black and white what you're willing to shell out and for how long. It'll save you from the "but you always used to pay for X" BS further …
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/24 05:18 PM
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She would not have laster a year with me. On ni world I would have admitted violence and throwing stuff arme is for education. Even if I was a POS smoking weeds all day and lazy would not have accepted violence for me or that pos bc it is inappropriate. Only the state can use violence and in self defense. There is not 3rd case remember. Hope u will be better!!! Take care of your kids
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/24 07:08 AM
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How did she got those red marks? She made it on herself right while waiting for the cop. For that violence how much were u punished in court aside divorce?
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/24 07:03 AM
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U should not have said u throw a chair. Of course this is domestic violence regardless of what she did to you. what did u tought? She was lying and if correct was the more violent. U should have lied. U can't play normal rules with someone allow to fight with dirty trick weapon etc unless u are fighting a kid
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/24 07:00 AM
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Look u accepted way to much violence. At yeh first punch I would have filled divorce. Finger broke? I would have gone to er and call the cop on her. She would not be able to deny this broken bone. She installed camera? I would have installed even more camera everywhere of she want to play that and only me could have access to it. You were not earning money so they could choose your phone? I would not have stayed for kids bc it would be too bad for them to watch them and would have tought it woul…
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/24 06:26 AM
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You accepted way to much violence. I would have gone once she left me alone in middle of no where but u accepted that multiple times? Mine took my phone like 7 years ago and was searching in it. I took I back and swear she will never have access again and added a code after that event. Even last week she asked if she can borrow my phone to call someone I say NO like I said u are not allowed to use it since u did that She did said so u are hiding something right? And I said yes contact gogole and…
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/24 06:07 AM
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Classic advice: You need to lift & do cardio man. Find a partner to make you accountable if u lack motivation. It will help you be in shape again & find a new Love, so double win. Exercice has been studied to be as good as antodepressants wtihtout the side effect.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/24 08:35 AM
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yep it is PA. THere is a subreddit for that. She tries to "erase" you. If she has a BF, she probably tell your daughter to call him dad & call you by your name instead. Worst case i saw is step mum adopted the daughter of the alienated mum & remove the real mother & add her as mother on birth certificate LEGALLy !! it is not your fault of your daughter. There is deep psy reason for her as a kid to follow mum to get her love/survival until older enough.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 06:33 PM
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He got it backwards: in many juridicaiton His recording would be &acceptable in cases of domestic violence accusation, not just a straightforward divorce. The typical process would involve: domestic violence accusation leading to her being convicted, and then using that as leverage in the divorce proceedings so the judge give her no or less $$ & child custody. Google silver bullet divorce method.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/24 03:29 PM
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yep DNA whil u can... who knows what she did behing you. Just dont tell her unless confirmed results multiple times
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 04:01 PM
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Try to focus on the + side: Imagine if you were one of the many dad completely erased due to parental alienation. I know several cases where they haven't seen their child for YEARS + faced false accusations. They would give anything to be in your situation, having their child with them all the time. Take care!
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 12:58 PM
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You gotta spill the details on how you actually won, ‘cause in most places, especially Europe, getting cheated on means nothing. Guys still get slammed with alimony, child support, TRO , bogus DV straight into oblivion. Like someone said, most men get screwed. So, what’s up? Did you just luck out with a man-oriented -judge or highly skill attorny, or did you pull off something in court that most guys don’t? Who think we need a new post with more a strategy oriented tone? Thumbs up+ Spill the bea…
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 07:56 AM
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As usual, record ALL interactions. For audio recordings, clearly describe everything she is doing including pronouncing her name to use as identification (as advised by attorney). and if possible, have your oldest or least influenced child present as a witness when you’re with her. Due to the seriousness of the accusations, always have at least 2 recorders in case one fails. Try to capture her on recording explaining why she made false accusations in the past while speaking about another thing t…
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 06:57 AM
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Legally speaking, those pics are probably yours since she sent them willingly. But laws can be weird and they're changing all the time with this kind of stuff. Here's the thing - even if she did try to take you to court, it'd be pretty much impossible for a judge to check if you actually deleted everything. Courts don't have the time or tech skills to dig through all your devices and cloud storage. It would require forensics analysis to really check you deleted them & potentially not copied them…
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 12:32 PM
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* itiss normal and healthy to mourn end of your marriage and the life you had envisioned. Don't try to suppress your emotions. Healing takes time * Write down your thoughts and feelings can help process them & make you feel better * Lift +cardo. Even short walks can be beneficial.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 09:15 AM
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Don't forget to consider ALIMONY. Mostly men have been unfairly affected by this. However, in situations where the roles are reversed, 80% of women request alimony. So, just as she would have asked if the situation were reversed, and as her attorney would have advised her, you should do the same. Child Support + Alimony
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 09:11 AM
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Totally agree. Why would u move our of the house That is a rookie mistake sorry. If you do that her attorney will advise her to drag the divorce as long as possible to get marital support from you probably years and free housing. Only a judge can force you to get out so stay so she make it faster asap si she wonr see you again.
/r/Divorce_Men25/09/24 06:00 AM
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She wonr have full custody since u are more with the child than her. Donr confuse corrélation and causality. Woman get more custody and btw not 100% unless u are a violent man bc they are primate caretaker. In your case she is NOT. Chance are you could have More custody than her bc it already the case and judge want least perurbations for kid so I would threat her to have more custody than her I'd she do not accept my conditions as I know I have my odds than her on child custody choice Don't acc…
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 04:26 PM
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u went alone with ehr after suck risk of TRO. You were either highly confident or after measure in place just in case it goes south(audio recorder or witness). Glad u make it. man !!
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 12:45 PM
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& what happenned? were you accused even when denying? tro? what was the final result of this accusation?
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 12:15 PM
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you made the mistake sorry bc u did not know that "VIolent woman are prone to create fake TRO: up to 70%". U should have go directly to the police officer when she choked you with the kids as witnesses. You left that "time window" that is closed. Bear in mind she will try to brainwashed them if they are young enough( the younger the more brainwashed he will be) so they hate you &dont want to see you & will tell when it is your turn to see them"they dont want to see u, it is not me /not my fault,…
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 12:13 PM
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The discovery process can indeed help level the playing field in custody cases. During it , both parties have the right to request relevant information and evidence from each other. This include: Records of past abuse allegations against your wife, doc from your couples therapy session + Any police reports or medical records related to the incidents you've described & this include Footage from the home security cameras (if recoverable) Document everything: Keep a detailed record of all incidents…
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 08:02 AM
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you are at high risk of false DV & marital rape & the worst of pedo### over your own kids. And with kids if she make you disappear, kids are at risk of parental alienation. Google it as well As advised, she is playing a game of 'judicial breadcrumb trail,' in the sense that she's leaving traces indicating that she has already spoken to her family about these incidents of violence, preparing herself in case there's a lack of formal proof. The evil strategy she is playing is called silver bullet d…
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 07:40 AM
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Selling the house to a friend for way under market value right before the divorce?Most judges aren't gonna look too kindly on that kind of blatant asset-hiding strategy. Selling for $140k when it's worth $560k is a clear attempt to artificially deflate the asset's value.. This strategy is known referred to as "dissipation of marital assets" or "fraudulent conveyance" in legal terms. Judges have several options to address this: "Clawback": court might invalidate the sale or order the property ret…
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 07:29 AM
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She sounds like a real headache lol . Here are some thoughts: A Texas is all about that 50/50 split so Your ex's crazy demands probably WONT fly in court.--->Stand your ground on the 50/50 split. Don't cave to the WILD demands for gas money and rent Document everything. Every text, email, voicemail - save it all. You never know what might come in handy btw. Make sur whatever messages exchange u used with her have some cloud-based backup in case u lose your phone If possible, Let the lawyers do t…
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 08:21 PM
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Vaccines in most school are mandatory less you plan to homeschool the Kid and meaning u won't work. So vaccination is pretty much mandatory as they ask for z specific number of vaccination proof during the registration. and not vaccination could mean in certain juridiction could be qualified as child neglect /violence if the kid caught a disease normally not affecting vaccinated child and suffer from it. If the kid is below 2yo and breastfeeding she will have more custody as usual. Nothing speci…
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 03:03 PM
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Nothing special about her book choice. Could be reasonably helpful. It would have been different if she bought you" how not be a assh#€€ anymore" or "how to cut my narcisism". She probably wanr to be Without you while still wanting you to be fine after divorce. That is not a contradiction
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 02:58 PM
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That was the Best time in your life time to be jobless to minimize alimony and child support if any. You can jump after I don't doubt about it
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 02:53 PM
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Did you slapped her? u have kids?
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 06:27 AM
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She took things apparently & usually with other family male member. YOu did not expected that but it is a very classic move., like jab & uppercut in boxing lol. Lesson learned for the otehrs: one process of divorce is started, you are at high risk of spouse theft so protect your most important personl assest firsr. than Make an inventory of what you have, along with invoices stored somewhere other than at your home, and possibly involve a judicial officer. In most cases, there is generally no th…
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 06:25 AM
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WTF, she earns more & you WONT ask for alimony??? ASk for it. She paid you some money bc she ddont want you to ask for it. IF she was a woman she would have asked for her. Please DOT it in the name of all men 90% who paid it. Fight for YOUR rights. You are way too soft. Check that texas alimony calculator. For a 10yold marriage ,she would paid you 4k/month for 5 years ie 50k/year. Way ore than her small 10k furniture. see https://calculators.law/calculators/maintenance/texas
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 06:11 PM
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⚠Using the same attorney in a divorce might sound cheaper, but usually not a good idea. An attorney can only represent one side to avoid conflicts, and she probably picked him for that exact reason. That is why in some countries it is mandatory that each spouse have their own one. About the 401(k): In Texas, anything earned during the marriage, like a 401(k), is considered community property and up for division. So, she might not fully get how this works or play fool. Her not being able to expla…
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 02:29 PM
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Woman needs to understand that divorce is shortcut to poverty. She wonr be able to have yeh same lifestyle and house while given you at least 30% and u need to rent another place. She is delusional and reality check is coming soon anyway. By full bcystody u mean u don't see them at all? Impossible bless she accused you of violence and pedophilia which could be a risk if she wants full custody during divorce it is very classic move called parent alienation
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 12:42 PM
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You should know that once you move to any woman location you might be stuck there for the next 20 Years more or less. How? He kid with her and u need to stay around to see them. She has the upper hand bc she is next to her parents to help her and not you. I am also teleworking most of the time but need to go in the office twice per week's what is your dream job title? In Europe we don't have 6 figured for remote job but u sont go broke if emergency or cancer or got twins lol
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 11:01 AM
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During tough times, patriarchy is like a cozy spa for women, right? In short feminisms only exist because of petrol & abundance that came with it. Proof: Just throw 10 men and 10 hardcore feminists on a deserted island, cut off all outside contact, and come back a year later. Let's see how much feminism is still thriving, lol They will revert to their most fitted position(men hunting/fighting & female taking care of home/children) & the one unwilling to do so will just starve to death & be remov…
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/24 09:26 AM
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She is buying time so she squeeze out more €¥£$ from you as marital support ad advised by her attorney. Classic move
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 06:39 PM
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it can be worse: my brother got the same thing + marital rape accusation +pedophilia + DV + psy violence. ONly terrorism is missing so far. She did a pretty good job of parental alineation ie they hate him now. He trust no woman as you
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 11:07 AM
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divorce do NOT mean moving out of the house is required. Once he is out she has the upper hand on child custody, free money from him without him, delaying the divorce to milk him out as long as possible as a classic attorney's advice.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 11:05 AM
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Don't fight over dead. Just go to the funeral and than leave asap for whatever reason at least for your kids so u show them that there is no hate after a dead person. Don't do revenge funeral that is low. Or else u learn them that if they hate anyone they can skip funeral and that include yours
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 08:47 AM
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And divorce gets spread out over years as advised by her attorney to milk 🍼 you out as much as possible for marital support
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 08:41 AM
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Why are you moving out of the house.while not yet divorced. Typical mistake. Hope u know why
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 08:39 AM
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Let me guess PTSD you have now bc of false accusation such as rape and or false domestic violence but proba my marital rape
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 09:44 PM
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yep a lot, i already put a link in my post: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/21482790/#:~:text=Legal%20formalism%20holds%20that%20judges%20apply%20legal%20reasons,psychological%2C%20political%2C%20and%20social%20factors%20influence%20judicial%20rulings Criminal court is no exception bc based on human judge that eat & shit & is sometimes tired & wanna go asap in we ;) For your country, just google/bing it to find more
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 11:56 AM
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Are you already divorced or in the process of getting one? Did you move out of your place and leave her there? Are you aware that being in a relationship with woman who has a mental health condition like Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) can sometimes lead to false accusations & restrain order ? Do you already do some exercise, cardio & or weightlifting? If not, it might be a good idea to start, as it can help you cope with that divorce Take care!!
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 08:31 AM
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Yes most men here are in pain and mostly wants post about hoW b*** their ex was in emotional posts. As soon as you start about strategies very few are interested
/r/Divorce_Men20/09/24 05:52 AM
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wtf you are not OP of this topic or did you forgot to use the other account? We are men & dont insult each other. Rookie has been used many times her & without anyone being offended. We hep each other & dont need to use formal language to not hurt your feeling, harsh words have the capacity to add more power to words.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 09:13 PM
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"this had to be done daily" u mean her said so?Did u decide to do that much ? What would have happend if u did not cooked that day or clean the windows & ? Thrown first or a tantrum or insult from her? or u never tried that? You are probaly suffering from anxiety WAY more than me & i am anxious by nature
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 09:11 PM
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At least yours is not THAT crazy. as your accusations were Light. LEvel 1 i will called them. YOu are wrong if you think you cant be accused of violence without evidence. I saw multiple one. She can just hit herself if she is really satanic & doctor wont manage to tel who did that. Judge will just say: " so u think she hurts herself on purpose?" Even with no physical proof at all, & him toally clean & never violent a guy i know almost went to jail.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 08:56 PM
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"The 4+ hours of chores " WTF is that? i was complaining bc of 1h per day but you 4h means probably house cleaning & cooking 2 handmade meals per day + i guess you working full time is that right? if yes, you have part of the guilt to have accepted such level of slavery. Hope you got the lesson & learn to say NO!
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 08:54 PM
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woulld be interested how did u managed to escape false accusation aorund your daughter when it is your guard turn. Just deny them? Did they end her to a doctor to check her of physical trace of 'rape" or probably a psycho who checked if she was lying (psychiatrist can be easily fooled even by a 6yo child, i have seent that) I have a case when a girl could not see her father so was well brainwashed. Hope yours is not a 4/6year old she are quite influenceable & would do anything to still be loved.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 08:51 PM
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indeed a good mental health as no price. But u should not have moved out unless judge decided soo, typical rookie mistake.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 08:43 PM
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with such crazy one, be careful you are very near of "parental alienation" & bogus accusation of DV, rape, pedophilia. Google silver bullet divorce
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 08:41 PM
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Welcome to the Aquarium tank 🐟! You’ll try to warn the younger wild fish, 'Don’t take the bait 🎣! That shiny hook ain't what it seems!' But They bite anyway bc dickie is in charge & not 🧠. Rince & repeat for ever generation.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 08:36 PM
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may i ask what is your calculor (link to a website?) i want to compare it to ours in Europe.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 08:33 PM
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Combined both bc my brothers 'ex combined both lazy (housewife with kids ALL day in school, no dinner ) & crazy (bogus DV, rape ...) no joke
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 08:28 PM
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sad thing u are in. I have access to both parent bank account & could empty it in a single action.µI would trust them with my account the same way. My dad trust me with his check when i need to get a free load from him& told me to write it myself upon agreement on the number.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 04:42 PM
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Leaving the house without a court order is a typical rookie mistake. She, as advised by her attorney, gonna drag this divorce out as long as possible to squeeze as much support from you as she can, while u have to pay for your own place Children custody:Plus, now that you’ve left, it sets a precedent where she might be able to argue for more time with the kids. On top of that, she can basically clear out the house whenever she wants and move stuff to her new place with help from her brother or d…
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 01:50 PM
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depends where do u live i guess as we wont have a planet state, anyway but i dont believe that u could provide a 25y loan to a 70s. How about someone around 95yo, can he get a 30yo loan? Does not make sense. Where do you live? In Europe, age is a risk factor for bank, the older you are above a age, the more expensive IF allowed "It is illegal to consider their age?"-->BS Basic google: Is there a maximum age limit on applying for a loan? Yes – many lenders state that the maximum age limit on pers…
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 12:56 PM
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yes but marrirage & motorcycle represent certains risk that can be mitigated by varous ways: helmet, prenup for marriage, not getting married etc. It is just basic risk analysis, & risk analysis do not need to know if u have emotions or not with the other one.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 12:28 PM
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this other wont because that would mean renting 2 houses lol just read OP advice back
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 12:23 PM
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you are deeply wrong & never took a loan or search anything around it. Would you provide a 10yo loan to a guy that is 85 years old ? They care about age not because they care about getting their money back. The more older you are the more expensive is on average a loan if accepted bas individuals near retirement, their income may decrease, and their ability to repay debtsbecomes more uncertain. Banks also take remaining life expectancy into consideration. while it is not impossible for older ind…
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 12:21 PM
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"have them make a will gifting the house to charity or sibling". Why not just you or does will make it suspicious?
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 10:18 AM
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really? in which country or state if it is in USA?
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 10:02 AM
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indeeed, better pay an attorney 1K before saying "I do" instead of losing 200K 10 years later/. Probably one of the BEST ROI of a lifetime.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 10:01 AM
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it might be a terrible plan. Courts aren't stupid. They'll see through this arrangement real quick. Judges hate sneaky financial tricks and might punish you for it. Even gifts before marriage can become marital property if used during marriage: if consistently used for the benefit of the marriage, courts may view it as having been "transmuted" into marital property. So Courts might ignore the whole setup and divide the asset anyway. And Overpaying rent raises red flags with tax authorities.Your …
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 09:57 AM
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"it is sad to put a belt before driving.I am confident that if someone is doing , most likely they will into accident" 50% of marriage end up in divorce. In some countries such as portugal & luxembourg it is up to 80%, So in any basic risk analysis of any framework will give you this: Asset: Marriage -probability of divorce : HIGH -impact: HIGH -severity: probability x impact--->HIGH ---> you need to put controls to reduce such HIGH risk to medium minimum, ie prenups et or if du dont accept such…
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 09:39 AM
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foe of my foe my friend. Wors case scenario i have seen is that THEY coordinate to file a complaint against you for a domestic violence or rape attack. or one does it & then she just mentioned your wife or wife mentionn GF that testify it was true & then boom. & that goes both side: DO not tell any GF who is your wife & a way to communicate with her
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 08:26 PM
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Lesson learned for the others: NEVER move to HER state if you have KIDS UNLESS you are willing to stay there even after divorce for next 10/20 years to see them, as she could pull out the Divorce card & you could be blocked in that State to see them or move out &spend it on gas. She could tell you that her parents could help you raise the kid to entice you to move there. Fair point but could be risky. One middle ground solution could be a state in between yours & hers
/r/Divorce_Men17/09/24 10:16 AM
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How did u manage to get NO alimony with a SAHM? Did u prove she could have worked & stay that way on purpose? I am in your case (no divorce but i need to prepare for alimony if that hapens) & a SAHM I am interested how did that protective order failed & how did u overcome. Can u create a longer post?
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 07:45 AM
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It could have been worse: accusing you of pedophilia & brainwashing them about that if young enough, they believe it (i saw areal case).An evil attorney advise her to execute the Silver Bullet Divorce (it is called that way, gogole it). Be careful of parental alienation form her. In France, they consider suicidal tought as a red flag for potentially violent behavior, with other factors like her controlling her email and phone, substance abuse, mental-relatred medicationow did she manipulate you …
/r/Divorce_Men16/09/24 07:40 AM
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u asked a question so u got a reply , i did not contacted you out of the blue. Ii did not "profile" you by reading previous message, dont have that much time bro.
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/24 09:21 AM
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my brother's wife is as dumb as your ex. She thought that getting divorced meant they'd split the house price 50/50, not realizing that the bank gets the first cut since they still owe $100K on the mortgage. To top it off, she even tried to get him jailed, thinking the insurance would cover the mortgage if her husband got locked up because she's a stay-at-home wife. Now he bank tries to get the hosue back as nobody is paying the credit. She will get 0 from it & blacklisted by the bank.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 10:58 PM
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You remind me of my worst previous self. The YES yes man,' introverted , anxious but still spending large sums of money in wedding to not say NO instead of investing in more practical things like a house or furniture. I only spent a maximum of $3K on my wedding. I hope you take this as a lesson—don't stay with someone just out of respect. Consider yourself lucky you don't have kids, or you'd be stuck saying 'yes' suffering for the next 30 years just for your kid and facing a divorce in your 50s …
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 10:54 PM
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She tried to erased you & do parental alienation aka brainwashe your daughter so she will even refuse to come to your place at some pint. you will have better advices here: See https://www.reddit.com/r/ParentalAlienation/
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/24 10:46 PM
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in short, he advise you to amass more money for a new nest & forget a bit previous one without considering that probability of divorce is higher for new marriage & even more for a 3rd , 4th... Do not listen to him,Your daughter sees you as HER HERO right now or i hope so. Cherish that - the teen years when she'll naturally want more independence so you will have more free time. Prioritize your relationship with her; it's irreplaceable.. You know what is a the most complaint of men in their old a…
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 07:21 PM
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They are young & influenceable. This may change when they grow older. Keep a detailed record of all incidents, communications, and attempts to see your children. This can be valuable evidence if legal action becomes necessary & also a legacy for your children that may read the whole story when older. In 10 years from now, your ex will only have vague memory of everything that happened while you will present to the kids details with date, proof, message screenshot, you trying to see them & her re…
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 07:14 PM
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That is a tough one. Very similar to another case with kids abusing+ marital rape+physical violence. Only terrorism accusation is missing. In some jurisdictions, there are legal measures you can take when a spouse is jeopardizing the family's finances. Financial protection: You may be able to petition the court to restrict your wife's ability to incur further debt or make major financial decisions that affect the family. In cases of mental illness &/or proveen financial irresponsibility, you mig…
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 07:10 PM
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Do not meet with her without recording everything or have witnesses as they will trap you—it might be your only defense in case of false accusations, especially if no witnesses are around. From now on, stay 10 feet away from her to avoid any new bogus DV. More tips how to handle women with mental issues during divorce here
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 07:01 PM
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"My teens want nothing to do with her and are happy living with me" I am a man, but For god sake, Do not confort them into that attitude. ON extrem spectrum it goes into parental alienation. She has cheated on you, not on them. She is still their mother. It is gonna backfire on you as kids need both parent even if it means seeing one broken once in a while. A parent erased is a negative outcome for the whole family, everybody lose, there is no winner.
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/24 06:56 PM
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Definitively but only in a marriage so you can claim alimony in case of divorce (50,% chance minimum this Would happen). In any case y can't be our it the market totally bcyou will be poor in case of divorce as any typical housewife unless partner is quite rich
/r/MensRights12/09/24 04:29 PM
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If you don't file the protection order, you're at high risk of bogus domestice violence accusations, and whoever files first is usually seen as the victim. Complaining after she files it, claiming she's the aggressor, will likely be dismissed as a vendetta unless u have good proof. Plus, as a man, justce might not take your concerns seriously. Courts tend to be lenient with women, and a protection order could at least require her to attend anger management therapy. Also u need to have rppof she …
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 04:26 PM
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Since you’ve saved more, document your savings history, especially if some of it predates the marriage. Any premarital assets could be considered separate property, so this might protect some of your savings
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 12:53 PM
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Once you move out of the house, your wife (or her lawyer) could use that move to their advantage. By leaving, you allow this: Child custody:might unintentionally set a precedent where she claims primary custody of the child because she's still living with them. Lawyers can use this to argue that she should get more time with the child, which can affect your custody rights in the long term. Extended Spouse support: Additionally, moving out could lead to the court requiring you to pay spousal supp…
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 12:46 PM
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or just dont marry legally but only religiously if needed unless she makes as much as you. "U do not sign a contract when one benefits from breaking it", someone said once. Most other contract have a penalty when breaking it. The issue is the same in all westerns countries including Europe where i am from. Putting trusts including house wont make you escape bogus restraint order if married. It is her house anyway until divorce in most countries if she received all her paper there & cann prove it…
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 12:04 PM
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4,For USA ONLY: Know the Laws in Your State: Research the specific divorce and domestic violence laws in your state (e.g., realworlddivorce.com) to understand how the system works and to filter out bad advice. Be aware of the domestic violence parallel track and how it could impact your case. 5. Mediation If she’s all over the place with her emotions, and you can’t have a rational conversation, consider mediation. It’s a lot cheaper than battling it out in court ( on average 20/30K & more in cas…
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 07:35 AM
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sounds like you’re in the thick of a really tough situation: 0. Mental Issues First thing first, you're at serious risk of a false domestic violence accusation, especially now that you've dropped the D-word. A lot of lawyers (aka satanic attorneys) love to suggest the Silver Bullet Divorce method (google it) as a move in cases like yours & would fit perfectly her already framing situations. You need to be prepared. If you haven’t already, get the book Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorci…
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 07:35 AM
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i know that point. I can be still honest & wrong. Psychology is around understand what motivates behavior X & Y, not just asking questions around X & Y even to anonymous honest person. At best they will be honest, but being honest do not equal to being right. Hope you the best anyway bro
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 06:45 AM
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Stop asking advices from women. Being a women do not give her more insight on how to find one & reply to psychological women related questions. AT bets they will just brainwashed you. Psychology research do not ask people around how do they behave if X & Y stimulus appear, they put them X & Y & study them. Same when asking a man for man behavior unless it is very instinct related.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 06:35 AM
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I totally agree with you. A woman will NOT be like she is leaving in her 3rd world country when moving in a top 5 one UNLESS she is imported in a subculture & cant upgrade that quickly & will have peer pressure from the local community to be like in her home country. . You cant have both. I know a case where a woman from a developing country went from taking care of her husband's every need, like cleaning his feet after work, to falsely accusing him of domestic violence when he wanted a divorce.…
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/24 06:26 AM
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Dont play that game, it may backfires hard if caught.However, as long as you were not in divorce process, nothing block you spending more of it if on yourself it is within normal range.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 12:12 PM
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Garage is better than a car & cheaper (usually <100$/month in most countries) Hope it gets better.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 12:09 PM
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This approach is finetuned to work in high-conflict cases: Record Every Interaction: Never meet her again without recording the conversation. False domestic violence accusations could just be the beginning. The Silver method (Google it) in divorce cases can lead to even more severe allegations such as marital rape or pedophilia. The latter with usual parental alienation (google it) could result in losing access to your kids for years while still paying for them. Smartwatch for Discreet Recording…
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/24 09:10 PM
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You should not have told her she is being recorded. In war, belligerent do not disclose their weapons. It is just a matter of time for her to find a blind spot to throw you bogus DV. STAY AWAY FROM HER BY 10 FEET until this is clarified. By repeatedly poking you in the back harder and harder, she WANTS a violent reaction of you to call the cops. Sorry for being blunt, but how cant you see that & be that naive? SOMEONE advise her to do so to get you out of sight for a while. You are a on very tig…
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 07:30 AM
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Even after getting one it is not like in USA. U can't have it on you like u can in USA in your back pocket for most citizens. Transport is forbidden unless in a box and emptied or not usable . At best can be used at home if attacked
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/24 02:02 PM
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Mental issues BPD means you are at RISK of false domestic violence accusationespecially once she knows you want to divorce. Satanic attorney might advice her to do so. Details on how to protect you are below. Read the book Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Worst case scenario: you are accused of domestic violence, financial violence, marital rape & pedophilia if kids. (yep i saw al of those ones AT ONCE a single innocent …
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/24 08:10 AM
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Are u already divorced?
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/24 08:09 AM
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Sure. Lot of your comments are for usa. I am from d'Europe where firearms posession are prohibited for most citizens. For the never leave the house I agree unless u have high risk of domestic violence accusation as he had. A friend tried that move despites my recommendation and end up with even more fake DV accusafions while being there for a week and finally left the house. He saved his ass only bc there was a friend as a witness. But friend has a life. 2.shared attorney: depend on your state b…
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/24 06:46 AM
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This approach is finetuned to work in high-conflict cases: Record Every Interaction: Never meet her again without recording the conversation. False domestic violence accusations could just be the beginning. The Silver method (Google it) in divorce cases can lead to even more severe allegations such as marital rape or pedophilia. The latter with usual parental alienation (google it) could result in losing access to your kids for years while still paying for them. Smartwatch for Discreet Recording…
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 09:08 PM
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i also know old people in their 80s smoking cigarettes or or some 45yo woman have a healthy baby or someone has never been in her hospital in his whole life in 3rd world country, it just still do not hide the fact that smoking reduced lifespan on a population level. and that 2nd & 3rd marriage is more likely to fail. if you think those stats are negative it is more likely u dont want the truth but things that match your feeling to be honest.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 02:04 PM
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You should be aware that the likelihood of divorce increases with each subsequent marriage—2dn marriages have a higher divorce rate than first marriages, and the pattern continues for third and fourth marriages. This has been studied extensively. So, the risk of your relationship breaking apart is naturally higher. I tought as a man & expericenced one you should no intuitively that is just the so called Love is jut a evolutionnary mechanism designed to make you bond & have kids/spead your DNA & …
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 09:31 AM
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When a woman is considering divorce openly, it is already too late for you as she moved mentally on that zone before you knewit. Here are some common warning signs: Emotional Withdrawal: She may become emotionally distant, less affectionate, Decreased sex Intimacy: Lack of Interest in Future Plans: indifferent about future milestones (like vacations, home improvements, etc.), Spending More Time Away: with friends, family, or even at work, and less time with you, Secretive Behavior: such as hidin…
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 09:17 AM
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Only 10% because google: "More than 90 percent of divorce cases settle prior to trial—either by one spouse offering a settlement that the other accepts, or at mediation. "
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 03:24 PM
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We &re OP may not be from USA , i am not from USA bu Europe & in most western countries, in case of violence you can record. Proof: extreme case, if someone is killing/kidnapping another person, do u really think u need his approval to record his act or will even get it & the judge will ask you if u got his permission to record such agression ;D
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 02:38 PM
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Divorce + mental health issue in woman--->High risk of bogus domestic violence accusation. NEVER met her without recording the audio. (dont ask her permission)
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 12:06 PM
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Trauma bonding occurs when an abuser alternates between abusive and loving behavior, creating a powerful emotional bond with the victim. This bond is reinforced by the highs and lows of the relationship—the brief moments of affection or kindness can feel incredibly intense and meaningful after periods of abuse. The woman you described suggests she may be struggling with several psychological issues:Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) or Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) & potential Child…
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 09:28 PM
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Divorce + mental health issue in woman--->High risk of bogus domestic violence accusation. NEVER met her without recording the audio. (dont ask her permission)
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 09:18 PM
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About those points : 4.install cameras. Before that make sure no cameras is installed as well. Use a port s canner app to find any connected devices to you WiFi. If you find one she is already thinking about trapping you. Recorder: best one is the wrist one. Nobody suspect a wrist to record and u will always have it on you. Best one i tried is to watch mobvoi to watch and good for sport recording. High quality sound. You can record with pressing just a button. Record all interactions once she kn…
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 05:57 PM
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how I’d approach it: 1. Financial : Potential Gain: If you’re looking at an additional $100-300k from a contested split, it’s significant money, but it's a smaller percentage (2-6%) of a $5M . Legal Fees: might eat into a substantial portion of that potential gain. Make sure to get a clear estimate from your lawyer on what the expected costs might be. 2. Psycho Costs: Stress and Well-Being: Contested divorces are stressful, often more so than amicable ones. If you have children, the stress and c…
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/24 03:16 PM
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And have a second pair of all's keys away and if car is shared a hidden tracker . Very classic to have the car disappear as ir is not theft during marriage. And she may try to take sell it to a friend for a very low price and get it back later. Also move way all credit card and block joint account and check payment.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/24 04:43 PM
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She won't leave why would she? Even if the house is on your name most woke countries would consider her as a legitimate inhabitant and adultery is not enough to throw her out of the house. This is not saudia Arabia or Afghanistan. Only a court order or common agreement will make her leave. Don't try this as it could back fire on you. Yes sure record and audio as well you never as video record as second measure. U are at risk of bogus domestic violence accusation so if she come near you step 10 m…
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/24 04:39 PM
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Just dont leave the place to her like typical 101 men error unless u are at high risk of bogus domestic violence accusation. If u do not understand why, just ask & wil will explain
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/24 10:44 AM
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typical move before divorce & marital theft.. IS it your house/apartment or common to both of you?
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/24 10:43 AM
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Lock down your accounts and personal info" means taking steps to secure your financial and personal information to prevent unauthorized access or misuse. This includes: Changing Passwords: Update passwords for your online accounts and ensure they are strong and unique. Monitoring Accounts: Regularly check your bank accounts, credit reports, and other financial statements for unusual activity. Protecting Personal Information: Be cautious about sharing personal information and consider using priva…
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/24 10:39 AM
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Common mistake #101 that men make during divorce: If you move out, her attorney will advise her to drag out the process for as long as possible, potentially for years, to maximize financial support from you, as required during the marriage while u have to pay your own place. If you remain, they'll have to compensate for that strategy while continuing to support you, making it less appealing to prolong it. AS many said, u are at high risk of false accusation& especially more if she has mental iss…
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/24 10:59 AM
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let's break down what your soon-to-be-ex might be cooking up: Stalling for time: She could be dragging her feet to: - Score a better job or bonus - Squirrel away some cash or assets - Make her custody situation look more permanent Gunning for full custody: - That "safety concerns" Bs Classic move to set up a sole custody play. - Watch out, she might be building a case to make you look bad. Playing hide and seek with money: - If she's being sketchy about finances, she might be hiding stuff. - Kee…
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/24 06:47 PM
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Have a proof of everything in the house store online and pic of every important item in their place. U are at risk of her emptying it with her dad or brother once u come back from work. A very classic move and theft is not recognized when married but if u have proof of it she needs to pay back half of it or all of it was yours. same thing for your car if shared: put a hidden tracker on it and have a spare key at a hidden place outside of your house Change all the credentials she may know: Amazon…
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/24 06:19 PM
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Google divorce men tips and divorce men common mistakes but here is my shortlist: * Lift weight and do cardio. It is either this or depression pill at some point Don't leave the fucking house unless u plan to pay her marital support for years bc she got your $ without u or are at high risk do being falsely accused. While staying she will try asap to move away from u If she has mental issues record everything without consent bc that might be your only defence in case of fake domestic violence acc…
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/24 06:16 PM
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Here they says they the same thing but at divorce of you have proof she took it thenshe needs to pay back half of it. But u need proof is pictures etc. You are probably from USA or nearby while u am commenting from a non English speaking country in Europe but it ia sad that those vicious tactics are the same on all western countries. We have give up some up on the altar of femoninsim to the point that lof of women are just crushing men in All aspects. It is like seeing Rome falling in real time.…
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/24 05:23 PM
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Yes I knew a woman that did a variation of your storage unit but use the man as camel 🐪 transportation. She said they have too many things and could use he parent basement. She said before they were in trouble. He helped moved them but never saw them again.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/24 04:45 PM
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can u tell me more? u went house of the hosue & than refuse to let you come back while u paid for all?
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/24 07:04 AM
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Imagine that she got 2 alimony for lifetime support from 2 different man: you and the new guy. I saw such a case lol. Indeed she should have more money bc she give you her best life years and that has no price!!!! :)
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/24 12:03 AM
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yes dont move out . She could change the locks & legnthen the divorce process to squeez out as much possible out of you or worst case sue for domestic violence & have it for years alone.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/24 10:30 PM
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⚠️WARNING:A common mistake men make during divorce is leaving the house. This can lead to a drawn-out divorce process, with the wife extending it to maximize financial support, while you pays for both a new place to live and continues to cover the mortgage/rent of the house. So stay in the home to speed up the divorce process, but be cautious, as she might falsely accuse you of domestic violence to gain an advantage. To protect yourself, consider using a phone or watch to record any questionable…
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/24 10:22 PM
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Be careful depending on country or state even if u are not married and have issues after a while with gf she can or may stay in the house and pushing you out of it. Check laws of your state . Example she accused you of domestic violence and you will.be out of it in no time
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/24 12:27 PM
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U made the typical mistake: getting out of the house without court order and then won't let you back and push back as fare as possible the divorce date u will support her
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/24 12:25 PM
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If I had to do it all over again (I'm in my 40s with kids), here's what I've learned: As a lawyer said, marriage is a human technology , like cars, glasses, or ovens, but it's a flawed one where 75% of couples want out: 50% end in divorce Of the other 50%, half(so 25%) stay because of the house/kids --> so that's why 75% If any car company had even a 1% defect rate, they'd recall all cars. Yet, we accept a 50% failure rate in marriage without much complaint about this broken system. In most West…
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/24 09:07 AM
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You said " Sometimes I want to write down every word that’s been spoken throughout this two year ordeal, every text message, every lie, every false allegation. Every half truth. Every opinion. Every action that she’s done. And then explain my version to every single one of those things. From the smallest detail to the most complicated. .. very own children are right in the middle of this and believe every viewpoint their mom gives" Why dont you do it ? Maintain a detailed journal with timestamp …
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/24 08:49 AM
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no joke but the option c)tried to push her down the stairs was select by a 40 yo woman here in Europe against her own husband after 6 month of marriage & now she can live for free in his house & even claim it & forbid him to enter even after divorce but without kid as she had none.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/24 08:36 AM
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Yes be VERY CAREFUL of false accusation. I would also recommend to record every interaction with her if she is violent or lies in audio & keep them for 1 year/2 years. They may come luck at some point & may save you from false accusations & you out of your own house for YEARS until it is settled
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/24 08:32 AM
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Yes, there are even videos about a woman in her mid-20s or early 30s discussing this on YouTube & now with her father. My brother is dealing with a similar situation. As a child of divorced parents who didn't experience parental alienation but was angry with my father false accusation/lies, I believe that young adults will eventually look at all the legal documents and form/r their own opinions. So I've advised my brother to scan everything into a cloud folder and keep a detailed journal of ever…
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/24 08:27 AM
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Moving out is a top 10 mistake men during divorce. Unless u are afraid of false accusation. If u earn more than her attorney will tell her drag the divorce as long as possible and have your money support her until divorce .On the contrary if u stay at home she will be enticed to get out of the situation and divorce asap
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 10:03 PM
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The book is available as a free epub file...., which means you can read it digitally on your phone. The first thing it emphasizes repeatedly is: Do not tell her she has a mental issue like BP or similar, as it will backfire both in real life and in court. You need to record her tantrums & act of violence & learn that violence is not just physical one in most western countries. If she is suspicious of your phone, consider using a Wear OS wristwatch with a built-in recorder, as no one is likely to…
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 01:36 PM
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So, this is your second marriage. I understand better now the sentence about "My son loves me quite a lot, but he loves his mother too, maybe slightly less," so you have no children with your current wife. That's a VERY different situation. Statistics show that people in second marriages have a divorce rate of 67 percent, and it increases to 73 percent for 3rd one if you're still searching for the perfect Diamond after her Personally, I don't expect my wife to be my friend. We've become too indi…
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 10:36 AM
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In short, NO. You probably have the least problematic situation I've read about in this forum. Sorry to sounds harsh, It seems you have a female romantic view of what marriage should be, especially when it comes to raising a family. She appears to have her own money, there’s no indication she's lazy, no cheating, and you have separate accounts & she contribute as equal one which is not the average situation. I know a dozen of men who would pay to have your situation & swap with their situation. …
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 06:53 AM
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I highly recommend reading "Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder" to avoid common traps during a divorce. In short, a major risk you face is the possibility of false domestic violence or child abuse accusations. The tricky part is that you might think, "No, that's not her personality; she'll think about the kids first blabla." However, the book explains that during a divorce, some of them can undergo a transformation, and hus…
/r/Divorce_Men25/06/24 06:33 AM
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Even normal SMS could be twisted against you: I sent a SMS to the wife of my brother , written in a very formal & polite manner for reconciliation without reference to her complaint, and she presented it as a form of unbearable pressure to withdraw her legal complaint during court & they talked about it during 5 minutes as if it was a death threat. Conclusion: Do not communicate with the so called "victim" & her family/friends unless absolutely necessary as it can backfire
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/24 02:08 PM
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How old are you? i was also a weakling & was anxious for nothing but i change. so please go & threat your anxiety but even without money, i can easily guess you dont lift way or do any meaningful sport. So to feel better & less p### go run, bike or search on youtube home exercise & ideally do it with a buddy & try to beat your own record on same video eg: day 1: 5mn without stop, Day 3: 10mn without stopping etc. That is free DONt kill yourself bc that would be a git for her: u wont see anymore …
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 06:58 PM
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textbook Domestic violence. If you are too passive & not have proof record of what she did to you, she could accused your of being the one violence because you are the man & man are supposed to be the violent.... Total control of finance? Stop being a p### especially fi you earn your own money. You are not without blames. You seem VERY anxious, & a personality that fits in very well in combination with an abusive one. * Treat your anxiety * Record everything around abuse (police record, email to…
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 08:45 AM
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Horrible to read, i had to chatGpt it to make it readable. ANyway, her ex is doing parent alienation as even her daughter hate him nw. Search it there is lot of documentation around it
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 08:38 AM
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very classic. Search youtube for silver bullet divorce. She was advised to do so so she gets as much money as possible out of you AND you will never see your kid again.
/r/Divorce_Men10/06/24 08:34 AM
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or provide whatever services she used to provide to you expect sexual intercourse of course :D
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/24 06:27 AM
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in France no, in case you have been accused of violence towards your wife & children, even without proof or physical injuries your parental authority is removed until proven innocent. Meanwhile, if they are small kids, she can brainwash them aka parent alienation.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 06:06 PM
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they are gullible & young as I was. Ignorance is a financial disaster
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 06:01 PM
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There is always worse: A family member faced the same false allegations, along with accusations of domestic violence and child abuse despite 0 proof & lot of lies but apparently a "victim" can spread lot of lies without require to prove them. He no longer has any parental authority, hasn't seen them in a year, and was thrown out of his house in a single night. The guy is so vengeful that he stopped paying the mortgage and is attempting to destroy his own house repair done last year to lower its …
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 01:22 PM
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Make sure you record it everything before even entering when coming back , opening the dorr etc & even bring witnesses such in case she invents fake violence towards her in unlikely case she comes bac when you are there or she said you damaged the property on purpose. That would be the next logical step based on what you said about her.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/24 08:33 AM
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Putting to assets held under your mother's name, particularly in the unfortunate event of her passing, raises questions about inheritance (brother?sister will take their share) + tax implications
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/24 07:55 AM
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My brother faced a similar issue and was even accused of s### abuse towards her(marital rape) & the children, physical violence her/children without any evidence. That is textbook attacks during very high conflictive divorce. So the next phase of accusations could be even more severe. Also a logical step for someone with such mental instability is Parental Alienation aka brainwashing the kids against you—look it up. I highly advise you to: Wear a police-like camera every time you go out, in case…
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/24 07:17 AM
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