Here’s some background context. I (29M) and my wife (29F) have been together for 10 years, married for 3. We have two kids, a 2.5 and 1 year old. We had a quick shotgun wedding in 2020 because she thought she going to lose her dad and she wanted him to have the experience being his oldest daughter. At the time I was all for it because I loved her and didn’t mind having a small wedding. We got pregnant not too long after that as well. This is where everything started to change.

After our first child was born (2021) she started having depression throughout the pregnancy which was really hard on her. Said she felt like she was getting married and having kids for everyone else except herself. Then she found out that her parents had an open marriage and everything changed for the worse. We got into counseling and she got on meds for her depression. Everything was fine for a while. Then in early 2023 she did lose her dad. Her mom’s true colors came out (she’s a psycho) and was unsupportive to her and our kids. Her finances are terrible because they run a small family business but after they lost her dad no one wanted to help her anymore.

Fast forward to Christmas/ New Years, she hates being around everyone, my family included. She despises being around our kids. Always comments about getting rid of them or giving them away. Comments almost daily about how she regrets having kids and getting married. Mentioned divorce a handful of times these past few days.

I’m just at a lost of what to do at this point. We don’t have any major assets together as we rent and our finances are separate since I take care of majority of the bills. My major concern is my kids. If I were to go down this road I would go for full custody. She has mentioned that she doesn’t want them when we argue but when it comes to divorce I don’t know how she’ll act. Has anyone been through a similar situation?