Need Advice

Immediate-Story2562 · 2026-02-08T23:28:44+00:00

How old are your kids? If they are old enough to be influenced by their mother then they might also be old enough to understand your reason for leaving the marriage.
Maybe have a look at the divorce_woman reddit threads and see if they worried what their ex husbands thought about having a new partner and how it will influence the kids. I bet you most of them does not give a damn once custody is locked in or even before it is.

dday_throwaway3 · 2026-02-08T21:50:43+00:00

> Recently my GF and I have been having issues that steam from her wanting more from the relationship

What do *you* want? That's what matters. Your girlfriend isn't one in a million. She's one of a million. If your girlfriend is not in lock step with you, find someone else who is.

muscularmusician · 2026-02-08T19:17:31+00:00

To be blunt, you F'd around, and now you are in the Find Out stage. These are the consequences of your actions. You cheated on your wife which lead to divorce. And now want your kids to be ok with the entire scenario, and you, and the women you left their mother for, once they find out what you did. You want your cake and to eat it to. Should have thought about the impact your choices would have on the relationship you have with your kids before cheating on their mother...
You can sugar coat things. You can lie to them about the reasons you did what you did. Or, you can tell them the truth. That all depends on what kind of man/father you want to be. How you handle this will have lasting affects on your relationship with your kids. If you lie to them now, they will likely find out the truth later, and that lie could fully burn your relationship with then forever. The relationship with this new women may be short lived, or could last years, but, you have your kids forever, regardless of how you play this.

Title	Need Advice
Author	Quiet_Score6240
Upvotes	1
Comments	5
Date	February 8, 2026 4:59 PM UTC (5 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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